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Yeah yeah, I'm a huge yuppie who thinks cash bars are tacky and that having a wedding website in freaking 2015 is wildly acceptable. I'll own it.
Upper middle class is hard huh? I guess people that aren't loaded shouldn't have weddings and those that are older and computer illiterate or just too poor to afford it at home shouldn't go to weddings.
Yeah yeah, I'm a huge yuppie who thinks cash bars are tacky and that having a wedding website in freaking 2015 is wildly acceptable. I'll own it.
I don't think that implying that everyone should have internet because it's not 1997 and that wedding websites in 2015 are wildly acceptable are even close to being the same thing.
I have plenty of relatives that did not ever look at my wedding website for various reasons (age being the main one).
I just had to google what a dollar dance is. Sorry, that seriously icks me out. Paying to dance with the bride?
I've never been to a wedding with one, but my understanding is that it's culturally accepted (or maybe even expected) in some parts of the country. I, however, don't bring cash to weddings, because you damn well better not have a cash bar.
It's popular in Wisconsin and Midwest. It can be fun. Also, we provided wine, soda and beer at our wedding. Mixed drinks you pay for. This is pretty standard in Wisconsin. So if you want vodka you have to pay. (Everyone in wedding party had free alcohol no matter what though)
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I rarely look at wedding websites. If we're close, I know how you guys met. I don't need to know the names of everyone in your bridal party unless there's a test. (Is there a test?) The location and time should be on the invitation, so we're covered.
Unless it's a destination wedding or a wedding where I know there's going to be a hotel room block for people driving in from further away and I need that information, meh.
Also, @emilie818, you can tell my 97 year old great aunt how to get to our wedding website. Have fun with that.
Oh lordy. The wedding website is for the vast majority of the wedding guests. These days, the internet is generally the most convenient way for people to access information. If most of your wedding guests don't use the internet, don't have a wedding website. And if your nana/mom/great aunt/other non-computer-user guest doesn't use the internet, there's always the phone. They'd love to hear from you anyway.
Another FFFC- and feel free to flame- I don't think that specifying what you'd like for wedding gifts is tacky. Gift giving is part of the whole ordeal now (has anyone ever not brought a gift?). The gap between the act of gifting and the taboo of **gasp** telling someone what you might like or appreciate seems outdated.
There will always be someone willing to push it to the edge, but I don't think that including registries or asking for cash is rude or presumptuous. I think it makes things easier and less stressful all around.
We had 80 people at our wedding. Twenty gave us gifts.
We didn't care, but to your comment of whether there really are people who don't gift? The answer is yes.
I don't think that implying that everyone should have internet because it's not 1997 and that wedding websites in 2015 are wildly acceptable are even close to being the same thing.
I have plenty of relatives that did not ever look at my wedding website for various reasons (age being the main one).
I'm just stating the fact that most people do have internet, and that it's not exotic to have a wedding website! It's not! And most people do have access to the internet, via phones or via computer. I don't think I'm really going out on a limb here.
I don't think the word "most" means what you think it means.
Maybe most people you know have internet and access to it via phones or computer, but most people, like, in the world...do not. Maybe switch to "many." Or maybe widen the world view just a smidge.
I don't think that implying that everyone should have internet because it's not 1997 and that wedding websites in 2015 are wildly acceptable are even close to being the same thing.
I have plenty of relatives that did not ever look at my wedding website for various reasons (age being the main one).
I'm just stating the fact that most people do have internet, and that it's not exotic to have a wedding website! It's not! And most people do have access to the internet, via phones or via computer. I don't think I'm really going out on a limb here.
You really are. Just because everyone does where you live doesn't mean that isn't true everywhere.
30% of people don't have broadband at home. 20% don't have any internet at home. In some places it's as high as 40%.
I don't think the word "most" means what you think it means.
Maybe most people you know have internet and access to it via phones or computer, but most people, like, in the world...do not. Maybe switch to "many." Or maybe widen the world view just a smidge.
Dude, I'm not talking about the world. We were generally talking about weddings in our sphere, in the western world, where gift registries and dollar dances are of relevance.
I'm just stating the fact that most people do have internet, and that it's not exotic to have a wedding website! It's not! And most people do have access to the internet, via phones or via computer. I don't think I'm really going out on a limb here.
You really are. Just because everyone does where you live doesn't mean that isn't true everywhere.
30% of people don't have broadband at home. 20% don't have any internet at home. In some places it's as high as 40%.
