Post by sugarbean17 on May 15, 2015 9:30:21 GMT -5
Mine is my stupid crappy neighbors who have parked like assholes for the last 3 years. Today they pushed me over the edge. I park to accommodate their poor parking habits and end up crowding our other neighbors a bit so that I can fit my big pregnant self into my car and buckle my toddler into his seat. Today they were parked so close to my car I had to squeeze in from the other side to buckle my kiddo in and then crawl over the maze that is my mini van to get to the front seat. This would have slightly pissed me off on any normal day but today I am 36 weeks 2 days ginormous and hormonal to boot. My 8y.o. felt bad for me as I'm doing gymnastics to get to the drivers seat and my skirt gets caught on the gear shifter and my sciatica pinches and I am humiliated. Ugh. Poor start to the day then my favorite song is on the radio and I just start bawling. TGIF!
This might not make sense to anyone else but myself but I'll put it here anyway. At work we have different types of leave you can earn by working hours outside of your normal 40 a week and use later. One of them is called compensatory leave, known as comp time. The thing about comp time is that if you don't use it within a certain period of time, my organization has to pay it out like they would overtime. My organization is beyond broke right now, so they are being stingy with what kind of comp time or overtime they approve. I maxed out on the other type of leave that can be earned without the risk of them having to pay it out, so I put in a request to get comp time through the rest of the time I'm at work before baby is born (working until labor). I've already had to explain to several people several times about my plans regarding taking any comp time earned during maternity leave. One of them even asked me if the baby is born before my due date if I'm going to take 40 hours of sick leave and also work comp time during the same week? WTF? Seriously? This should be a no brainer. They finally approved it yesterday afternoon, but I swear I was losing my mind.
Post by carolyngrace on May 15, 2015 13:05:59 GMT -5
Two weeks ago I parked across the street in front of my neighbor's house, and some lady (a sister?) came out and asked me to move because their mom just had surgery and they needed the spot. Now, three things:
1) A Jitney service is across the street from me (think cheap, off the book taxies) and their cars are constantly in the spots in front of my house, as they were that day. 2) I was HALFWAY up my huge flight of stairs to my house when they yelled up to ask me to move. 3) THEY HAVE A DRIVEWAY (that they don't use).
That day I grumbled, but walked all the way back down and moved my car.
Fast forward to today. I just got home with groceries in the car, and I'm fucking HUGE. As soon as I opened the car door the same lady said "Can you move? My son is coming back soon." (uhhh good reason). So I said "SERIOUSLY?" and proceeded to look all around. The closest spot was about half a block away. She just said "yes, we need that spot by our house."
I literally just stood there, fuming, not sure what to do. I finally put my huge ass back in the car and parked it down the street. I made sure to grab my watermelon from the car first, and walked real fucking slow to my house. I yelled "YOU'RE WELCOME!" towards her house, but I'm not sure she was near the window anymore.
What should I have done? I'm so emotional and probably overly pissed for this situation, but I want to go over there and say something. I know I won't. DH will tell me I shouldn't have moved...
carolyngrace does that lady just stand in front of the window warding off people who might park there? I would have told her, I'm sorry but I'm a billion months pregnant and have a lot to carry so I'm not going to move.
Post by mrsdee1982 on May 15, 2015 13:11:49 GMT -5
carolyngrace, I would have asked "Is your son 9 months pregnant? No? Ok, well then he can park down the street. I need this closer spot more than he does."
carolyngrace Good for you for moving. At this point, I probably would have pointed out one (or all) of the following depending on her response: 1. that there is no one parked in her driveway, so hopefully she'd LET him park there 2. I am 9 months pregnant and I have groceries to bring in. When I'm finished unloading my groceries, I'll come and move it. (bonus points if you don't move it later) 3. This is a city street. I understand that this is the closest spot to your house, but it also happens to be the closest to mine. I'm sorry but I'm tired and I'm not parking a block away.
Post by carolyngrace on May 15, 2015 13:21:52 GMT -5
Thanks, y'all. I think I was just too emotional to deal with it. I was worried I'd scream or start crying. And for real, putting a chair in "your spot" is a BIG THING in Pittsburgh, so I'm not sure why she doesn't do that if it's so important.
carolyngrace, One night when you've had enough... go out in the middle of the night (pregsomnia) and trade everyones chairs. Or better yet... move them into a line in the middle of the street! Then go back in and sleep like an evil mastermind baby.
