Mother's Day Essay (trigger warning: loss mentioned)

[RajahMD]

I saw this post show up on my news feed on Facebook. I thought people here might appreciate the message. It's a very touching essay on bereaved mothers and Mother's Day.

FYI: She mentions the loss of her twins at 26 weeks and there are pictures. I wanted to mention that in case it's a trigger for anyone.

ETA: Whoopsies. Apparently my link isn't working. Check out the one valie provided below
ETA: clarified the trigger warning.

[valie]

I haven't read it yet, but here's a clicky: link to essay

[valie]

Here's another: Drop brunch and put some protest back into Mother’s Day

[pickles4prez]

Thank you for sharing

[Deleted]

I thought the first article was really well written! The idea of a mother's day card for loss moms never occurred to me. But would anyone who has suffered pregnancy loss want a card to remind them of it? I mean,I'm sure no woman forgets her lost child but is a card mentioning it kind of insensitive?

[cabgirl]

May 10, 2015 5:55:29 GMT -5 @marymargaret said:

I thought the first article was really well written! The idea of a mother's day card for loss moms never occurred to me. But would anyone who has suffered pregnancy loss want a card to remind them of it? I mean,I'm sure no woman forgets her lost child but is a card mentioning it kind of insensitive?

I don't think she really wanted a card. I think it was more that she was making a point that the loss of a child through pregnancy isn't something that's acknowledged often, or by society at large. For whatever reason, it seems to be an awkward subject (I guess dealing as it does with women's bodies, strong emotion, and death). I think she felt something wrong in the fact that people don't think to acknowledge women who have lost their children through miscarriage or stillbirth as "mothers." Just my take, though.

Also, god, those pictures. I wasn't prepared for that. Maybe an added couple words to the warning in the body of the post? I did okay with the essay, until I saw those. 

[Deleted]

makes sense, cabgirl.

[RajahMD]

May 10, 2015 6:47:22 GMT -5 cabgirl said:

May 10, 2015 5:55:29 GMT -5 @marymargaret said:

I thought the first article was really well written! The idea of a mother's day card for loss moms never occurred to me. But would anyone who has suffered pregnancy loss want a card to remind them of it? I mean,I'm sure no woman forgets her lost child but is a card mentioning it kind of insensitive?

I don't think she really wanted a card. I think it was more that she was making a point that the loss of a child through pregnancy isn't something that's acknowledged often, or by society at large. For whatever reason, it seems to be an awkward subject (I guess dealing as it does with women's bodies, strong emotion, and death). I think she felt something wrong in the fact that people don't think to acknowledge women who have lost their children through miscarriage or stillbirth as "mothers." Just my take, though.

Also, god, those pictures. I wasn't prepared for that. Maybe an added couple words to the warning in the body of the post? I did okay with the essay, until I saw those. 

Sorry cabgirl! I added a warning about the pictures.

[kayladawn91]

So beautiful! Thanks for sharing!

[helloerrbody]

Very beautiful! Hugs and love to all of you who have lost a child. Thinking of you all today.

[wholenewworld]

Thanks for posting this. I had no idea about the history of Mother's Day. Makes it so much more meaningful.

[cabgirl]

Big hugs, @sarahwithanh. I understand exactly what you mean.

[flippinchica]

May 10, 2015 5:55:29 GMT -5 @marymargaret said:

I thought the first article was really well written! The idea of a mother's day card for loss moms never occurred to me. But would anyone who has suffered pregnancy loss want a card to remind them of it? I mean,I'm sure no woman forgets her lost child but is a card mentioning it kind of insensitive?

Lurking but honestly yes, a card, a text, a phone call remembering my loss pregnancy would be appreciated.  After the initial few weeks, it felt like everybody "forgot" about my loss pregnancy and baby and the acknowledgement of that would be a beautiful gift. And like others mentioned it was hard not to be in this weird netherworld of not having a baby but having been pregnant.