Need to vent: Woe is me

[fiveohfive]

Sorry ladies but I just need to vent

As you know DD1 was diagnosed with a lung mass prenatally and had it removed in January. It was almost 2 years of stress and we were so happy to have it behind us and that she was 100% healed before DD2 came in April.

DD2 broke her clavicle at birth and had to have her arm pinned in a sling fashion daily to allow it to heal properly. It was a shock but nothing we couldn't handle after DD1s lung issues. Well we had her 6 week follow up today and the orthopedic doctor recommended we get a hip ultrasound since she was breech until 32 weeks and since I do ultrasound and could visit my coworkers, I figured why not. Well LO tested positive for hip dysplasia and now has to wear a sling 24/7 for the next month or until the dysplasia is resolved and then half time for an additional 3 months after that.

I can't help but feel like my kids are getting shit on. I wish it was all happening to me and not to them and am beginning to become resentful and have the "why me?" Attitude. I'm thankful that all are curable issues without long-term effects, but I can't help but be angry and somewhat depressed. I feel terrible for feeling this way when I know things could be so much worse.

I have an appointment with my OB for my six week check up tomorrow and I'm going to make sure I'm not borderline PPD. I think it's more anger than anything else but I have been feeling off for a few weeks anyway and this is just adding to it. Thank you S13 for letting me bitch.

[af1004]

Awww, she's such a sweetie! You've been though so munch! I think anyone would feel the way you do.... at least you try to keep a positive attitude, realizing it could be worse. I think a lot of people would just be why me. You have real strength to go through all you have! Be proud of yourself and your family! Hugs!


Sorry S13 I've not been around much lately, I've checked in on you all lately but haven't taken the time to post.

[lilqt3929]

OMG, such a cutie!

It's so difficult to see things happen to your LO's especially when they are so young. I know you're grateful that these things are just temporary and I really applaud you for how you have been dealing with DD1 and now DD2 as these things have come up. It's not easy and we all need our own time to vent when faced with obstacles but remember that's all this is. Once DD2 has overcome this I really hope and pray that nothing else arises and you get some time to enjoy those precious little girls of yours. To me your feelings are completely normal for the circumstances but it never hurts to mention it to a doctor, if anything at least they can reassure you about how you are feeling.

[Unknown]

((hugs)) Dang girl, you have dealt w/ more than your fair share. Hopefully dd2's hip dysplasia resolves quickly. My LO had it too, and resolved fairly quickly.

[carli]

Oh she is beautiful! I'm sorry you are going through all of this and know it must be so tough on you. You're so strong and such a good mommy though and it's clear in your posts! I agree with PPs that what you are feeling is completely understandable! I hope are able to relax and feel better about it all soon. And like jnetx said, hopefully the time flies by and your baby will be free to wiggle soon!

[fiveohfive]

Thank you guys so much. Venting really helped me see the big picture and your sweet responses are the pick me up that I needed! I know we will get through this, just wish we didn't have to.

Unknown--- did your LO have to wear the Pavlik harness? If so, do you have any tricks or advice?

Eta: the GYN agrees I have the baby blues but not PPD. I am headed back in two weeks for an IUD insertion and will have another evaluation of my symptoms then... Hopefully I'll be on the up and up

Thanks again S13!

[Unknown]

Sorry no advice. She did not. We were originally told and set up the apt to get the harness, but at the u/s right before there was enough improvement to wait it out. After 4 u/s she was considered normal and were cleared.

[salemkitty]

@fiveohfive
I'm glad the venting helped. You have been through a lot and it can wear at a person. I hope Dd2 hip displasia heals quickly and that your baby blues clear up

[happymama]

Your feelings are completely valid. There is always someone out there who has it worse than you, but that doesn't mean that your situation isn't hard. Feeling frustrated, angry, and stressed is perfectly understandable. Seeing your babies suffer is especially painful and stressful. We haven't been through nearly as much as you, but DH and I totally felt the same way after DD's last diagnosis. After a couple years of constant doctor and hospital visits, and a new diagnosis every time you turn around, I don't think there is a parent out there who wouldn't be feeling pretty discouraged and frustrated right now. Hang is there...I hope this will be the end of your babies' medical troubles for a while!

[redfraggle]

Oh, hugs!

DS was diagnosed with HD at his 12 mo. check up. We didn't have the pavlik harness, but he did have to have a closed reduction at 15 months and spent 3 months in a hip spica cast, followed by several months in a rhino brace part time. It sucks. I get it because that was one of many issues DS has had to deal with. (I realized this morning that his last surgery was more than a year ago and really hope we'll make it to his birthday without anything major cropping up.) It isn't going to be easy, but you are going to get through this. Thankfully, your kids are young enough that they shouldn't be very scarred by it. Baby Center has a good Hip Dysplasia group, and I think Facebook does too. You are not alone or unreasonable in your feelings. Every parent needs help.

T&Ps coming your and your LOs ways!

[annarose]

{{hugs}}

I think what your feeling sounds pretty normal and I am glad venting helped!! (( I'm sad I'm late to this because it seems I missed a cute picture)) Newborns can be tough no matter if it's your first or your fifth (or so I would imagine). To add on top of that just sucks! Remeber the newborn motto "this to shall pass"

[fiveohfive]

redfraggle- I have been looking up as much information as I can on hip dysplasia and I can't imagine how difficult it was to have a child in a spica cast compared to the Pavlik harness...You're a super mom! Really hope she can be cured without the cast, but if she needs it I'm glad I have someone I can ask questions! Thanks!

[sugarkissed]

fiveohfive, I don't know how I missed this post, and I'm also sad that I missed the cute photo! I'm glad that the other ladies all responded a lot sooner. I agree that you are totally justified in venting, we'd all feel the same in that situation. You are such a good mommy and I hope that DD2 heals quickly and that the baby blues are short lived.

[junewife]

You're totally justified in venting and you have a lot to deal with! Wishing your family the best

[wowcheezits]

Hopefully this will be all your kids will need to go through for a very long time. Your babies are in my prayers.