Two weeks ago I parked across the street in front of my neighbor's house, and some lady (a sister?) came out and asked me to move because their mom just had surgery and they needed the spot. Now, three things:
1) A Jitney service is across the street from me (think cheap, off the book taxies) and their cars are constantly in the spots in front of my house, as they were that day. 2) I was HALFWAY up my huge flight of stairs to my house when they yelled up to ask me to move. 3) THEY HAVE A DRIVEWAY (that they don't use).
That day I grumbled, but walked all the way back down and moved my car.
Fast forward to today. I just got home with groceries in the car, and I'm fucking HUGE. As soon as I opened the car door the same lady said "Can you move? My son is coming back soon." (uhhh good reason). So I said "SERIOUSLY?" and proceeded to look all around. The closest spot was about half a block away. She just said "yes, we need that spot by our house."
I literally just stood there, fuming, not sure what to do. I finally put my huge ass back in the car and parked it down the street. I made sure to grab my watermelon from the car first, and walked real fucking slow to my house. I yelled "YOU'RE WELCOME!" towards her house, but I'm not sure she was near the window anymore.
What should I have done? I'm so emotional and probably overly pissed for this situation, but I want to go over there and say something. I know I won't. DH will tell me I shouldn't have moved...
You are a lot nicer than me. I would have told her that it's a public space that she DOES NOT OWN and first come first served while I kept walking up the steps.
We had a neighbor put not one but two notes on my friends car when we first rented a house here because she parked in front of their house (there was already some OTHER neighbor parked in front of ours). It was something along the lines of "don't park in front of my house" I'm assuming because her son never parked in their TWO car driveway. She got the note returned to her in pieces on her front porch and a note on her car in her driveway...it wasn't a nice note. She never put another note or said a word to us.
Two weeks ago I parked across the street in front of my neighbor's house, and some lady (a sister?) came out and asked me to move because their mom just had surgery and they needed the spot. Now, three things:
1) A Jitney service is across the street from me (think cheap, off the book taxies) and their cars are constantly in the spots in front of my house, as they were that day. 2) I was HALFWAY up my huge flight of stairs to my house when they yelled up to ask me to move. 3) THEY HAVE A DRIVEWAY (that they don't use).
That day I grumbled, but walked all the way back down and moved my car.
Fast forward to today. I just got home with groceries in the car, and I'm fucking HUGE. As soon as I opened the car door the same lady said "Can you move? My son is coming back soon." (uhhh good reason). So I said "SERIOUSLY?" and proceeded to look all around. The closest spot was about half a block away. She just said "yes, we need that spot by our house."
I literally just stood there, fuming, not sure what to do. I finally put my huge ass back in the car and parked it down the street. I made sure to grab my watermelon from the car first, and walked real fucking slow to my house. I yelled "YOU'RE WELCOME!" towards her house, but I'm not sure she was near the window anymore.
What should I have done? I'm so emotional and probably overly pissed for this situation, but I want to go over there and say something. I know I won't. DH will tell me I shouldn't have moved...
I probably would have told her it's public parking and to use her drive way.
Post by purpledaisy923 on May 15, 2015 13:32:46 GMT -5
My MIL gave me a gift card to the Cheesecake Factory for my Birthday a few months ago. I wanted to use it before the twins get here. I drove 30 minutes to the only location in my area, which happens to be within a mall. I got there about 15 minute before the Cheesecake Factory actually opens, but the mall was already open. I went inside and sat in the waiting area they have set up right outside the doors of the restaurant. There were quite a few people waiting already (it was a Saturday), but there was one seat left, so I took it. 1 minute later, an elderly lady stood right across from me and gave me the "look of death". Sure, I was the only one under the age of 60 that was sitting, but do you see this huge pregnant belly?! I'm 8 months pregnant with twins and if I want to take a seat, I will. F-you lady. Once the restaurant opened, I took my sweet time getting up and waddling my huge belly into the place to get my cheesecake. No shits were given that day.
Oh man carolyngrace I feel like I would just cry at this point.
My SS is that I feel like I'm not going to know when I'm in labour this time or that it's time to go to the hospital. I know that sounds dumb, especially being a STM, but last time my water broke early and I needed to go in just to basically be in the hospital. I didn't start having contractions for over 12 hours after that, and then active labour shortly after was only about 2-3 hours. I just feel like if I don't have the warning of my water breaking I'm going to be too lax about it being that this pregnancy has been SO different, and I'm already over 3 weeks farther along than I was when I delivered DS, and then not get to the hospital, which is an hour away, in time...oy.
