UO 05/28

[Lola]

@iheartmyshiba,I would watch it too. Im sad that this was brought up and the girls that were molested are having to deal with it again. It is sad that they are using this as a reason to be closer to God. This weeks SavageLovecast (podcast) was really interesting. He went over what they are taught about sexual abuse in their homeschooling program, and it was so sad to hear that it was based on the girls being the cause of it happening.

[mary1217]

I dislike shows like - dancing with the stars, so you think you can dance, american idol, America's Got Talent, etc. These type of shows started aggravating me mainly because how every little aspect of the show has like a 5 minute build up to something minor. If you don't have enough content to fill a one hour time slot then make the show 30 minutes.

[mary1217]

May 28, 2015 7:45:29 GMT -5 Lola said:

@iheartmyshiba,I would watch it too. Im sad that this was brought up and the girls that were molested are having to deal with it again. It is sad that they are using this as a reason to be closer to God. This weeks SavageLovecast (podcast) was really interesting. He went over what they are taught about sexual abuse in their homeschooling program, and it was so sad to hear that it was based on the girls being the cause of it happening.

This is completely absurd.  What is wrong with people.  

[Lola]

May 28, 2015 7:50:48 GMT -5 mary1217 said:

May 28, 2015 7:45:29 GMT -5 Lola said:

@iheartmyshiba,I would watch it too. Im sad that this was brought up and the girls that were molested are having to deal with it again. It is sad that they are using this as a reason to be closer to God. This weeks SavageLovecast (podcast) was really interesting. He went over what they are taught about sexual abuse in their homeschooling program, and it was so sad to hear that it was based on the girls being the cause of it happening.

This is completely absurd.  What is wrong with people.  

I know! If I remember correctly, it was something like "would you rather not have sexual abuse, or go through it and get these super powers that God gives for you for going through it? Like if they just went along with it, they were stronger and closer to God, so its better off to have it happen. 

[mary1217]

May 28, 2015 7:55:59 GMT -5 Lola said:

May 28, 2015 7:50:48 GMT -5 mary1217 said:

This is completely absurd.  What is wrong with people.  

I know! If I remember correctly, it was something like "would you rather not have sexual abuse, or go through it and get these super powers that God gives for you for going through it? Like if they just went along with it, they were stronger and closer to God, so its better off to have it happen. 

Whoever is teaching our youth this needs to be executed.

ETA: They should be raped and then executed.  

[Lola]

My UO: I keep having dreams with my ex husband in them. Very unpopular with me. He is haunting me.

[soon2bmrsn]

May 28, 2015 7:55:59 GMT -5 Lola said:

May 28, 2015 7:50:48 GMT -5 mary1217 said:

This is completely absurd.  What is wrong with people.  

I know! If I remember correctly, it was something like "would you rather not have sexual abuse, or go through it and get these super powers that God gives for you for going through it? Like if they just went along with it, they were stronger and closer to God, so its better off to have it happen. 

That is the most utterly ridiculous thing I have ever heard.

[lea]

I won't watch anything with Josh, Jim Bob, or Michelle. I would be more likely to watch a spinoff with the Duggar girls but I don't really know what would make their show interesting. Couples in their 20s having kids...it'll be over a decade before they have enough kids to make it interesting.

Now, if any of them do a spinoff like Breaking Amish where they go rogue from the cult they grew up in, I might watch.

I'm really, REALLY disgusted at the amount of Christians sticking up for the family and brushing this off as a teenage mistake and "sin is sin and he repented so all is good" and all that. Just last night I was following a thread on Facebook where like 1 person out of 7 or so actually said, no, it's still really, really wrong. One even wrote "He just fondled them, it's not like he raped them." OMG when is it EVER okay for ANYONE to touch another person sexually on their genitals without their permission??? Neverfuckingmind when the victim is a CHILD. I know this particular thread was a bunch of really conservative/fundie Christians and I'm hoping they're just kind of uninformed about the whole situation and cult the Duggars belong to and not that they think this is acceptable because it's what they've also grown up with. =\

ETA: I saw someone bring this up elsewhere and would love to ask some of these people...what if he had molested his BROTHERS? Would they be so willing to just let it go? It actually makes me feel 10x worse for the girls when I think about how different their reactions would likely be if he'd done it to boys instead.

[bigrock74]

Call me old school, but I think that schools should have the right to enforce certain dress codes. I understand and agree that women/girls should have the right to wear whatever they want and that men/boys should be taught to respect that and not turn it into something sexual. BUT, I don't think it is ok to go to school in a crop top (see video), super short skirt or anything else revealing. 

ETA: my video didn't post, so here is the link. Also, I was considering attending this school back in the day!
www.facebook.com/torontostar/videos/10153367097936151/?fref=nf

www.facebook.com/torontostar/videos/10153367097936151/?fref=nf

[liziz]

May 28, 2015 9:26:20 GMT -5 Cdnfroggy said:

Lola I also found the Savage Lovecast really interesting this week.
lea that's awful thing to say, it shouldn't matter if he "just" groped them, it's still very very wrong. The whole situation is sick and I wish the statute of limitations hadn't run out.

My UO: I loved iced tea (like chilled tea). Sorry it's a lame one today.

....runs off to download said podcast for listening

I don't really care for hot tea, but I LOVE iced tea on a warm day.

