MBF 5/25

[Lola]

I know I'm being the biggest bitch but I can't help it. We had friends ask if they could come stay with us for the weekend and do some touristy stuff. We ordered in dinner Friday night. I bought and made lunches for Saturday. We bought baseball game tickets. They left Sunday, left everything a huge mess and didn't offer to split the cost of anything. They basically invited themselves on a vacation to our house that we paid for.

[liziz]

Lola that stinks! That's a good way to not get invited back ever again!
Now I'm feeling bad - we stayed with friends this weekend and they fed us pretty well, but we cleaned up after ourselves, and helped with dishes/cooking/managing kiddos.

[Lola]

May 25, 2015 10:55:45 GMT -5 liziz said:

Lola that stinks! That's a good way to not get invited back ever again!
Now I'm feeling bad - we stayed with friends this weekend and they fed us pretty well, but we cleaned up after ourselves, and helped with dishes/cooking/managing kiddos.

I would have been happy if they cleaned. It was like a free for all at our house and I was the chef and maid.

[liziz]

My MBF: we were getting ready to head home from our friends' house this morning, and we planned to leave after LO's second feed (about 8am). So I got LO ready, and me, and picked everything but H's clothes that he was putting on, and somehow in the half hour I was nursing, he didn't manage to load the car, and instead started working on 2 computer projects to help our friends. So, thanks for ruining the babies schedule. Grrr. At least she's happily sleeping in the car.

[lucanjo14]

Lola they should have at least helped clean or paid for food at the game or something! That stinks.

[lucanjo14]

My MBF/plea for help is that DS won't nap. At all. He will if we lay with him but flat out refuses to nap in his crib. He's sleeping all night for the most part now, which is awesome. But I know he gets tired during that day and needs to nap. Any tips for daytime naps?
Eta: really think at least 1 daytime nap needs to be had/routine figured out by the time this next baby comes or it will be disastrous.

[liziz]

Aaaaand...H just got a speeding ticket.

[liziz]

May 25, 2015 11:09:10 GMT -5 lucanjo14 said:

My MBF/plea for help is that DS won't nap. At all. He will if we lay with him but flat out refuses to nap in his crib. He's sleeping all night for the most part now, which is awesome. But I know he gets tired during that day and needs to nap. Any tips for daytime naps?
Eta: really think at least 1 daytime nap needs to be had/routine figured out by the time this next baby comes or it will be disastrous.

Ours doesn't nap on the weekends. She's gotten better, but it still stinks, and we often get maybe an hour all day, and half of that is usually on one of us.
We've done some CIO, but we'll also decide she'll spend 30 min or an hour in her crib. She cries, she plays, sometimes she falls asleep. No matter what, she's quiet and doesn't need our attention for a while.

[jnnfrrose6]

Von Maur is closed for the holiday. Drove out to the mall with both kids specifically to go there and get DD's dress for her birthday and they weren't open. I had a few other errands to do, but that was the main reason for driving out there. I could have done everything else closer to home.

[lea]

DH is home after his long trip (yay!) but man, he is the worst at leaving shit out all over the place.

[soon2bmrsn]

May 25, 2015 11:09:10 GMT -5 lucanjo14 said:

My MBF/plea for help is that DS won't nap. At all. He will if we lay with him but flat out refuses to nap in his crib. He's sleeping all night for the most part now, which is awesome. But I know he gets tired during that day and needs to nap. Any tips for daytime naps?
Eta: really think at least 1 daytime nap needs to be had/routine figured out by the time this next baby comes or it will be disastrous.

No nap advice because I'm in the same boat! Since Friday, DD has only napped on me or in the car. Sucks!!!!

[soon2bmrsn]

May 25, 2015 11:21:47 GMT -5 liziz said:

May 25, 2015 11:09:10 GMT -5 lucanjo14 said:

My MBF/plea for help is that DS won't nap. At all. He will if we lay with him but flat out refuses to nap in his crib. He's sleeping all night for the most part now, which is awesome. But I know he gets tired during that day and needs to nap. Any tips for daytime naps?
Eta: really think at least 1 daytime nap needs to be had/routine figured out by the time this next baby comes or it will be disastrous.

Ours doesn't nap on the weekends. She's gotten better, but it still stinks, and we often get maybe an hour all day, and half of that is usually on one of us.
We've done some CIO, but we'll also decide she'll spend 30 min or an hour in her crib. She cries, she plays, sometimes she falls asleep. No matter what, she's quiet and doesn't need our attention for a while.

Yep, I'm trying that this week. I can't take it anymore. I'm usually anti-CIO but I refuse to spend half the day trying to get her to nap. She has to be able to take one solid nap in a crib by the time she goes to daycare in August so I need to make it happen anyway.

