I'm experiencing every emotion possible. From being terrified for how DD will react to so crazy excited for her to have someone new in her life to love....a friend for life.
Right now, my latest struggle is that I feel like I need to be soaking up every second with DD before her world is turned upside down, but I have the least amount of patience ever with her now. I am so physically exhausted and emotionally drained. Everything she does is driving me crazy. Constantly asking her to do something 20 times before she will *maybe* do it; bending over for diaper changes for my 3 YEAR OLD is destroying me physically and emotionally - I never would have thought in a thousand years I would have a 3 year old that is deathly afraid of the potty, but I do. Everytime she tells me "I pooped", I feel this stab to my heart; her not napping anymore, and not even staying quiet up in her room; her threenager attitude....ugh!!
I love her more than anything in this world, but my plan for cuddling through these last few days/weeks, taking in every beautiful trait about her, about our relationship, is failing miserably.
Post by bendherova on May 12, 2015 21:15:13 GMT -5
DS1 essentially PT'ed himself at 3y3-4mo, don't lose hope, ladies!!
I feel very much the same way that you do, junch817. I want to soak up as much time as possible with DS1, but I'm exhausted all the time, and he just wants to run all over! My fuse is def shorter than normal.
he is super cuddly and alw has been, but I get a lot of elbows to the boobs.
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Post by tiffbot on May 12, 2015 21:15:51 GMT -5
Yep, the emotions are just as strong as the physical stuff, if not more. I flat out cried today just holding him while we were taking a sitting let's watch some videos I'm tired break and couldn't stop kissing his little head. Mine won't be 2 until July, so we are very much still into diapers as well. It's a lot of effort and I really have to talk myself up to it when it's time for a change haha!
He doesn't have a huge real word vocabulary yet, but today he started saying 'baby'. He just repeated it after me once and every time I asked him to say it after he would.
If you can't tell, I'm in the sentimental lovely dovey emotion mode right now. Its a nice break from the impatient, why is this so hard emotions that I go back and forth between!
If you can't tell, I'm in the sentimental lovely dovey emotion mode right now. Its a nice break from the impatient, why is this so hard emotions that I go back and forth between!
Yep. Constantly back and forth. I just feel like I've been stuck in the impatient phase for too long now. I still have my good moments tossed in there, but not enough of them =(
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Post by ladysif on May 12, 2015 21:31:46 GMT -5
Yup, same. Want to spend quality time with him but have a stomach bug again and no patience. Cute guy grabbed his doctor kit today when I told him I was sick to check my heart and give me a bandage. Love him!
Honestly, my biggest concern is after baby is here. DH is taking two weeks of leave and then it is me with both boys fulltime and that thought scares me. It is like going back to work after two weeks and I am so nervous it is going to be really tough on all of us. He will go to preschool two mornings a week next fall but that is a long way off!
Mine is 8 years old, so very independent, and I still struggle with wondering if I am underestimating how hard it's going to be to adjust to two. Those of you with the littles, my hat is off to you all! I've been pretty sappy with DS the last couple of weeks, taking more time to cuddle with him, play with him, talk to him. I'm so worried about him feeling excluded once baby is here. I'm also worried about where he will be when I go into active labor because he has told me he is scared of me being in pain and hurting. He's old enough to comprehend just enough and I know it would really upset him to see me like that. I hope so much that he is with his dad or at day camp, but that is completely out of my hands.
I'm such a sucker with DD right now. I'm not sharing her very well. I can hardly stand being away from her. More so than normal even. I keep feeling so badly because she is so used to being my little side kick 24/7. I keep trying to talk to her about the baby and what we do with him.
Sometimes I worry she will think I've forgotten her.
I've been trying to come up with a special gift for her from the baby but I've not figured out anything yet.
Post by sugarkissed on May 12, 2015 21:48:06 GMT -5
I've been trying to spend as much time as possible with DD while she's my one and only. She has never been one for cuddles, but lately she's been more clingy and affectionate and I'm loving every minute of it. I'm so excited for her to have a baby sister, but I'll really miss these moments.
I'm also ridiculously terrified of entering the world of 2U2.
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Post by tiffbot on May 12, 2015 21:56:34 GMT -5
Oh, this is SS worthy, but DS has been so much more clingy with me lately it makes me think something is happening soon, or he's at least in tune with noticing things are changing. He's always been a daddy's boy and very social out with everyone, but even with MIL here on Sunday he cuddled on the couch with me for awhile. I'm also a SAHM so we are together all day, so he normally is all over playing with H when he gets home, he still gets excited when he sees him then runs back to me to make sure I'll keep playing or cuddling with him. I mean, I'm certainly not complaining! It's just not that common for him to be so attached to me!
ETA-it took me a long time to write that as I was pausing to talk to h too, didn't see PP's remarks as almost the same lol!
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Post by nettje on May 12, 2015 22:08:12 GMT -5
junch817 I could have written your first post word for word. I'm definitely feeling the same in regards to soaking up every second with DD. She's not able to fall asleep on her own 100% so I'm ok laying and snuggling with her at night. Because it won't happen in a couple of weeks. I change her bum on the floor because it's too hard to lift her to change her bum and she's absolutely terrified of the toilet as well. Kicking and screaming every time I try to set her on it. The joys. And every time I mention baby coming home soon her response is "I no like. No like."
