Am I crazy?
May 19, 2015 15:04:45 GMT -5
Post by alayne926 on May 19, 2015 15:04:45 GMT -5
So, I went to the hospital today to visit my cousin and her boyfriend that just had a baby last night. During the conversation with them, there were some HUGE red flags to me on how I need to limit contact with them, especially after nugget gets here. First, the nurse dropped off some paperwork for them and boyfriend grabbed it and was looking through it. He says, "Oh, it's the vaccination release." then turned to me and SIL and explained that they are not going to vaccinate her until it gets closer to her going to Kindergarten and how his mom works in pharmaceuticals and how vaccinations have not been proven to have either good or negative results to children. "UMMMM....what?!?" (1st red flag)
Then, when they handed me the baby, I was like, "Oh, do you want me to swaddle her back up?" since she was completely uncovered. They were like, "No, she doesn't really like to be swaddled." So, then I said, "Ok, well, can you hand me a blanket, because her feet are a little purple, I think she's cold." Then my cousin asked what I did to keep L from rolling around in his crib when he was a baby. I explained that we swaddled him until he was about 4 months old when he was completely rolling on his own. So then she says, "Should I just put a couple of rolled up blankets on either side of her so she doesn't move?" I then have to explain that it's not really recommended to have anything in the crib with them until at least a year old. (2nd red flag)
Lastly, I'm still holding the baby and she's rooting around, definitely looking for a boob, so I say, "Oh, looks like you might be getting hungry, let me give you back to your momma." Then my cousin says, "Oh, they told me to only feed her every 2-3 hours." and boyfriend says, "Yea, she's going to have to learn that she can't be attached to the boob all the time." Internally I'm thinking, "WTF She's less than 24 hours old....your milk has probably not come in yet...she's trying to figure out what is going on....if she wants the boob, give her the boob!" (3rd red flag)
At that point, SIL and I just looked at each other and said that we had to get back to work.
Do I say something to my other cousins that have small children and let them know that they are not planning on vaccinating? Should I say something to her sister (the cousin I'm probably closest to) regarding my concerns with the crib and feeding? Do I just back off and let them do what they want since it sounds like that's what is going to happen even if it could be detrimental to the child? For Christ's sake, she's freaking 29 years old, you would think she had some common sense or at least have taken an infant care class or read a book, but that doesn't seem to be the case. I'm at a loss. Any advice?
tl:dr: my 29 year old cousin just had a baby, isn't going to vaccinate, wants to know if she should keep rolled up blankets on either side of the baby to keep her from rolling, and is only going to breastfeed her every 2-3 hours right off the bat. WWYD?
Then, when they handed me the baby, I was like, "Oh, do you want me to swaddle her back up?" since she was completely uncovered. They were like, "No, she doesn't really like to be swaddled." So, then I said, "Ok, well, can you hand me a blanket, because her feet are a little purple, I think she's cold." Then my cousin asked what I did to keep L from rolling around in his crib when he was a baby. I explained that we swaddled him until he was about 4 months old when he was completely rolling on his own. So then she says, "Should I just put a couple of rolled up blankets on either side of her so she doesn't move?" I then have to explain that it's not really recommended to have anything in the crib with them until at least a year old. (2nd red flag)
Lastly, I'm still holding the baby and she's rooting around, definitely looking for a boob, so I say, "Oh, looks like you might be getting hungry, let me give you back to your momma." Then my cousin says, "Oh, they told me to only feed her every 2-3 hours." and boyfriend says, "Yea, she's going to have to learn that she can't be attached to the boob all the time." Internally I'm thinking, "WTF She's less than 24 hours old....your milk has probably not come in yet...she's trying to figure out what is going on....if she wants the boob, give her the boob!" (3rd red flag)
At that point, SIL and I just looked at each other and said that we had to get back to work.
Do I say something to my other cousins that have small children and let them know that they are not planning on vaccinating? Should I say something to her sister (the cousin I'm probably closest to) regarding my concerns with the crib and feeding? Do I just back off and let them do what they want since it sounds like that's what is going to happen even if it could be detrimental to the child? For Christ's sake, she's freaking 29 years old, you would think she had some common sense or at least have taken an infant care class or read a book, but that doesn't seem to be the case. I'm at a loss. Any advice?
tl:dr: my 29 year old cousin just had a baby, isn't going to vaccinate, wants to know if she should keep rolled up blankets on either side of the baby to keep her from rolling, and is only going to breastfeed her every 2-3 hours right off the bat. WWYD?