Thank nchauhan. I don't like that she wouldn't acknowledge in the 1st trimester because if anything were to have gone wrong, we would want and need our family's support. She is polite but uninterested when DH gives her updates. To give some background I think I included on a TB bitch thread, she told us a year ago she didn't want more grandchildren???This baby will be our 3rd child and her 5th grandchild so that makes no sense to me. We rarely ask her to babysit and we are in a good financial position to provide for our kids.
Wtf!! It isn't her choice, does she realize this?
Edit to add: this super extra pisses me off, it sounds like something my MIL would say
I finally have something to contribute from this pregnancy (the comments from last pregnancy having been mostly blocked out) yesterday my mother left me these two jems:
'You're getting fat.' To which I responded you can leave now unless you like getting punched in the throat. She laughed. I wasn't kidding.
And
'I'm working on a boy quilt. Just in case something happens.' Uh...what the hell does that mean? In case something happens and the baby turns out to be a boy which it has pretty much a 50% chance of doing? (We have not told her its a boy. I'm almost hoping it turns out to be a girl now just to spite her.)
Thank nchauhan. I don't like that she wouldn't acknowledge in the 1st trimester because if anything were to have gone wrong, we would want and need our family's support. She is polite but uninterested when DH gives her updates. To give some background I think I included on a TB bitch thread, she told us a year ago she didn't want more grandchildren???This baby will be our 3rd child and her 5th grandchild so that makes no sense to me. We rarely ask her to babysit and we are in a good financial position to provide for our kids.
Im probably being petty, but I would stop giving her updates. It's not her choice on how many grandchildren she gets...she should feel blessed for every one of them. Maybe if she stops getting information on yours, she'll realize how ridiculous she's being. I mean, she's not really going to shun her son's child. I would hope not at least.
And I totally get wanting support if something went wrong...that was our reasoning for telling our families so early too.
Not pregnancy related but baby related. I was at the grocery store today and people were going BSC because of the storm coming. A woman was there with her toddler who was in the basket and screaming/crying/having a meltdown. Someone passed by me and said under her breath "Go back home where you belong" referencing the woman with the child. Yes it can be annoying but the woman needs to go grocery shopping too and I'm sure she's not having an awesome time anyway. It's not like you can pick when your child is going to freak out.
Really bothered me. She would have gotten slapped if I wasn't holding a box of mac and cheese in each hand...
'I'm working on a boy quilt. Just in case something happens.' Uh...what the hell does that mean? In case something happens and the baby turns out to be a boy which it has pretty much a 50% chance of doing? (We have not told her its a boy. I'm almost hoping it turns out to be a girl now just to spite her.)
What? I don't understand... Is growing primarily internal reproductive organs NOT something happening? In case an infant girl decides she can't handle pink?
So I have been sick the past couple of days. Terrible sore throat and cough and completely lost my voice so I haven't been able to call and check in on my mom. She lives in a nursing home so I call my aunt, who visits her, to she how she was doing. She noticed I was sick and was telling her how I was doing and she said " Try not to cough to much or you will kill the baby" Um say what now? I just shrugged it off but why the fuck would you say that!
Not pregnancy related but baby related. I was at the grocery store today and people were going BSC because of the storm coming. A woman was there with her toddler who was in the basket and screaming/crying/having a meltdown. Someone passed by me and said under her breath "Go back home where you belong" referencing the woman with the child. Yes it can be annoying but the woman needs to go grocery shopping too and I'm sure she's not having an awesome time anyway. It's not like you can pick when your child is going to freak out.
Really bothered me. She would have gotten slapped if I wasn't holding a box of mac and cheese in each hand...
Post by manhattanftm on Jan 26, 2015 20:22:18 GMT -5
my mom to her friend: "E and A are expecting and I'm going to be a grandmother!!" Friend: "IVF?" Mind you- I am friends with her daughter who knows about our struggle with IF so she already knew the answer to that one. My poor mom didn't know what to say in response. People are so rude and I find that my mom's generation loves to gossip about both IF and girls that get pregnant before marriage. It's 2015 people!
