LO Sleeping Arrangements

[jt2378]

Hi Ladies,

I'm just curious where all your LO's are sleeping?  I got thinking about this because now that DD is getting so mobile and we co-sleep, she is literally here, there and everywhere and kind of tossing and turning most of the night. I'm sure it will get worse as time goes on! She starts off in her crib but ends up with me and DH and this is probably why I have such a crappy sleeper because I suck at being consistent!

[alioop1028]

We have LO in her own crib in her own room because for the life of me that child did not like co-sleeping with us. She would play and get annoyed that we were next to her. I tried to so many times out of sleep depravation and it never worked.

jt2378, if it helps we transitioned from pack n' play in our room to her room and it helped. Honestly do what works, because even though she's in her own room she doesn't STTN. We have between 2-3 wake ups a night still.

[jt2378]

May 18, 2015 11:43:21 GMT -5 alioop1028 said:

We have LO in her own crib in her own room because for the life of me that child did not like co-sleeping with us. She would play and get annoyed that we were next to her. I tried to so many times out of sleep depravation and it never worked.

jt2378, if it helps we transitioned from pack n' play in our room to her room and it helped. Honestly do what works, because even though she's in her own room she doesn't STTN. We have between 2-3 wake ups a night still.

Thanks so much alioop1028! Yes I was thinking about trying the pack n' play idea since some people have said that works.

[alioop1028]

Hope it gets better jt2378, sleep makes you feel human again!

[jt2378]

THANKS alioop1028! I want to feel human again, LOL

[rkang01]

My DD has been in her crib in her room since she was 8 weeks old. I needed at least those night time hours where we weren't in the same room as each other!

She is all over the place with her sleeping, sometimes she wakes up 1-2 times and sometimes she sleeps through the night. She likes to keep me guessing on what kind of night we will have!

[doglover31]

DS is in his crib. He's been in his crib since he was 7 months old. He did co sleep with me mostly until that time.
He is still all over the place with his sleeping. Some nights he wakes up twice while others he's up every 2 hours. So even with him being in the crib I still have a poor sleeper!

[jt2378]

doglover31, thanks, how did you get him in his crib and not co-sleep anymore? Did he protest that? I know I could just keep putting DD back after every wake up since you say your DS is sometimes up every 2 hours, sounds like torture getting out of bed 5-6 times a night! UGH

[doglover31]

May 18, 2015 12:58:37 GMT -5 jt2378 said:

doglover31, thanks, how did you get him in his crib and not co-sleep anymore? Did he protest that? I know I could just keep putting DD back after every wake up since you say your DS is sometimes up every 2 hours, sounds like torture getting out of bed 5-6 times a night! UGH

I finally got to the point where I was so exhausted and needed my bed back. DS was waking up about every hour and a half just wanting to comfort nurse. One night I had enough and just laid him in his crib. He cried for about 15 minutes, but then went to sleep. And whenever he woke that night I fed him, and back to his crib he went. Now I can lay him down fully awake and he will go to sleep on his own in his crib. The first few nights were tough because he did cry, but things have gotten better. Normally he will wake 2-3 times and only wants to eat and I'm back in bed within 15 minutes. I actually sleep better now with him out of my bed and getting up then when he was in it. He's had a few night of waking non stop but his sleep has gotten better.

But if co sleeping is still working for you then there is nothing wrong with that. It just got to a point for me personally that it wasn't working anymore. Now I try to get DS to nap with me and he won't only wants to sleep in his crib now. So I do miss the snuggles.

[jt2378]

@kait20122014, I know your right about some babies just not sleeping well and I think that is just DD's personality right now, I hope and pray she doesn't wait until 2 years old though

doglover31, Thanks again for this, it sounds like exactly where we are, just waking up to comfort nurse some nights and me feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. I think I need to put in the extra effort soon and just start putting her back in her bed, maybe it will get easier like you.