I don't know if I'm just in denial with everything going on, but I feel okay lately... earlier on in my pregnancy I felt like by this time I'd be freaking out about how I'd handle all of this and how J would take the change and everything...
I'm still nervous because there has been and will be a lot of change in her little life... My H is planning to move our stuff to our new house this weekend, and we'll likely be having baby either the end of next week or the last week of May - then I'll be back home but without the new baby at first, which I'm not sure if that will confuse her or not... And when baby finally comes home is when shit's gonna get really real. I'm most nervous for the evenings/days I'll have them both by myself when H works.
Sorry that was kind of just a rambling mess of thoughts....
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Post by honeybunches101 on May 12, 2015 22:20:57 GMT -5
If I start to think too much about DS having to share me with the baby I start to cry, and I am NOT a crier. So I am focusing on how excited he will be to have his little sister here to dote on and 'play' with. He talks about her constantly and can't wait to meet her. But I am kind of a wreck about it. I SAH with him and we have gone on so many fun adventures just the two of us and I know that will be much harder with a baby. And I'm so big and slow now we can't really so a lot of the things I want to do with him these last few weeks. I also still rock him to sleep for bedtime and naps and I know I need I stop but I don't want to! I don't know what is going to happen when I have to put he and the baby down.
Also, totally freaking out about taking care of two. I feel overwhelmed all the time now and exhausted and I am in denial. DS will be in preschool 3 morning a week in mid September but that is a long way off and I do not know how I will survive with newborn sleep deprivation. Lalalala not going to think about it!!!
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Post by Deleted on May 12, 2015 22:48:50 GMT -5
I'm having that feeling as well of wanting to cherish every moment with DS now before baby comes but also feeling exhausted.
I backed up my iPhone photos to my computer today and it replayed all 500 photos I have of DS from the past 2 years. I just started crying seeing all these photos of him. it just showed how fast he is growing up. My little baby boy to a toddler.
Post by billyhorrible on May 12, 2015 23:01:04 GMT -5
I must be a cold-hearted snake lady, because I'm really not that concerned about the transition. And I'm not emotional at all about it.
I feel like I've spent 8 1/2 months preparing my son, taken every step to make it as easy as it can be for him, and once the baby comes it will be out of my hands.
I know that despite his excitement now (he keeps asking if it's June yet) that it will be hard for him to not be the center of the universe, but I also know it will be good for him in so many ways to have a sibling. And because I'm an older sibling, I know that he will survive.
I'm not worried about expanding my love. I'm not worried about him not getting one-on-one time. I'm not worried about him feeling any less special. No matter what, he is always my first and he will always be special because of that.
I'm not terribly concerned about the transition for DS. I figure millions of kids gain siblings around this age and do just fine. I'm more worried about my marriage and the transition of having 2 kids pulling us different directions. Not that I fear we are going to divorce or anything, I just know how stressful one kid is and I'm nervous for the rough times that are most likely upon us.
I've also been getting scared for labor. Most of the time I've been able to put it out of my mind and not think about it. I've been cramping a lot since yesterday and it's just a reminder of what's to come and I'm starting to freak myself out a little.
Right now I'm pouting because a) pregsominia and b) DD only wanted "daddy" for her MOTN wake-up. She's in a 99.9% daddy phase these last few weeks. Hmph. Doesn't she know that we only have a little bit of mama-DD only time left??
I'm more worried about my marriage and the transition of having 2 kids pulling us different directions. Not that I fear we are going to divorce or anything, I just know how stressful one kid is and I'm nervous for the rough times that are most likely upon us.
I've also been getting scared for labor. Most of the time I've been able to put it out of my mind and not think about it. I've been cramping a lot since yesterday and it's just a reminder of what's to come and I'm starting to freak myself out a little.
So much this. I'm worried about DDs transition to some extent too but I plan of continuing to shower her with as much attention as I can and I think My plan for her to continue to go to daycare for part of the day will keep her busy and happy because she is such a social butterfly and I think she would be miserable cooped up in the house all day with me and baby.
I should say im worried about DD but it's about all the transition we have coming up not just a new baby. We have a lot going on this year. She is such a good and sweet kid I know she will adjust to a new sibling. At least logically. Maybe part of me worries I will struggle to be mom enough. One thing is that because she is older I do plan on moving her from 2 days per week to possibly 3 for preschool this year. But at least 2 and I think it will be good for her to have time away as well as for me with the new baby to have alone time as well. Preschool has been very good for her developmentally. I have hated sending her but its for the best.
Oh don't get me wrong, I think DS will transition well too. It's a matter of how I transition lol! We've got a good routine down now! But it will work out fine, and by the time June is over I'll have H home for a few weeks (he's a VP/teacher, so will be working but much more flexible and from home!) so I'm excited about a summer of family time! I'm excited for these two to be so close in age!
I'm just emotional and I randomly happy and sad cry.
@jemomma it's so frustrating because we don't know when labour will happen, I'm even toying with the idea of writing out an itinerary of when he eats what he eats, bedtime routine. But I don't know if that's too overbearing.
Considering your son's age and how familiar with that routine the person watching is, I think that is totally reasonable. Some people may prefer too much information vs. not enough. There are few people I would trust to dictate those kinds of things with DD and she is older.
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