[soon2bmrsn]

May 25, 2015 13:01:58 GMT -5 @iheartmyshiba said:

This is the state of our house, DH goes back to work tomorrow, and we are headed to our friends for the afternoon. F me.

We shall revive the accountability thread this week, friend! I took a week off.

[soon2bmrsn]

May 25, 2015 10:59:25 GMT -5 Lola said:

May 25, 2015 10:55:45 GMT -5 liziz said:

Lola that stinks! That's a good way to not get invited back ever again!
Now I'm feeling bad - we stayed with friends this weekend and they fed us pretty well, but we cleaned up after ourselves, and helped with dishes/cooking/managing kiddos.

I would have been happy if they cleaned. It was like a free for all at our house and I was the chef and maid.

That's the worst.

[soon2bmrsn]

I could have combined all of my replies into one post, but - so close to bronze reg!!!!

[Deleted]

May 25, 2015 13:59:18 GMT -5 @zerozeroone said:

May 25, 2015 11:11:00 GMT -5 liziz said:

Aaaaand...H just got a speeding ticket.

I got one once and did traffic school. The whole thing was so expensive I've been careful since. Drives DH crazy how I don't drive too much over the speed limit.

Lola, I'm sorry your friends were shitty house guests. I'd be pretty pissed too.

My bitch: I've had a terrible sore throat since Thursday so I didn't get anything done I wanted this weekend. I pretty much only have a sore throat so I kept waiting for a fever thinking it was bacterial but nothing. Today my nose is a little runny so I'm pretty convinced it's a stupid virus.

Maybe it's Strep? I never get a fever with it. Just a horrible sore throat!

[bigrock74]

There's a virus going around here but I doubt you caught it from anyone in Canada. I feel like I'm catching a bit of something. My throat is a little scratchy and I have been feeling off since yesterday. Spencer has a cold and was up coughing most of last night. I hope I'm not getting sick, I'm going away this weekend with my girlfriends.

ETA: My neck is freaking killing me. I must have slept weird last night because I can barely turn it to the left. Fack!

[soon2bmrsn]

Here's a very general one. I feel like a single parent much of the time, and it sucks.

[honeybee434]

May 25, 2015 10:41:18 GMT -5 Lola said:

I know I'm being the biggest bitch but I can't help it. We had friends ask if they could come stay with us for the weekend and do some touristy stuff. We ordered in dinner Friday night. I bought and made lunches for Saturday. We bought baseball game tickets. They left Sunday, left everything a huge mess and didn't offer to split the cost of anything. They basically invited themselves on a vacation to our house that we paid for.

Not being a bitch, I would have been pissed! Did they even awknowlege that you paid for so much?

[jnnfrrose6]

My dog (the one who had surgery last week) has peed in the house 3 times in the last 24 hours. Twice right in front of us. The surgery was supposed to cut down the accidents, not increase them.

[honeybee434]

May 25, 2015 15:42:01 GMT -5 soon2bmrsn said:

Here's a very general one. I feel like a single parent much of the time, and it sucks.

I'm with you on this one. It starting to wear on me a bit. I had a 3 day weekend and DH worked the entire time. We've had two full days off at the same time in the last 2 months. I feel like I don't do anything because I'm stuck in this place where my SAHM friends do activities during the week when things aren't as busy, and my Working mom friends do things on the weekends with their spouses. So DD and I are just stuck alone all of the time. We see DH on nights sometimes and then he sees her in the mornings because he goes in later than I do most days. He and I will get to go out to dinner on a random weekend night once every other night, but we don't ever have any family time because he isn't off weekend days. It sucks.

[soon2bmrsn]

May 25, 2015 15:58:07 GMT -5 honeybee434 said:

May 25, 2015 15:42:01 GMT -5 soon2bmrsn said:

Here's a very general one. I feel like a single parent much of the time, and it sucks.

I'm with you on this one. It starting to wear on me a bit. I had a 3 day weekend and DH worked the entire time. We've had two full days off at the same time in the last 2 months. I feel like I don't do anything because I'm stuck in this place where my SAHM friends do activities during the week when things aren't as busy, and my Working mom friends do things on the weekends with their spouses. So DD and I are just stuck alone all of the time. We see DH on nights sometimes and then he sees her in the mornings because he goes in later than I do most days. He and I will get to go out to dinner on a random weekend night once every other night, but we don't ever have any family time because he isn't off weekend days. It sucks.

Hugs.

I feel like I deal with it well most of the time because I'm used to it; he's worked long hours since we've been married (coming up on 11 years). But we're closing in on almost a year of me having literally not one day of "me" time. I seriously haven't even been able to get out and shop for a swimsuit or non-maternity shorts, both of which I desperately need. But the lack of family time is the worst. This weekend wasn't even too bad -- he's been working in the yard and on work stuff but we've managed to have a cookout with the neighbors, take the kids to the pool and have pizza, etc. I'm just super jealous of families who get all weekend every weekend together. I'd be thrilled with that at this point. Or just a break. Or, hell, for him to do baths/bedtime just for one night.