'I'm working on a boy quilt. Just in case something happens.' Uh...what the hell does that mean? In case something happens and the baby turns out to be a boy which it has pretty much a 50% chance of doing? (We have not told her its a boy. I'm almost hoping it turns out to be a girl now just to spite her.)
What? I don't understand... Is growing primarily internal reproductive organs NOT something happening? In case an infant girl decides she can't handle pink?
Yeah no I have no idea what she meant. She made it sound like the baby being a boy would be some sort of error.
My parents were over again last night (with my sister who had flown in from another province). Their visit was a fluke result of my car being a POS on Sunday and my dad having to fix it...but the first thing she said when they got to our house was "look at mommy's big belly" (to my DD, but making 100% eye contact with my sister)
A senior colleague in another office, upon learning I'm pregnant:
"Well FUCK."
It's a real sunshine-and-rainbows Tuesday, friends.
I got a response like that from someone when I told them about my first. It was actually kind of funny to me, because I know her so well, and know why she said the "Oh shit" that she did. She also followed it up with a giant "I'm sorry, I shouldn't have said that! Congratulations!!"
My husband and I have been going through baby names and I told him that I wanted to keep that between me and him. He disagrees and has been telling everyone our top three names and even telling them which is his ultimate favorite. Ok, fine, I got over it. So the names that we settled on are Theodore Raja (would be called theo; this is my husbands fav), Liam Raja and Noah Raja.
This morning, we went to drop our puppy off at a close friends house that watches him for us sometimes. This couple is also expecting and got two new puppies last weekend. When we were meeting the new puppies, the wife told me their names were Theodore and Liam! I just glared at my husband who also looked shocked. I couldn't believe that they would use names we are thinking about for our child, for their puppies. When I told the wife that those were the names we were thinking about for our kids, she was like, "oh, my husband didn't tell me that! This is why we didn't tell anyone our name. And I think it's too late to change these puppies names, I don't want to confuse them and get new tags and everything." It wouldn't matter as much except they live in our city and we see them all the time! We do doggy dates and had planned on doing play dates as well. My husband didn't even have anything to say on the way home, and i wasn't even mad about it. I was more surprised that a pregnant woman wouldn't see that this could be upsetting to me. Am I overreacting?
My husband and I have been going through baby names and I told him that I wanted to keep that between me and him. He disagrees and has been telling everyone our top three names and even telling them which is his ultimate favorite. Ok, fine, I got over it. So the names that we settled on are Theodore Raja (would be called theo; this is my husbands fav), Liam Raja and Noah Raja.
This morning, we went to drop our puppy off at a close friends house that watches him for us sometimes. This couple is also expecting and got two new puppies last weekend. When we were meeting the new puppies, the wife told me their names were Theodore and Liam! I just glared at my husband who also looked shocked. I couldn't believe that they would use names we are thinking about for our child, for their puppies. When I told the wife that those were the names we were thinking about for our kids, she was like, "oh, my husband didn't tell me that! This is why we didn't tell anyone our name. And I think it's too late to change these puppies names, I don't want to confuse them and get new tags and everything." It wouldn't matter as much except they live in our city and we see them all the time! We do doggy dates and had planned on doing play dates as well. My husband didn't even have anything to say on the way home, and i wasn't even mad about it. I was more surprised that a pregnant woman wouldn't see that this could be upsetting to me. Am I overreacting?
I would be upset too. Was it complete coincidence since she didn't know these were names you were considering for your baby? Ultimately I wouldn't worry too much and name your baby as you would have before.
My husband and I have been going through baby names and I told him that I wanted to keep that between me and him. He disagrees and has been telling everyone our top three names and even telling them which is his ultimate favorite. Ok, fine, I got over it. So the names that we settled on are Theodore Raja (would be called theo; this is my husbands fav), Liam Raja and Noah Raja.