Again- privilege.
This is three weeks in a row and it's getting absurd.
Dude, I'm not talking about the world. We were generally talking about weddings in our sphere, in the western world, where gift registries and dollar dances are of relevance.
So are we genius.
Now you've made us a "we." See what you've done?!?!?!?!?!
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MH insisted on a dollar dance. I had never heard of it and thought it was weird. But his family loved it, I guess it was a tradition on their side, and we ended up with a lot of cash for the honeymoon.
DHs family insisted we do a dollar dance. I think they're tacky. And to top it off, I stood there awkwardly with no one to dance with for a long time until my dad finally came and danced with me. I think people didn't know what was going on because our DJ sucked but still it was awkward.
MH insisted on a dollar dance. I had never heard of it and thought it was weird. But his family loved it, I guess it was a tradition on their side, and we ended up with a lot of cash for the honeymoon.
DHs family insisted we do a dollar dance. I think they're tacky. And to top it off, I stood there awkwardly with no one to dance with for a long time until my dad finally came and danced with me. I think people didn't know what was going on because our DJ sucked but still it was awkward.
Your best man dropped the ball because if there is no line where he's collecting money, he's supposed to dance with you until someone comes up.
Post by longhornwino0907 on May 8, 2015 13:41:42 GMT -5
I feel like I'm going to regret jumping in here, and I'm not trying to be a WK, but while I do agree that @emilie818 maybe should have said "many" people or something along those lines, I think the general statement is correct, that it's not crazy or weird to have a wedding website. Nor is it inappropriate to put things on there that you want guests to know. We had one, made sure to have the link on our Save the Dates. Might have been on an insert in our invitations, but I'm not sure, and thinking about it, I think probably not.
But we knew our guests. H and I keep up with the majority of the people we invited to our wedding on social media, so it was safe to assume that they could go to our website for information. Some things we made sure to print out, like our guide to the city for our out-of-town guests. Those were printed and put into the gift bags we had placed in their hotel rooms for them. Otherwise, you could either ask us (or one of our moms), or check the site. If that's not the case with your guest list, then provide pertinent information other ways.
I know I'm going to regret posting this somehow, some way. Flame away.
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I feel like I'm going to regret jumping in here, and I'm not trying to be a WK, but while I do agree that @emilie818 maybe should have said "many" people or something along those lines, I think the general statement is correct, that it's not crazy or weird to have a wedding website. Nor is it inappropriate to put things on there that you want guests to know. We had one, made sure to have the link on our Save the Dates. Might have been on an insert in our invitations, but I'm not sure, and thinking about it, I think probably not.
But we knew our guests. H and I keep up with the majority of the people we invited to our wedding on social media, so it was safe to assume that they could go to our website for information. Some things we made sure to print out, like our guide to the city for our out-of-town guests. Those were printed and put into the gift bags we had placed in their hotel rooms for them. Otherwise, you could either ask us (or one of our moms), or check the site. If that's not the case with your guest list, then provide pertinent information other ways.
I know I'm going to regret posting this somehow, some way. Flame away.
Oh, I think websites are the normal and sometimes helpful (especially when you're an idiot and move before a wedding and lose an invitation, not that I've done that)... it was just her statement that most people (not specifying her circle) could access them that rubbed everyone that wrong way.
I feel like I'm going to regret jumping in here, and I'm not trying to be a WK, but while I do agree that @emilie818 maybe should have said "many" people or something along those lines, I think the general statement is correct, that it's not crazy or weird to have a wedding website. Nor is it inappropriate to put things on there that you want guests to know. We had one, made sure to have the link on our Save the Dates. Might have been on an insert in our invitations, but I'm not sure, and thinking about it, I think probably not.
But we knew our guests. H and I keep up with the majority of the people we invited to our wedding on social media, so it was safe to assume that they could go to our website for information. Some things we made sure to print out, like our guide to the city for our out-of-town guests. Those were printed and put into the gift bags we had placed in their hotel rooms for them. Otherwise, you could either ask us (or one of our moms), or check the site. If that's not the case with your guest list, then provide pertinent information other ways.
I know I'm going to regret posting this somehow, some way. Flame away.
Oh, I think websites are the normal and sometimes helpful (especially when you're an idiot and move before a wedding and lose an invitation, not that I've done that)... it was just her statement that most people (not specifying her circle) could access them that rubbed everyone that wrong way.
Understood. Moving right along, then! Nothing to see here.
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