DH always says he prefers sex when I'm drunk....it actually makes me feel really bad.
Why does this make you feel bad? When you're drunk you're likely more relaxed & able to enjoy it more, therefore it's more enjoyable for him. What's bad about that?
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DH always says he prefers sex when I'm drunk....it actually makes me feel really bad.
Why does this make you feel bad? When you're drunk you're likely more relaxed & able to enjoy it more, therefore it's more enjoyable for him. What's bad about that?
I think because I get actual drunk like maybe twice a year. And he gets so excited about the sex. My self conscious mind thinks he doesn't like it when I'm sober (which is obviously not the case).
Thinking about giving it an honest try. Any thoughts, tips?
I have tried it a few times after being told it would get better by multiple sources that it would get better and I would enjoy it at some point. NO!
To each their own, butt (see what I did there?) I never liked it. Not even one bit. I tried slow, drunk, after foreplay and always with plenty of lube. Nope nope nope!! Always hurt during and after.
Post by wowcheezits on May 22, 2015 7:59:20 GMT -5
My sister asked me to help move / clean her duplex this weekend. It's got 8 years of clutter and trash that I'm not really looking forward to it. I gave her the dates and times I'm available because MH works 3rd on the weekends and I got the toddler. I told her that she can have my 16 year old to help anytime. She hasn't gotten back to me about it since Wednesday. FFFC: I'm not going to follow up and ask her when she needs me because I don't want to. If she wants me to help that much she can get back to me and let me know when she wants me to come help.
Why does this make you feel bad? When you're drunk you're likely more relaxed & able to enjoy it more, therefore it's more enjoyable for him. What's bad about that?
I think because I get actual drunk like maybe twice a year. And he gets so excited about the sex. My self conscious mind thinks he doesn't like it when I'm sober (which is obviously not the case).
Wow I totally thought you meant bad as in a little freak... That's what it does to me haha
Why does this make you feel bad? When you're drunk you're likely more relaxed & able to enjoy it more, therefore it's more enjoyable for him. What's bad about that?
I think because I get actual drunk like maybe twice a year. And he gets so excited about the sex. My self conscious mind thinks he doesn't like it when I'm sober (which is obviously not the case).
The obvious solution is to drink MOAR. Do you like wine??
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Post by zombiesquad on May 22, 2015 8:07:41 GMT -5
I will be absolutely useless at work today. Took down five bottles of wine during book club with four people. I'm not in a good place right now and I didn't read the book.
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I think because I get actual drunk like maybe twice a year. And he gets so excited about the sex. My self conscious mind thinks he doesn't like it when I'm sober (which is obviously not the case).
The obvious solution is to drink MOAR. Do you like wine??
Is this a real question?
Of course I like wine!! I just hate being drunk because I just don't handle hangovers well anymore lol. It takes me literally 2 days to recover. However, I fully plan on going to the liquor store at lunch to buy some more wine. I'm going to get DH a bottle of whiskey or something too as a special treat.
My sister asked me to help move / clean her duplex this weekend. It's got 8 years of clutter and trash that I'm not really looking forward to it. I gave her the dates and times I'm available because MH works 3rd on the weekends and I got the toddler. I told her that she can have my 16 year old to help anytime. She hasn't gotten back to me about it since Wednesday. FFFC: I'm not going to follow up and ask her when she needs me because I don't want to. If she wants me to help that much she can get back to me and let me know when she wants me to come help.
My sister asked me to help move / clean her duplex this weekend. It's got 8 years of clutter and trash that I'm not really looking forward to it. I gave her the dates and times I'm available because MH works 3rd on the weekends and I got the toddler. I told her that she can have my 16 year old to help anytime. She hasn't gotten back to me about it since Wednesday. FFFC: I'm not going to follow up and ask her when she needs me because I don't want to. If she wants me to help that much she can get back to me and let me know when she wants me to come help.
You're such a badass.
I know I'm a rebel. FWIW, she never helped me move both times in the last five years so I don't feel obligated. I feel a little guilty, but not obligated.
The obvious solution is to drink MOAR. Do you like wine??
Is this a real question?
Of course I like wine!! I just hate being drunk because I just don't handle hangovers well anymore lol. It takes me literally 2 days to recover. However, I fully plan on going to the liquor store at lunch to buy some more wine. I'm going to get DH a bottle of whiskey or something too as a special treat.
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Post by longhornwino0907 on May 22, 2015 8:22:01 GMT -5
This has absolutely nothing to do with anal sex. I have no opinions on that, honestly.
FFFC: I have conversations with my dog, and I answer for her in a voice I have developed specifically for her. She has a lisp and can't say the letter r correctly. She also responds to most scoldings or accusatory questions with, "But I'm pretty." I don't think conversations with pets is all that weird, but sometimes I wonder if the voice thing is.
Also, my dog has her own Instagram account. I'm now logged into her account to post more than I am my own account.