This morning, we went to drop our puppy off at a close friends house that watches him for us sometimes. This couple is also expecting and got two new puppies last weekend. When we were meeting the new puppies, the wife told me their names were Theodore and Liam! I just glared at my husband who also looked shocked. I couldn't believe that they would use names we are thinking about for our child, for their puppies. When I told the wife that those were the names we were thinking about for our kids, she was like, "oh, my husband didn't tell me that! This is why we didn't tell anyone our name. And I think it's too late to change these puppies names, I don't want to confuse them and get new tags and everything." It wouldn't matter as much except they live in our city and we see them all the time! We do doggy dates and had planned on doing play dates as well. My husband didn't even have anything to say on the way home, and i wasn't even mad about it. I was more surprised that a pregnant woman wouldn't see that this could be upsetting to me. Am I overreacting?
I would be upset too. Was it complete coincidence since she didn't know these were names you were considering for your baby? Ultimately I wouldn't worry too much and name your baby as you would have before.
No, not a complete coincidence, my husband told her husband those names about a week ago. So we aren't sure why he would've suggested those names, knowing we were thinking about them.
My husband and I have been going through baby names and I told him that I wanted to keep that between me and him. He disagrees and has been telling everyone our top three names and even telling them which is his ultimate favorite. Ok, fine, I got over it. So the names that we settled on are Theodore Raja (would be called theo; this is my husbands fav), Liam Raja and Noah Raja.
This morning, we went to drop our puppy off at a close friends house that watches him for us sometimes. This couple is also expecting and got two new puppies last weekend. When we were meeting the new puppies, the wife told me their names were Theodore and Liam! I just glared at my husband who also looked shocked. I couldn't believe that they would use names we are thinking about for our child, for their puppies. When I told the wife that those were the names we were thinking about for our kids, she was like, "oh, my husband didn't tell me that! This is why we didn't tell anyone our name. And I think it's too late to change these puppies names, I don't want to confuse them and get new tags and everything." It wouldn't matter as much except they live in our city and we see them all the time! We do doggy dates and had planned on doing play dates as well. My husband didn't even have anything to say on the way home, and i wasn't even mad about it. I was more surprised that a pregnant woman wouldn't see that this could be upsetting to me. Am I overreacting?
Ugh I'm sorry. I would be irritated as hell. You're not overreacting at all!
My stupid coworker (that I always complain about) asked me what we were going to name our baby. Like an idiot, I told her that the baby's name is Maya Luna. To which she responded "Luna is my dog's name". She's a cunt bag and doesn't even speak Spanish (because Luna is Spanish for Moon, and Maya Moon was just too much of a hippie name for my family's liking), so I'm not changing my baby's name because of her... But it still bothered me that she said that. I just dislike her so much that she could be like "have a nice weekend!" and I would still think she's being a bitch. Rant over.
I would be upset too. Was it complete coincidence since she didn't know these were names you were considering for your baby? Ultimately I wouldn't worry too much and name your baby as you would have before.
No, not a complete coincidence, my husband told her husband those names about a week ago. So we aren't sure why he would've suggested those names, knowing we were thinking about them.
Oh my goodness!! What in the world was your friend's husband thinking?!?! Does your DH regret telling him? I hope so.
No, not a complete coincidence, my husband told her husband those names about a week ago. So we aren't sure why he would've suggested those names, knowing we were thinking about them.
Oh my goodness!! What in the world was your friend's husband thinking?!?! Does your DH regret telling him? I hope so.
Yea, my husband is beating himself up about it. They're pretty close friends, so he texted him asking him what he was thinking. The friend said that he jokingly suggested the names and his wife fell in love with them. He asked if we were upset and DH was like, of course we are. We don't want to name our child the same thing as your dog. How would you feel if we got a dog and named it after your first child? The friend said he would try to see if they could use different names, which is a nice gesture. So I guess we will see. It's just weird...I would never suggest a friends baby name list when deciding to name my pets.
nchauhan Glad your DH is standing up for you guys and not just shrugging it off! His friend, on the other hand... wtf. Who does that? Who would suggest a friend's potential baby names as dog names? So rude, so inconsiderate.
