Post by theBeeMama on May 23, 2015 21:56:29 GMT -5
We talked a few weeks ago about how all of our significant others were handling all the pregnancy craziness and the impending arrival of LO's, but as most of us are either full term or very close to it, I thought I'd check in again.
How is your partner holding up? Any crazy/funny/infuriating moments between the two of you as things start to get real?
(And if you're doing this thing alone, I applaud you and stand with you. You're amazing!)
Post by theBeeMama on May 23, 2015 22:02:34 GMT -5
What made me think of this was something my husband said today...
My sister is a speshulllllllll SPECIAL snowflake and her dh is seriously accompanying her everywhere she goes to make sure she doesn't over do it because a couple days ago she had Braxton Hicks contractions for a couple hours...........
I cannot side eye hard enough!!!
But anyway, I was telling my dh about that and he was joining me in my gag fest over how ridiculous they are, and then I made some rude half-joking (but half serious!) comment about how he (husband) must not care that much about me because he never dotes on me or gives me special treatment, even at nine months pregnant. He responded by saying, "I don't treat you like a baby because you don't act like one. I know you're okay because you're strong and determined and independent and you don't need me to coddle you."
Strangely it was the best response and sweetest compliment he could have given me!
Post by laurenlou83 on May 23, 2015 22:06:41 GMT -5
DH is doing really well! He has stayed pretty calm and cool through the whole pregnancy. He has helped when I've needed and picked up the slack. He's gone out of his way to make sure I'm happy and comfortable, which I appreciate! Deep down he probably thinks I've been a little crazy or bitchy a few times, but he has kept his mouth shut
Now, every time I move, make a noise during BH or cramping he's like 'Is it time? Do we need to go? What do you need?'. I keep telling him to shush, I'll let him know when it's go time! It's kind of annoying, but cute at the same time
DH has morphed into a Mr. Fix-it/ handyman. He's busily building a deck, deck furniture, painting the nursery, etc. He's also very busy writing two books so I think he's feeling a lot of pressure to get his stuff done right now.
We still have five weeks so I'm interested to see how things go as we get closer.
DH is doing really well! He has stayed pretty calm and cool through the whole pregnancy. He has helped when I've needed and picked up the slack. He's gone out of his way to make sure I'm happy and comfortable, which I appreciate! Deep down he probably thinks I've been a little crazy or bitchy a few times, but he has kept his mouth shut
Now, every time I move, make a noise during BH or cramping he's like 'Is it time? Do we need to go? What do you need?'. I keep telling him to shush, I'll let him know when it's go time! It's kind of annoying, but cute at the same time
Post by honeybunches101 on May 23, 2015 22:25:19 GMT -5
I think my DH is finally starting to realize that we are having a baby. We have both been in denial because we've had a lot going on, buying a house and doing some renovations. Last week I had a momentary freak out that my water had broken and I told him I was worried because we have nothing at all ready. My mom came to visit with DS's car seat and RnP and I started going through baby clothes. Now that there's baby stuff around he is willing to start talking about names and packing a hospital bag. Did I mention I'm 36 weeks and baby is measuring full term? It's about time he is willing to discuss names!
Overall DH has been amazing and supportive. We were at a big party today and I caught him gushing about the baby and showing off the 3D ultrasound several times, which was really cute. He did have quite the slip up the other day, which was pretty funny. We were talking about how my fluid levels are high and can cause larger fundal measurements. I told him the OB had never mentioned that my measurements were unusual, only the numbers from the ultrasound and that I feel my belly is about average for this point. His response was "oh really?! I think you look huge!" I just looked at him and the statement was quickly retracted.
Today DH was sitting on the couch staring at me and I pretended to ignore him for a good 10 minutes, then finally asked exasperatedly what he wanted. He was like, "Well I want to ask if you're ok but I think I've been asking too often cuz last time you yelled at me." lol its so true! He constantly asks if I'm ok and how I'm doing, and I give the same answer every time...then half an hour later he asks again. It's sweet but kind of annoying. I have def been a lot more uncomfortable and having a lot more symptoms the last few weeks so I think he's just worried about the sudden increase but omg I may throat punch him if he doesn't stop creepily watching me all the time!
We talked a few weeks ago about how all of our significant others were handling all the pregnancy craziness and the impending arrival of LO's, but as most of us are either full term or very close to it, I thought I'd check in again.
How is your partner holding up? Any crazy/funny/infuriating moments between the two of you as things start to get real?
(And if you're doing this thing alone, I applaud you and stand with you. You're amazing!)
He washed the floors in the bathroom and kitchen today. He has done 95% of the cooking for the four of us since October. He also cleaned out the chicken coop today (nastiest job ever). He's in the process of completely changing careers. I really have no room to complain about anything (although seriously dude, is the phone attached to you via umbilical cord??).
Mine is getting really excited, he has been talking so much about the baby coming, which has really only started lately. He also totally flipped out when I had a long episode of BH today. I am glad it's finally real for him because I felt like I was waiting for him to get with the program, lol.
So cute, when we were out to dinner tonight, the manager came by and said "are you OK? You look like you are ready to go" (which pissed me off kinda and I took it as "please don't have a baby in my restaurant"). DH just smiled huge and said," yup, really soon! " while I gave the guy the stink eye.
DH is doing ok, he's excited. He enjoyed the first few months of DS1's life far more than I did so, he's looking forward to it.
His SS moment of the week: I pulled a muscle in my upper back 2-3 days ago, but I can't remember when or how. It hurts if I breathe too deeply. DH has been on the look out for symptoms related to pulmonary embolism bc he says "the pain would be very similar."