This has absolutely nothing to do with anal sex. I have no opinions on that, honestly.
FFFC: I have conversations with my dog, and I answer for her in a voice I have developed specifically for her. She has a lisp and can't say the letter r correctly. She also responds to most scoldings or accusatory questions with, "But I'm pretty." I don't think conversations with pets is all that weird, but sometimes I wonder if the voice thing is.
Also, my dog has her own Instagram account. I'm now logged into her account to post more than I am my own account.
Now I want to know your dog's instagram account. I mostly follow animal instagram accounts. (Maybe that's my FFFC?)
This has absolutely nothing to do with anal sex. I have no opinions on that, honestly.
FFFC: I have conversations with my dog, and I answer for her in a voice I have developed specifically for her. She has a lisp and can't say the letter r correctly. She also responds to most scoldings or accusatory questions with, "But I'm pretty." I don't think conversations with pets is all that weird, but sometimes I wonder if the voice thing is.
Also, my dog has her own Instagram account. I'm now logged into her account to post more than I am my own account.
Now I want to know your dog's instagram account. I mostly follow animal instagram accounts. (Maybe that's my FFFC?)
This has absolutely nothing to do with anal sex. I have no opinions on that, honestly.
FFFC: I have conversations with my dog, and I answer for her in a voice I have developed specifically for her. She has a lisp and can't say the letter r correctly. She also responds to most scoldings or accusatory questions with, "But I'm pretty." I don't think conversations with pets is all that weird, but sometimes I wonder if the voice thing is.
Also, my dog has her own Instagram account. I'm now logged into her account to post more than I am my own account.
I'm judging you. Maybe not in a super bad way, but definitely judging. You're kinda kooky.
Thinking about giving it an honest try. Any thoughts, tips?
Go slow. As in... not even diving right in and doing anal. If you have never done any "butt play" it's best to just start out with a finger to see how that goes. LOTS AND LOTS AND LOTS (and then even more than what you think you need) of lube!
Thinking about giving it an honest try. Any thoughts, tips?
My #1 tip besides lube- breathe. You'll want to hold your breath out of nerves but that makes you tense up which makes it more difficult. Remember to breath deeply at the beginning.
For me anal is alright every once in a while. First I must be fully aroused and I prefer double penetration so it must include a vibrator for vaginal pleasure and once I am about to orgasm I acknowledge my dh he is good to go. I do then have fabulous multiple orgasms. I will say if my h's penis was enormous it would be a no go and only finger play. I agree with going slowly at first and if you are uncomfortable/clenching no pleasure will be had. I don't drink but if I did definitely being tipsy the first few times would be a suggestion.
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I'm feeling weird about saying this, given the related circumstances surrounding BIL's death a year ago Monday, so I'm calling it a confession: I'm going to need a stiff drink or several to get through the emotional rollercoaster that will be this weekend.
I have no idea what this means, but hugs. Life can hurt. I'm sorry for your loss.
Plate full of penne ended up in his lap. We were at his parents house and he had to walk past his mom to get papertowels and a wash cloth. All he could say was that I threw up.
Plate full of penne ended up in his lap. We were at his parents house and he had to walk past his mom to get papertowels and a wash cloth. All he could say was that I threw up.
I have no idea what this means, but hugs. Life can hurt. I'm sorry for your loss.
My BIL had some pretty severe substance abuse issues, and died in a house fire of his own making a year ago this weekend. I spent the day before my first wedding anniversary scooping empty beer cans out of his living room floor with a snow shovel. Life can hurt, indeed. My in-laws are hosting a 'day of remembrance' this weekend; the whole family, and BIL's friends are getting together. It's going to be hard.
All the hugs. I can imagine how that would be a rollercoaster. Just know you're allowed to feel however you want, even if they are conflicting emotions.
I like finger play... but every time I've tried actual anal it has been a horrible experience, no matter how much lube and how slow I go. My butt is exit only plskthx.
I have no idea what this means, but hugs. Life can hurt. I'm sorry for your loss.
My BIL had some pretty severe substance abuse issues, and died in a house fire of his own making a year ago this weekend. I spent the day before my first wedding anniversary scooping empty beer cans out of his living room floor with a snow shovel. Life can hurt, indeed. My in-laws are hosting a 'day of remembrance' this weekend; the whole family, and BIL's friends are getting together. It's going to be hard.
All the *hugs*. I would start drinking now and not stop until Tuesday.
I have no idea what this means, but hugs. Life can hurt. I'm sorry for your loss.
My BIL had some pretty severe substance abuse issues, and died in a house fire of his own making a year ago this weekend. I spent the day before my first wedding anniversary scooping empty beer cans out of his living room floor with a snow shovel. Life can hurt, indeed. My in-laws are hosting a 'day of remembrance' this weekend; the whole family, and BIL's friends are getting together. It's going to be hard.
I'm so sorry. What a difficult and conflicting set of feelings you must have. I hope you and your family get through it together this weekend.
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