This probably goes without saying, but dogs can easily adapt to name changes. Ours are adopted and didn't get their names until they were about two years old. They respond to their names (and all of their nicknames) just fine. And new dog tags are like $10, if that. Girlfriend needs to suck it up and change the dogs' names to dog names, not baby names.
Good luck with this unpleasantness, and I hope your friends understand and make some changes.
p.s. I happen to also love the name Theo; it was on our boy names list, too!
nchauhan Glad your DH is standing up for you guys and not just shrugging it off! His friend, on the other hand... wtf. Who does that? Who would suggest a friend's potential baby names as dog names? So rude, so inconsiderate.
This probably goes without saying, but dogs can easily adapt to name changes. Ours are adopted and didn't get their names until they were about two years old. They respond to their names (and all of their nicknames) just fine. And new dog tags are like $10, if that. Girlfriend needs to suck it up and change the dogs' names to dog names, not baby names.
Good luck with this unpleasantness, and I hope your friends understand and make some changes.
p.s. I happen to also love the name Theo; it was on our boy names list, too!
I agree, glad your husband spoke to his mate about it. What a doush. I would be fuming! Even if they don't change the dogs names you should consider using them still if you don't find any others you love in the meantime. No offence to dog lovers but they only live for 15 odd years and you can always use your childrens nicknames when you are around the "friends" dogs to avoid confusion.
Sorry to revive this thread, but I didn't want to start a new one just to complain about this.
We're playing Super Bowl squares at my job. Which if you're not familiar means everyone buys a couple of squares with numbers and the winner wins a jackpot depending on if your numbers match the Super Bowl scores for each quarter. One of the guys I'm friendly with at work is in charge, so I always participate.
My stupid coworker (who always makes dumb comments) asked me today if I had bought any squares. When I told her "yea, but I just do it because David wants me to" she was like "well the prize is $50 and you could really use that money."
I couldn't say anything, I was literally left speechless, so I just walked away. I have never in my life discussed finances with anyone at my job. And not to sound crass, but $50 isn't going to make or break me and I know for a fact that I make more than she does.
I told DH and he was pissed I didn't put her in her place. Rant over...
Sorry to revive this thread, but I didn't want to start a new one just to complain about this.
We're playing Super Bowl squares at my job. Which if you're not familiar means everyone buys a couple of squares with numbers and the winner wins a jackpot depending on if your numbers match the Super Bowl scores for each quarter. One of the guys I'm friendly with at work is in charge, so I always participate.
My stupid coworker (who always makes dumb comments) asked me today if I had bought any squares. When I told her "yea, but I just do it because David wants me to" she was like "well the prize is $50 and you could really use that money."
I couldn't say anything, I was literally left speechless, so I just walked away. I have never in my life discussed finances with anyone at my job. And not to sound crass, but $50 isn't going to make or break me and I know for a fact that I make more than she does.
I told DH and he was pissed I didn't put her in her place. Rant over...
What the what? That is so bizarre to say to someone. Is she just assuming you need any money you can get your hands on because you're having a baby? People get on my nerves.
Sorry to revive this thread, but I didn't want to start a new one just to complain about this.
We're playing Super Bowl squares at my job. Which if you're not familiar means everyone buys a couple of squares with numbers and the winner wins a jackpot depending on if your numbers match the Super Bowl scores for each quarter. One of the guys I'm friendly with at work is in charge, so I always participate.
My stupid coworker (who always makes dumb comments) asked me today if I had bought any squares. When I told her "yea, but I just do it because David wants me to" she was like "well the prize is $50 and you could really use that money."
I couldn't say anything, I was literally left speechless, so I just walked away. I have never in my life discussed finances with anyone at my job. And not to sound crass, but $50 isn't going to make or break me and I know for a fact that I make more than she does.