We returned home from hospital last night to see that someone has crashed into SO's car and dented the side of it, the scratches are really bad and the driver door caved in. SO was in pieces and really stressed as it's going to cost hundreds of pounds to fix and we really don't have the money. Pretty upsetting few days we are having, also his boss phoned him six times yesterday sticking her nose in & demanding to know an update on my condition. 6 times! As well as four texts and voice messages after he had already left a voice mail telling her I was fine and yes he would work tomorrow (today) I just felt like she was intruding. It was his day off I had been in hospital jeez give us some privacy woman! Back off! I got really pissed off and said I hope she doesn't demand a play by play when I'm in labour!. It was ridiculous. She also changes his shifts constantly, so unreliable & she hardly knows me, she really wasn't that concerned about me, just wanted gossip & to see if he would be working. She basically phoned & phoned until he responded. No respect for our privacy, the first phone call came at 10AM when I was in hospital. This continued until 10PM last night. Major side eye.
First of all, I want to say that I really don't mind when people ask how I'm feeling, especially if they are someone I know fairly well--even a work acquaintance. That's fine.
I'm REALLY tired of men asking how I am then comparing me to their wives. I got this one yesterday: "My wife is a lot smaller than you, so when she was pregnant..." Uh, first of all I've met your wife and when I'm not pregnant, I'd bet we're within inch of each other's height and within 20 lbs of each other's weight.
But thanks for reminding me that I look giant.
i'm sorry! i can relate! my MIL has a niece that is due the same month as me and she told me the other day how much bigger i am then her niece and how happy she is that i am going to have a big baby and how worried she is that her niece will have a small unhealthy baby. it drove me nuts. first of all, what correlation is the mom's size to the baby's size? and why would she think i want to know how big i am in comparison to her?
seriously carolyngrace, you are a saint. i can't believe this woman did that to you. what a freak. she must be a really unhappy person to do that to a pregnant woman.
Post by leenziepops on May 15, 2015 17:45:45 GMT -5
I'm freaking out that we got another June baby. Keep those legs crossed tightly for at least a week ladies! PLEASE!!! Jenniebean was due only 5days before me. Too real. Nope nope
I'm freaking out that we got another June baby. Keep those legs crossed tightly for at least a week ladies! PLEASE!!! Jenniebean was due only 5days before me. Too real. Nope nope
Holy moly! I don't see these things on mobile. Now I know why she hasn't been as active today. This is craziness!
carolyngrace you are a saint. I would have told her something horrible (there's a reason DH deals with our neighbors - he's worried I'll make enemies)
cnumbers I'm sorry she's being so nosey! That's so unprofessional and inappropriate!!
Exactly, SO didn't see the big deal but it stressed me out greatly. She then asked for a play by play when he went into work & offered to give him £500 to fix his car - eh what? What are you after lady.. It's weird, thanks but no thanks, we aren't a charity case & if he did take the money you'd forever hold it over him & expect him to work for you and do whatever you want forever. So agreed it was slightly weird that she offered him money. I said even if he doesnt see it as a big deal he should respect that I want our privacy & its none of her business, who is she to demand updates. She is not a close family friend.
Exactly, SO didn't see the big deal but it stressed me out greatly. She then asked for a play by play when he went into work & offered to give him £500 to fix his car - eh what? What are you after lady.. It's weird, thanks but no thanks, we aren't a charity case & if he did take the money you'd forever hold it over him & expect him to work for you and do whatever you want forever. So agreed it was slightly weird that she offered him money. I said even if he doesnt see it as a big deal he should respect that I want our privacy & its none of her business, who is she to demand updates. She is not a close family friend.
"If your intent is to help an employee who is about to have a baby, we could really use some more predictability in our schedule. That would help more with our stability than a gift of 500 quid."
carolyngrace you are a saint. I would have told her something horrible (there's a reason DH deals with our neighbors - he's worried I'll make enemies)
cnumbers I'm sorry she's being so nosey! That's so unprofessional and inappropriate!!
