The More Babies Thread

[sstwinklinglites]

I think the majority of us here are FTM. I know pistolpackinmomma & chunkymonkeylvr have two LOs.

Anyway, how many of us want more LOs, how many, and how soon? I thought I knew what I wanted, but now I'm having second thoughts about my game plan.

DH & I want three kids total. I thought I wanted to wait three years before TTC #2. But even if things work out timely, #2 probably wouldn't arrive until DS is 4. That would make DH 36. And he would be over 40 when #3 comes along. He's fairly sure he doesn't want to be that old by the time we have our third. So now I'm considering TTC after DS's 1st birthday. I'm super worried about 2U2 being alone out here. What's everyone else's game plan?

[mrscatfarmer13]

[jmski]

I already have 2 and they are 3 years apart. I might have liked them a little closer together in age, but the first one was a hellion as a toddler so I waited a bit.

[mrscatfarmer13]

Seriously though...

We are all over the place here. Before I was pregnant, we weren't planning to have kids, we liked things just the way they were, just the two of us. It was quite a surprise when my punctual Aunt Flo was running late, from there we were firmly in camp OAD. Fast forward to now, we teeter b/w OAD and having another, who knows what we will end up doing. I'm not so concerned about having a specific age gap, but I would say that if we don't have another by the time M is 5 or 6 then we are most likely OAD. I do know that if we were to have another we would want to be in a bigger house by the time 2.0 was born, and we have a lot of work to do before this house would be ready to go on the market.

[mom2boxers]

We want to start trying after LO turns one. I would really like to reuse my maternity wadrobe and not have to buy more. Plus I'm using this as motivation to get the house de-cluttered and organized. That's coming up soon though.

[chunkymonkeylvr]

I do have two. A ten year old and a 19 month old. My third is due in March so my second and third will be about 22 months apart. I love the age gap I have now, and a bit anxious about the next go around.

My husband is now 42 and I'm 33 so we wanted to have kids pretty quickly. I conceived my third just a couple of weeks after my son turned 1.


I don't think there is a right age gap, no matter what it is there are ups and downs.

[ladytiffany24]

We want 2. And we'd like them to be a little over 2 years apart. So we'll likely start trying for #2 in the fall of this year (ahhhhh!).

Before DD was born, we knew we wanted 2. Then when DD was a newborn, we were both adamant we would never do this again. lol. But here we are now, already having conversations about when to stop birth control and when we'll start trying, and looking at calendars figuring it all out (of course we know things don't always go as planned).

My ute has been yearning for a couple of months now. Especially being around the new squishes in our group. But at the same time, I want to get as much time with DD while she's an only child as I can.

Also, in a perfect world we would have a DS with baby #2. If that doesn't happen, I'm screwed because DH is desperate for a boy. So basically, if we have another girl, we'll be having a conversation about baby #3. I'm not a fan of that because I'm a middle child and hated that. So crossing fingers for a baby boy.


Edit: Spelling

[babylove518]

I'm definitely still in the "I'm definitely not having another baby" phase, but I know that's just the lack of sleep talking. Lol our plan is to try for #2 at the end of 2017/beginning of 2018, when DD is 3. So they will be 3.5/almost 4 years apart. Personally, I want my first to be old enough to do more things on her own before we have a second. My biggest thing is that DD is potty trained before a new baby comes, cause I do not want to have to buy double diapers.

[vlagroupie]

I definitely want another and will probably stop after that, but who knows! I liked my timing of being pregnant with DD, had her in April. I probably want to do it sooner rather than later and not have a bigger age difference than 3 years. Ideally we would start trying again this summer which is kinda freaking me out!

[sstwinklinglites]

Jan 22, 2015 10:38:31 GMT -5 babylove518 said:

I'm definitely still in the "I'm definitely not having another baby" phase, but I know that's just the lack of sleep talking. Lol our plan is to try for #2 at the end of 2017/beginning of 2018, when DD is 3. So they will be 3.5/almost 4 years apart. Personally, I want my first to be old enough to do more things on her own before we have a second. My biggest thing is that DD is potty trained before a new baby comes, cause I do not want to have to buy double diapers.

This is me as well. Except that if we actually go three years between each child, buy the time I have a third child I'll be AMA for sure. So we either only have two children, or we move up the time frame between each child.

[mominthemaking14]

DH and I were just talking about this. I'm OCD and while LO is only 6 weeks we've discussed trying for #2 end 2016 early 2017. I would like to have them close in age but with a gap.

[mominthemaking14]

Questions DH and I have tossed around adoption for #2, any else look into that option?