I told DH and he was pissed I didn't put her in her place. Rant over...
What the what? That is so bizarre to say to someone. Is she just assuming you need any money you can get your hands on because you're having a baby? People get on my nerves.
I guess so... She pulled the same thing a while back when I first got pregnant. I asked her to order a soup for me when she ordered lunch one day. When I tried to give her money she said "keep it, you need it more than I do". It was $4!!
What the what? That is so bizarre to say to someone. Is she just assuming you need any money you can get your hands on because you're having a baby? People get on my nerves.
I guess so... She pulled the same thing a while back when I first got pregnant. I asked her to order a soup for me when she ordered lunch one day. When I tried to give her money she said "keep it, you need it more than I do". It was $4!!
Post by effthisnoise on Feb 2, 2015 7:18:59 GMT -5
I was explaining to my family how babies are measured by fruits, etc. and how the legs aren't included in the measurements until after 20 weeks. My grandfather replies that they must measure the babies that "don't make it" to get the comparison measurements. I then had to explain measurements through ultrasound, but thanks Grampy! Sure love thinking about the alternative.
I guess so... She pulled the same thing a while back when I first got pregnant. I asked her to order a soup for me when she ordered lunch one day. When I tried to give her money she said "keep it, you need it more than I do". It was $4!!
::rolls eyes:: Wow.
I just walked in to work today and this same woman announced that she is pregnant. She is only 4 weeks.
One of my other coworkers that I told about the $50 comment said "I guess she was just projecting her life onto yours".
Post by littlegrapey on Feb 2, 2015 10:35:35 GMT -5
The same girl who makes crazy comments at work asked me the other day if I was in my 4th trimester yet.
Another girl told me I was selfish because I stopped at Starbucks every morning and I should really be saving that money for the baby. And she went on to tell me I shouldn't have caffeine, even if my OB said it was ok. I gave her my OB's number and told her she was more than welcomed to discuss my caffeine intake with the medical professional I pay to give me advice.
The last one is more of an annoyance than anything in particular. This girl was just hired last Thursday (so she's only been here for like 2 days) and every time I see her she decides to make a comment along the lines of "Oh look, the pregnant girl." While they were walking her through the office, she passed my office, and my partner's (who is also pregnant), and said very loudly "It's the pregnant people! Hi pregnant people!" Like we were an exhibit at the zoo to be gawked at. I may have been overly sensitive, but I feel like if you didn't know me pre-pregnancy then you shouldn't refer to me as 'pregnant person'. I'm not referring to you as 'new annoying person.'
The same girl who makes crazy comments at work asked me the other day if I was in my 4th trimester yet.
Another girl told me I was selfish because I stopped at Starbucks every morning and I should really be saving that money for the baby. And she went on to tell me I shouldn't have caffeine, even if my OB said it was ok. I gave her my OB's number and told her she was more than welcomed to discuss my caffeine intake with the medical professional I pay to give me advice.
The last one is more of an annoyance than anything in particular. This girl was just hired last Thursday (so she's only been here for like 2 days) and every time I see her she decides to make a comment along the lines of "Oh look, the pregnant girl." While they were walking her through the office, she passed my office, and my partner's (who is also pregnant), and said very loudly "It's the pregnant people! Hi pregnant people!" Like we were an exhibit at the zoo to be gawked at. I may have been overly sensitive, but I feel like if you didn't know me pre-pregnancy then you shouldn't refer to me as 'pregnant person'. I'm not referring to you as 'new annoying person.'
I say you start doing this. Just every time you go by her office, go, "It's the new person! Hi, new annoying person!"
I just walked in to work today and this same woman announced that she is pregnant. She is only 4 weeks.
One of my other coworkers that I told about the $50 comment said "I guess she was just projecting her life onto yours".
OOOOH, plot twist!
LOL!
I knew it was coming. A few weeks ago she told me she was trying to get pregnant this month so she could announce at her daughter's bday party in two weeks.
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