Post by leenziepops on May 24, 2015 3:05:45 GMT -5
My DH is getting so many gold stars. He helped me all yesterday morning as I got into a cleaning frenzy. He gets a bit emotional when he peeps in to see the nursery progress. It's so cute!
DH is acting the same as he always has. I don't think this will hit either of us fully until she's here. I will say, he's much more eager to tend to the lawn and landscaping. He mows like twice a week now. I can't tell if it's because we now own this house and he feels a deeper obligation, or if that's his nesting. We just bought this house in March.
He fought me a bit about taking more than one week off work when she arrives. That's a prime indicator that he has no idea what it's going to be like. I guarantee he will take the full 2 once she gets here.
Post by tinavonsparkle on May 24, 2015 5:05:54 GMT -5
We had a full day of antenatal classes yesterday and SO kept coming out with right answers to so many questions which really suprised me - he had been listening to me after all! After the class he told me how under the thumb thd other dads seemed to be, which I think made him realise in comparison how relaxed with him I am (he's best man on a stag do in Madrid for 4 days the week before our due date!) He's super keen for any DIY jobs too - I'm happy to rent him out..!
H has been a rock star. He massages my swollen feet and ankles every night, he helps me put on my shoes, and I heard him giving actual informed advice that we learned about in our childbirth class!
He didn't know what a boppy was used for yesterday which was funny. Or a Boon drying rack when he was the one who picked it out!
DH was really scared and worried at first. Until at my 36 week appt the doctor said I would probably have her soon since I was dilated at a four(right here I am two weeks later still the same...) but it lit a fire under his ass and he got everything done and now he's more anxious then I am about her coming. This whole pregnancy he has been freaking about how little time we had and now he can't wait for her to get here! It's so cute! And he makes me sit down like all the time and gets mad if I get up to grab water from the kitchen. I will admit that I am in a lot of pain lately and have been kind of whiney about it. He's being really sweet!
I honestly missed my H this week, he stayed with me at the hospital last Friday night, and then I didn't see him again until this Friday night! But, its because he's been super busy getting our house together! He and family moved all of our stuff in last week, out of storage. And he's spent the rest of the week (evenings) at the house unpacking and organizing stuff and getting the kids bedrooms ready, which I can't complain about!
Once we got the date for delivery he's been super excited (not that he wasn't before). But on the phone last night he just burst out with "Tuesday Nugget is going to be born!!". It was so cute. He's also been helping prep J for being a big sister some too. She told me yesterday "I gonna be a big sister mommy!" My heart about burst open.
My H is quite awesome. I'll admit to being a huge nervous wreck SS around weeks 35-36 because I started freaking out about delivering preterm again. He was really understanding and just really supportive to my thoughts and feelings and I never felt alone through it.
Now in the last week my hips/pelvis have reached a whole new level of discomfort overnight. I can generally sleep through it, but with getting up to pee 4 or 5 times it feels like a constant struggle getting in and out of bed. I genuinely do try not to wake H, but when he wakes up he always asks if I'm ok and then helps with the pillow fort arrangement haha. Also, the two guys on his admin team also are dads with young babies/kids and the three of them talk kids and they ask how I'm doing and stuff, I just think that is cute too.
Anyway, I feel like there are lots of little things I could say, but in general, I really appreciate him and he really appreciates me
Post by apollo11235 on May 24, 2015 9:15:38 GMT -5
DH is great. He's been helping me when I ask and treating me like a normal person the rest of the time, reading to the baby pretty regularly, and working hard to try to get as much of his thesis done before the baby as possible (it's due in early July). This leaves me with most of the nesting responsibilities since I just finished school, but I don't mind because I know I'll need him more after Kiddo is here.
We did go to Target yesterday to spend some gift cards, and he was adorable about all the baby clothes and just *had* to get a cute little bear rattle.
Post by silv3rlining on May 24, 2015 12:59:57 GMT -5
My DH has been awesome! This is our 2nd baby. He is so excited to meet his baby girl. He does however keep getting on me about the fact I haven't packed my hospital bag yet (but considering I'm 38w and I've had a lot of contrax this weekend I don't blame him)
He just finished sweeping out the nursery after we prepped the upstairs for floor refinishing tomorrow. I laid in bed a lot today (helped too of course!) He's awesome.
Post by flbabychin on May 24, 2015 20:21:17 GMT -5
I feel like MH has been increasingly supportive and excited as we get closer to the due date. I think at the beginning, he was much more unaware of how much things were/are going to change with a LO, but he has really been active in our birth classes, has been very supportive of my birthing preferences, and has been really helpful around the house.
He has also been so aware of others' babies and children lately, and I am so excited to see him become a father. He is so genuinely proud that we are having a baby together (especially a boy to carry on his name), and that makes my heart gush.
MH's excitement has kicked in based on his need to get all things finished immediately and his new obsession will all house projects, updating our budget, etc. Now that we have a date set for arrival (12 days away, yay!) he is on a mission to make sure the house is perfect and I have everything I need. He's definitely more into seeing/feeling baby's movement and any time I make the smallest noise he is on high alert like "this is it!!" I probably won't go into labor before my c-section but if I do, he's going to be running around like an excited madman.
K's been great at both giving me my distance and helping when I need it. We've had a few talks where I told her I need to smarten up because this is really difficult sometimes, but if they're not pregnant, how can they relate?
Regardless... I've been what I call "extreme nesting" for the last week and a half now. I'm constantly being asked if I need help, and to be careful I don't overdo it, but I'm not being told to lay around (which would drive me batty right now). I like my space when I'm determined
She IS however wanting him to come as soon as it's healthy. She is SO excited to meet this little guy, it's honestly the most awesome thing. Not that I'm willing to share him yet
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