Exactly, SO didn't see the big deal but it stressed me out greatly. She then asked for a play by play when he went into work & offered to give him £500 to fix his car - eh what? What are you after lady.. It's weird, thanks but no thanks, we aren't a charity case & if he did take the money you'd forever hold it over him & expect him to work for you and do whatever you want forever. So agreed it was slightly weird that she offered him money. I said even if he doesnt see it as a big deal he should respect that I want our privacy & its none of her business, who is she to demand updates. She is not a close family friend.
Unless the boss is the one who smashed into the car...?
Oh man carolyngrace I feel like I would just cry at this point.
My SS is that I feel like I'm not going to know when I'm in labour this time or that it's time to go to the hospital. I know that sounds dumb, especially being a STM, but last time my water broke early and I needed to go in just to basically be in the hospital. I didn't start having contractions for over 12 hours after that, and then active labour shortly after was only about 2-3 hours. I just feel like if I don't have the warning of my water breaking I'm going to be too lax about it being that this pregnancy has been SO different, and I'm already over 3 weeks farther along than I was when I delivered DS, and then not get to the hospital, which is an hour away, in time...oy.
I kind of worry about this too. I was induced with DS. When I got to the hos for my induction they said I was having contrax 3 mins apart already. That was news to me. (They weren't actually doing anything though). So I worry that I either won't realize it or I'll go in too soon. I'd really like to try for no pain meds this time (that was my goal last time too, but bc of DSs positioning, my lack of sleep for 2 nights in a row, and my water having been broken with little progress I caved)
Exactly, SO didn't see the big deal but it stressed me out greatly. She then asked for a play by play when he went into work & offered to give him £500 to fix his car - eh what? What are you after lady.. It's weird, thanks but no thanks, we aren't a charity case & if he did take the money you'd forever hold it over him & expect him to work for you and do whatever you want forever. So agreed it was slightly weird that she offered him money. I said even if he doesnt see it as a big deal he should respect that I want our privacy & its none of her business, who is she to demand updates. She is not a close family friend.
Unless the boss is the one who smashed into the car...?
No, as it was parked outside of our house & she hasn't been near our house - as far as I know, if she has it would be a bit creepy.. As it would be without our knowledge & the paint that has transferred onto SO's car doesn't match the color of hers. She is just a strange one, I don't know why she offered.
Exactly, SO didn't see the big deal but it stressed me out greatly. She then asked for a play by play when he went into work & offered to give him £500 to fix his car - eh what? What are you after lady.. It's weird, thanks but no thanks, we aren't a charity case & if he did take the money you'd forever hold it over him & expect him to work for you and do whatever you want forever. So agreed it was slightly weird that she offered him money. I said even if he doesnt see it as a big deal he should respect that I want our privacy & its none of her business, who is she to demand updates. She is not a close family friend.
"If your intent is to help an employee who is about to have a baby, we could really use some more predictability in our schedule. That would help more with our stability than a gift of 500 quid."
Exactly this. Without no word of a lie she changes his shifts about every week & it's stressful for me being so close to birth especially when we make plans & have to change them. The other day she asked him to work a 15hr shift because she had a cold & said I'll give you Friday off, then on Wednesday (before my bleeding started) she called him to change the Friday day off to next week. Then I started bleeding so SO was late for his shift that day but went in just as I was being admitted, so I was on my own in hospital. It was the next morning we got the constant calls from her as she wanted to see if he'd change his day off. He did work the Friday but he has done a lot of overtime for free & I feel she is playing on his kind nature, may I add the reason she wanted him to work Friday was so she could on a night out - I thought she had a cold? Must be feeling better. I know it sounds like I'm over exaggerating but I'm really not she gives him his shifts and then asks him to stay later & usually asks him right before he's about to finish. Whenever he tells me his shifts I take them with a pinch of salt and I am afraid to make plans for the fear of disappointment. One time she took a three hour lunch leaving SO to manage the store on his own & returned drunk! She also has a breathalyser at home that she uses to test alcohol percentage to see if she can drive to work or has to take a cab. It's mid may, I don't see this changing by June, I feel she is going to be worse. I'm so close to snapping with her. If she is as nosy and intrusive as she was the other day when I go to hospital or SO starts his leave & we are trying to bond with LO I will not stand for it. She best not text everyday, multiple times a day like she did on Thursday because that was ridiculous & stressful as I felt no privacy or sense of peace.
Then Comes Family, LLC is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising
program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com.