/whine

[Lola]

May 25, 2015 15:54:28 GMT -5 honeybee434 said:

May 25, 2015 10:41:18 GMT -5 Lola said:

I know I'm being the biggest bitch but I can't help it. We had friends ask if they could come stay with us for the weekend and do some touristy stuff. We ordered in dinner Friday night. I bought and made lunches for Saturday. We bought baseball game tickets. They left Sunday, left everything a huge mess and didn't offer to split the cost of anything. They basically invited themselves on a vacation to our house that we paid for.

Not being a bitch, I would have been pissed! Did they even awknowlege that you paid for so much?

Not a word. I sort of thought the squared up with Dh at some point but nope. We are going on vacation with them in July. I'm dreading it now.

[jnnfrrose6]

May 25, 2015 17:31:46 GMT -5 Lola said:

May 25, 2015 15:54:28 GMT -5 honeybee434 said:

Not being a bitch, I would have been pissed! Did they even awknowlege that you paid for so much?

Not a word. I sort of thought the squared up with Dh at some point but nope. We are going on vacation with them in July. I'm dreading it now.

When you go out to dinner in July, leave the table a few minutes early (right after the check shows) using LO as an excuse (tired, poopy diaper, fussy, whatever works) and stick them with the check. 

[Lola]

May 25, 2015 17:53:55 GMT -5 jnnfrrose6 said:

May 25, 2015 17:31:46 GMT -5 Lola said:

Not a word. I sort of thought the squared up with Dh at some point but nope. We are going on vacation with them in July. I'm dreading it now.

When you go out to dinner in July, leave the table a few minutes early (right after the check shows) using LO as an excuse (tired, poopy diaper, fussy, whatever works) and stick them with the check. 

We are sharing a condo. I feel like they would just say something later. And I don't want to stoop to their level. We are making a mental note for the vacation. I think before we order/go out/ make plans I will verify that we are splitting it.

[jnnfrrose6]

May 25, 2015 15:57:22 GMT -5 jnnfrrose6 said:

My dog (the one who had surgery last week) has peed in the house 3 times in the last 24 hours. Twice right in front of us. The surgery was supposed to cut down the accidents, not increase them.

And we just had accident #4. On our bed. On my side. 

[jnnfrrose6]

May 25, 2015 22:53:18 GMT -5 @iheartmyshiba said:

May 25, 2015 21:37:58 GMT -5 jnnfrrose6 said:

And we just had accident #4. On our bed. On my side. 

Sorry :-(

She's still going. Woke up to a dried puddle in the bathroom. Same spot as accident #2. Calling the vet this morning. She's on a new food that's supposed to make her need to pee more, but this is ridiculous. It's not like she doesn't get to go outside and pee regularly. 

[mary1217]

May 25, 2015 11:21:47 GMT -5 liziz said:

May 25, 2015 11:09:10 GMT -5 lucanjo14 said:

My MBF/plea for help is that DS won't nap. At all. He will if we lay with him but flat out refuses to nap in his crib. He's sleeping all night for the most part now, which is awesome. But I know he gets tired during that day and needs to nap. Any tips for daytime naps?
Eta: really think at least 1 daytime nap needs to be had/routine figured out by the time this next baby comes or it will be disastrous.

Ours doesn't nap on the weekends. She's gotten better, but it still stinks, and we often get maybe an hour all day, and half of that is usually on one of us.
We've done some CIO, but we'll also decide she'll spend 30 min or an hour in her crib. She cries, she plays, sometimes she falls asleep. No matter what, she's quiet and doesn't need our attention for a while.

DD took two one hour naps yesterday.  It was a miracle.  Normally she takes two naps one usually being 30 minutes one being an hour, and she is always cranky after the 30 minute nap.  It was so nice her not being cranky from being tired yesterday. 

[Leapinglizards]

May 26, 2015 5:49:14 GMT -5 TheCoffeeNinja said:

May 25, 2015 22:54:06 GMT -5 @iheartmyshiba said:

Mbug now stands in her crib. At bedtime. Crying. Trying to eat the monitor. All the things. Ugh. Took 45 minutes to get her down!

DD started standing in hers 2 days ago and it's on the second lowest setting but we leave in 2 weeks. Do I dismantle the crib for 2 weeks or leave it for now since she's not tall enough for it to be a danger yet? Grrargh, will change it but it's time-consuming and I don't want to >.<

I'm just saying my DD climbed out of the crib so I would lower it. I thought it was on the lowest setting but it turned out to be one of the middle settings. Better safe then sorry

[Liv]

I agree with Leapinglizards! I figured lowering it all the way even if it wasn't necessary yet would be better than finding out I was wrong!