[lea]

May 28, 2015 9:39:34 GMT -5 bigrock74 said:

Call me old school, but I think that schools should have the right to enforce certain dress codes. I understand and agree that women/girls should have the right to wear whatever they want and that men/boys should be taught to respect that and not turn it into something sexual. BUT, I don't think it is ok to go to school in a crop top (see video), super short skirt or anything else revealing. 

ETA: my video didn't post, so here is the link. Also, I was considering attending this school back in the day!
www.facebook.com/torontostar/videos/10153367097936151/?fref=nf

www.facebook.com/torontostar/videos/10153367097936151/?fref=nf

I absolutely agree that dress codes should be enforced. While not a professional environment necessarily, it's still good practice to learn how to dress appropriately for your "job" (which, as a teen, is going to school). My only issue is with administrators who cite stirring up boys' sexual thoughts as reasons for girls not to dress in a certain way. There are a dozen other ways you can say why someone's clothes are inappropriate for the setting they're in without blaming them for making the opposite sex want to have sex with them.

This reminds me at the last school I worked at before I had kids we had a parent called because her daughter needed more appropriate clothes for school and she screamed at the VP that she pays taxes and therefore she should be able to dictate if her daughter's clothes are suitable for school. Nutcase.

[bigrock74]

May 28, 2015 10:20:46 GMT -5 lea said:

May 28, 2015 9:39:34 GMT -5 bigrock74 said:

Call me old school, but I think that schools should have the right to enforce certain dress codes. I understand and agree that women/girls should have the right to wear whatever they want and that men/boys should be taught to respect that and not turn it into something sexual. BUT, I don't think it is ok to go to school in a crop top (see video), super short skirt or anything else revealing. 

ETA: my video didn't post, so here is the link. Also, I was considering attending this school back in the day!
www.facebook.com/torontostar/videos/10153367097936151/?fref=nf

www.facebook.com/torontostar/videos/10153367097936151/?fref=nf

I absolutely agree that dress codes should be enforced. While not a professional environment necessarily, it's still good practice to learn how to dress appropriately for your "job" (which, as a teen, is going to school). My only issue is with administrators who cite stirring up boys' sexual thoughts as reasons for girls not to dress in a certain way. There are a dozen other ways you can say why someone's clothes are inappropriate for the setting they're in without blaming them for making the opposite sex want to have sex with them.

This reminds me at the last school I worked at before I had kids we had a parent called because her daughter needed more appropriate clothes for school and she screamed at the VP that she pays taxes and therefore she should be able to dictate if her daughter's clothes are suitable for school. Nutcase.

Yep! Did you watch the video? What she was wearing was inappropriate for school. Period.

[littlemissmarla]

May 28, 2015 9:39:34 GMT -5 bigrock74 said:

Call me old school, but I think that schools should have the right to enforce certain dress codes. I understand and agree that women/girls should have the right to wear whatever they want and that men/boys should be taught to respect that and not turn it into something sexual. BUT, I don't think it is ok to go to school in a crop top (see video), super short skirt or anything else revealing. 

ETA: my video didn't post, so here is the link. Also, I was considering attending this school back in the day!
www.facebook.com/torontostar/videos/10153367097936151/?fref=nf

www.facebook.com/torontostar/videos/10153367097936151/?fref=nf

Totally agree. I can get down with the kids who were upset when the school had decided to implement a very strict dress code 8 days prior to prom, but this is ridiculous. Crop tops do not belong in a school atmosphere - save it for after school. Kids need to learn that IRL majority of workplaces will have some sort of dress code and no, sorry you can't protest it. Well you can protest it but you better start looking for a new job.

[mary1217]

May 28, 2015 10:46:38 GMT -5 jlhv1909 said:

speaking of dress code- my sd just got dress coded for wearing a dress that she has worn to school previously. Because they could see a sliver of her back.


www.kohls.com/product/prd-2084740/so-open-back-skater-dress-girls-7-16-girls-plus.jsp

Now that's ridiculous.  

Some people just go to far.

[lea]

I almost get secondhand embarrassment when people post stuff on social media that is obviously fake, satire, or a spoof or something and believe it. But usually it's accompanied by some smug commentary so then I no longer feel sorry for them. I guess because they just want it to be true, they won't look past the surface to see if it's legit.

[sararl07]

I don't like the taste of watermelon ( actually any melons)

[sararl07]

My beliefs on dress codes

There is a time and place but some dress codes are impossible to follow. When I was in high school our shorts and dresses couldn't be 3 inches above the knee. It was impossible to find shorts to meet that standard so you had to suffer during the hotter months. But at the same time the cheerleaders uniform had split skirts and key holes where the cleavage . Double standard

[isolemnlyswear]

May 28, 2015 14:46:18 GMT -5 sararl07 said:

My beliefs on dress codes

There is a time and place but some dress codes are impossible to follow. When I was in high school our shorts and dresses couldn't be 3 inches above the knee. It was impossible to find shorts to meet that standard so you had to suffer during the hotter months. But at the same time the cheerleaders uniform had split skirts and key holes where the cleavage . Double standard

yes! The best was when I got in trouble when I wore my soccer uniform to school on game day... for some of the long legged beings (I'm 5'10) our shorts were too short I guess and so they made us go put our warm-up pants on. It was REDICULOUS! I remember my dad being really upset about it when I told him. He called the AD and said that they needed to purchase us new uniforms so we could adhere to the dress code. They of course didn't and we were told that we could only wear our shirts to school for future games...

But yea- the cheerleaders could wear their second skin, spank wearing uniforms and nobody said a word.