[doglover31]

It has helped me by just accepting that I don't have a baby who will STTN. And I have been given tips to try to get him to not want to eat at night, but I feel like if he's hungry he should be able to eat. If I wake up and I'm hungry I get a snack or if I'm thirsty I get a drink. So who am I to not give that to him.

However the every hour nursing was crazy, that was totally just wanting to be on the boob. Not to eat or anything.

[designaddiction]

I swear I responded to this earlier...DS is in his crib at night, although he wakes anywhere from 2 times total to every 1-2 hours all night. DH has started to sleep with him during naps though, and on the weekends I have started to do it sometimes to get a nap in myself.

[thelittlesrunmylife]

Right now we have the baby in a pack n play in our room and a toddler in our bed. The 3yo has a bed in the room she shares with her sister but they don't like to share. It's making me crazy but it's only another 60ish days. Once my oldest leaves to go spend some time with my sister on the east coast this summer we are changing things around so she will sleep in her room and then the crib will be put up in my room.

For us it's easiest to have the baby in our room because dhs children are apparently the worst sleepers on the planet. My oldest two sttn by 4 months. My 3yo was nearly 2. Some kids just dont sleep well and with dd2, she was so tiny she needed a cup of milk or small snack part way through the night because her stomach just didn't hold enough to make it until morning and she was hungry. It's better now but it was rough. I hope this little guy doesn't have that issue, he is considerably chunkier than she was so fingers crossed even though he still wakes up 2-4 times a night.

[jt2378]

Thank you so much ladies, I know DD is not the first or last worst sleeper in the world but it just helps so much to know I'm not alone and of course things will get better! I appreciate all your wisdom and advice or just commiseration

[judyblume14]

First 6 weeks, she was in a Rock-N-Play next to my bed (I had to wake her every 90 minutes to feed her). One day, at 6 weeks, I needed to do something, like fold her laundry maybe? I laid her down in the crib and she fell asleep. She's been in the crib ever since. Thankfully, it's only 10 steps from my bed to her crib, so it's not too far when she wakes up at night.

Hubs is really nervous about co-sleeping. However, on Saturday and Sunday mornings when she's up at 6, we bring her into our bed to play and doze. Those are my favorite couple hours of the week!

[jt2378]

judyblume14, you have the best sleeper out of everyone in S14 I think! Lucky duck

[judyblume14]

May 19, 2015 9:29:06 GMT -5 jt2378 said:

judyblume14, you have the best sleeper out of everyone in S14 I think! Lucky duck

I know. I try so hard not to humblebrag over it (which is why I don't usually chime in on sleep discussions!).

To be fair, the first 12 weeks were absolute hell for us.  I think God decided to give me well-deserved break for a couple months.  I keep having to remind myself that everything is a phase and eventually she'll be a monster again :-P

[melw629]

I'm not much help...DS has been in his own room from day 1. He won't sleep if he thinks he has an audience for his antics or someone to play with. We went through a rough patch when he started rolling and moving around in his crib. He'd get stuck with his legs hanging out, or his butt up against the end of his crib and his feet straight up in the air, but now he's learning to be less active in his sleep, so he doesn't wake himself up as often stuck in an uncomfortable position.
I'm lucky that he's not a huge comfort nurser anymore, so he will push me away at night if I offer, unless he's truly hungry or thirsty.

[spacedcadet]

I checked that he is in the crib but it should be all of the above. Since about 6 mos, he has started the night in his crib and then gets into bed with us when he wakes up the first time. We have a pack and play set up in our room that will put him in on occasion. I have been meaning to try to put him back in the crib after the first wakeup and going from there, but these last two weeks have been a nightmare for sleep. He has either not wanted to go to bed until 11 or later, or woken up every 2-3 hours, and we are exhausted. He finally STTN last night (11 - 5:30) but I'm sure that won't stick. I think we just need to be willing to be tired for a few days to get the sleep thing figured out, whether it be CIO or whatever, but right now we are just getting sleep what ever way we can.