M14 Help/Advice Needed

[lakecountrygal]

So my boss and other staff that I am working with this summer for summer school keep expecting me to do all this extra work. The kicker is that I am not getting paid to do it.

However, I have a state licensing test that I have to take on May 29th and summer school doesn't start until June 13th. Was it bitchy of me to tell everyone to back off and that summer school wasn't a priority because I needed to focus on passing my test? DH and I have suddenly come up on hard times and if I fail this test we don't have the money for me to retake it.

I just don't know what to do, there is so much stress in my life right now that I can't sleep without Tylenol PM because of such bad headaches and back pain. DH hasn't been as much help lately because he is stressed out with work and he got Jury Duty with the possibility of sequestering as part of it which means he won't be home for two weeks at a minimum.

What would you do to help yourself get through this with some sanity? I have contemplated quitting my job except that we can't live off one salary and I care about the kids just can't stand about 75% of the staff I work with. Plus I have to deal with my ILs on Saturday and then again Father's Day weekend and DS has become a bully at daycare (thankfully they are working with him on being gentle and we are also working on it at home). I just need everything to be done and the stress to be gone and some wonderful advice from you great mommas.

[Deleted]

I think telling your work that you can't take on the extra work right now is fine. Why would they expect you to do work that you aren't getting paid to do anyway? That never makes any sense to me.

No advice on dealing with the ILs. Mine are currently banned from coming to my house bc they can't seem to control themselves when they are around.

Hope every works out for you and you get through this test and pass with flying colors.

[babycaps]

I have no advice. Just hope everything works out.

Although, I suppose you could make yourself a schedule of "i'm going to study from x to x time". Let DH know about it, and let ILs know that you will be excusing yourself to study. Even if you DON'T study during that determined time, it is "YOU" time and hopefully gives you a little break from all the stress.

But I feel like it's not at all bad that you NOT take on extra shit at work that you are not getting paid for.

[lakecountrygal]

Thanks ladies! I spent all night on work stuff (unpaid) and my boss emailed me back today and was completely understanding. I'm glad she was and now I can focus 100% on my test for the next week which will be nice. I'm just hoping that a week of studying is enough for me to pass the test the first time.