[mrscatfarmer13]

sstwinklinglites I'll just have my FX that your second pregnacy is twins so you don't have to worry about moving up your timeline

[sstwinklinglites]

Jan 22, 2015 11:13:36 GMT -5 mrscatfarmer13 said:

sstwinklinglites I'll just have my FX that your second pregnacy is twins so you don't have to worry about moving up your timeline

Lololol. Are you crazy? Unless my Cincy girls are going to ban together to help this mama out, I'd lose it. A toddler and two newborns all by myself, while DH works, and no family within 1,200 miles?

[mrscatfarmer13]

Jan 22, 2015 13:08:54 GMT -5 sstwinklinglites said:

Jan 22, 2015 11:13:36 GMT -5 mrscatfarmer13 said:

sstwinklinglites I'll just have my FX that your second pregnacy is twins so you don't have to worry about moving up your timeline

Lololol. Are you crazy? Unless my Cincy girls are going to ban together to help this mama out, I'd lose it. A toddler and two newborns all by myself, while DH works, and no family within 1,200 miles?

Easy Peasy.

[mom2boxers]

Jan 22, 2015 13:08:54 GMT -5 sstwinklinglites said:

Jan 22, 2015 11:13:36 GMT -5 mrscatfarmer13 said:

sstwinklinglites I'll just have my FX that your second pregnacy is twins so you don't have to worry about moving up your timeline

Lololol. Are you crazy? Unless my Cincy girls are going to ban together to help this mama out, I'd lose it. A toddler and two newborns all by myself, while DH works, and no family within 1,200 miles?

You realize you've just cemented your fate, right?    

[sstwinklinglites]

Jan 22, 2015 13:49:18 GMT -5 mom2boxers said:

Jan 22, 2015 13:08:54 GMT -5 sstwinklinglites said:

Lololol. Are you crazy? Unless my Cincy girls are going to ban together to help this mama out, I'd lose it. A toddler and two newborns all by myself, while DH works, and no family within 1,200 miles?

You realize you've just cemented your fate, right?    

I might just be OAD now.

[JoBub]

Jan 22, 2015 7:39:04 GMT -5 ladytiffany24 said:

We want 2. And we'd like them to be a little over 2 years apart. So we'll likely start trying for #2 in the fall of this year (ahhhhh!).

Before DD was born, we knew we wanted 2. Then when DD was a newborn, we were both adamant we would never do this again. lol. But here we are now, already having conversations about when to stop birth control and when we'll start trying, and looking at calendars figuring it all out (of course we know things don't always go as planned).

This sounds like us! Our plan was always to have two. But I hated (HAAAATED) every second of my pregnancy - even though it went relatively smoothly. And I had a rough delivery and recovery. We're sort of on the old side for being first time parents, and it's been a difficult adjustment. Right now we're both saying we're one and done. My MIL is heart-broken.

But I want my son to have a sibling. So I'll probably change my mind at some point. Daycare is cleaning us out right now, so we'll probably try to wait until he's close to kindergarten. Once we figure out if we're doing public grade school or Catholic, we'll know if we can afford another baby.

[becole]

More babies sometime! Probably another babe and an adoption. Maybe in 2 years or so.

[chunkymonkeylvr]

I have thought about adoption, but it is so costly and hard to get accomplished. In the area there is a huge need for fostering, and I could see doing that and going to adoption from that.

[morgan400]

We want one more, ideally about 1.5 to 2.5 years apart. Several of my friends say they don't want two in diapers at the same time, but I think it would be just as hard to be done with diapers and then have to start them back up.

[becole]

Jan 22, 2015 20:58:08 GMT -5 chunkymonkeylvr said:

I have thought about adoption, but it is so costly and hard to get accomplished. In the area there is a huge need for fostering, and I could see doing that and going to adoption from that.

It doesn't have to be costly if you can find someone who wants to give you their baby.

[chunkymonkeylvr]

Jan 23, 2015 12:43:19 GMT -5 becole said:

Jan 22, 2015 20:58:08 GMT -5 chunkymonkeylvr said:

I have thought about adoption, but it is so costly and hard to get accomplished. In the area there is a huge need for fostering, and I could see doing that and going to adoption from that.

It doesn't have to be costly if you can find someone who wants to give you their baby.

That is true, but the likely hood of that I couldn't imagine. Plus there are still legal fees and waiting periods etc.

I love adoption, my mother is adopted, but I feel my heart pulls me more to fostering.

[becole]

Jan 23, 2015 14:30:54 GMT -5 chunkymonkeylvr said:

Jan 23, 2015 12:43:19 GMT -5 becole said:

It doesn't have to be costly if you can find someone who wants to give you their baby.

That is true, but the likely hood of that I couldn't imagine. Plus there are still legal fees and waiting periods etc.

I love adoption, my mother is adopted, but I feel my heart pulls me more to fostering.

That's cool. Foster is a great way to go too.