We went out of town for Memorial Day weekend and stayed in a hotel. It just so happened that the trip fell within my FW... so, DH and I needed to HIO at least once while we were there. Our room had 2 queen beds... one of which our almost-3-year-old-DD slept in. I was so paranoid that she was going to wake up and start asking questions.
I think having sex in the SAME ROOM as your child is fucking gross. You guys couldn't bang it out in the bathroom?
::shrug:: We do this all the time. It's dark and the baby is in a crib. It's not like we're banging right next to her.
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I think having sex in the SAME ROOM as your child is fucking gross. You guys couldn't bang it out in the bathroom?
Full-on, loud doggy style with DC in same room? Totally inappropriate and gross, I agree.
But a quiet/silent, missionary quickie under the covers in a hotel room with DC soundly asleep in a different bed? I don't think that's gross. (Maybe that's my FFFC.)
Any kind of sex with the child in the same bed, however, is just not okay with me. And I'm pretty sure it's not okay with DCF/CPS either.
In my state this would be something to address with the parents but not something that would cause the children to be removed because the child is not in danger. This is more of just a taboo or questionable parenting choice.
Post by TheEleventhHour on May 29, 2015 10:53:24 GMT -5
daisy818 I think it is great if an ex wants a good relationship especially with kids involved (from experience it sucked that my dad was such an asshole after the divorce and it would have been nice if everyone could have gotten along better even though we were teenagers when they split). But, yeah, you are not being unreasonable in saying no to babysitting. That crosses a line IMO.
This is sort of a confession, sort of a getting a read on whether I'm being unreasonable (well, better to say would be being unreasonable, as this is all about a not-yet-existing child). Apparently SS was talking to his mom (DH's ex-wife) about my sister having a baby, and I guess he made some comment about how maybe I'll have a baby too one day. Well, ex-wife doesn't work, and when she was talking to me about how she'd be happy to puppy-sit the dog if we ever needed her to, she made a comment about how if we ever needed a baby-sitter for any future babies that she would love to volunteer bc she loves babies. I was really taken aback, because on the list of people I would allow to babysit my child, my husband's ex-wife probably would not crack the top 50. Am I being ridiculous to not want her to watch a future baby? On one hand, she loves SS, and SS would love his sibling, so I would think she'd treat the baby okay, and I mean I take care of her child every weekend, but on the other hand, ugh, it's the woman he used to be married to - I don't want her all up in our life like that.
Not really here nor there at the moment since I'm empty-uted, but the fact that she said it just weirded me out.
Nope. DH's ex tried to get us to take her other kid for a week and got really snotty when we said no, because she would soooo take our girls for a week. I will never leave my kids alone with you, crazy lady.
I think having sex in the SAME ROOM as your child is fucking gross. You guys couldn't bang it out in the bathroom?
A bed-sharer on the confessional (so no proof it it was real or not) said that they HIO with their kid in the same bed. But don't worry, they stop if he wakes up.
This is sort of a confession, sort of a getting a read on whether I'm being unreasonable (well, better to say would be being unreasonable, as this is all about a not-yet-existing child). Apparently SS was talking to his mom (DH's ex-wife) about my sister having a baby, and I guess he made some comment about how maybe I'll have a baby too one day. Well, ex-wife doesn't work, and when she was talking to me about how she'd be happy to puppy-sit the dog if we ever needed her to, she made a comment about how if we ever needed a baby-sitter for any future babies that she would love to volunteer bc she loves babies. I was really taken aback, because on the list of people I would allow to babysit my child, my husband's ex-wife probably would not crack the top 50. Am I being ridiculous to not want her to watch a future baby? On one hand, she loves SS, and SS would love his sibling, so I would think she'd treat the baby okay, and I mean I take care of her child every weekend, but on the other hand, ugh, it's the woman he used to be married to - I don't want her all up in our life like that.
Not really here nor there at the moment since I'm empty-uted, but the fact that she said it just weirded me out.
I... that's a complicated situation.
You spend time around her son (your SS), and she's clearly okay with that. Like it or not, she's a part of your extended family, and I kind of think it would make things more complicated to cart SS to one place, and then your future child to another just because you don't want him/her around DH's ex.
She hangs around ex's son because son is seeing his dad (OPs husband). Without that relationship, OP wouldn't be hanging out with the kid. OP's kid has no relationship with ex in any way. It's not at all weird that the hypothetical kid would not go to the ex's house for any reason.
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FFFC: I'm going to my mom's town for a first birthday party tomorrow, and I'm not going to see my mom.
My dad borrowed my small dog kennel months ago and never gave it back... I went to his house the other day to get it. It was in the barn, he was inside. Didn't go in to say hi to him. Don't feel bad.
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Anything juicy? I have done this maybe once every two years if his inbox or facebook is up and he's not around. I usually feel guilty about 5 minutes in and sign out. Never found anything dramatic, anyway.
Just messages to his friends and cousin. He did talk about how hard it is that I'm not living with him in MN. He said some upsetting things, but they were just his feelings on the situation so I'm not mad at him, but it made me sad. I really want to approach this situation with him, but don't want to tell him I snooped*.
*We went through a ROUGH patch when we were dating/engaged and I (and he) was super, super jealous. It took two full years for me to finally get over it and become confident in our relationship, so I would hate for him to think I'm doing it again.
You sound like us. We had the same kind of situation. I do not snoop anymore. I had some serious trust issues due to parental figures' relationships leading me to believe that everyone eventually cheats. He knows all about my crazy though, and we've worked through it. My mind still goes there sometimes, but I'm able to reign it in.
This is sort of a confession, sort of a getting a read on whether I'm being unreasonable (well, better to say would be being unreasonable, as this is all about a not-yet-existing child). Apparently SS was talking to his mom (DH's ex-wife) about my sister having a baby, and I guess he made some comment about how maybe I'll have a baby too one day. Well, ex-wife doesn't work, and when she was talking to me about how she'd be happy to puppy-sit the dog if we ever needed her to, she made a comment about how if we ever needed a baby-sitter for any future babies that she would love to volunteer bc she loves babies. I was really taken aback, because on the list of people I would allow to babysit my child, my husband's ex-wife probably would not crack the top 50. Am I being ridiculous to not want her to watch a future baby? On one hand, she loves SS, and SS would love his sibling, so I would think she'd treat the baby okay, and I mean I take care of her child every weekend, but on the other hand, ugh, it's the woman he used to be married to - I don't want her all up in our life like that.
Not really here nor there at the moment since I'm empty-uted, but the fact that she said it just weirded me out.
Yeah no. I don't think you're being unreasonable at all.
This is sort of a confession, sort of a getting a read on whether I'm being unreasonable (well, better to say would be being unreasonable, as this is all about a not-yet-existing child). Apparently SS was talking to his mom (DH's ex-wife) about my sister having a baby, and I guess he made some comment about how maybe I'll have a baby too one day. Well, ex-wife doesn't work, and when she was talking to me about how she'd be happy to puppy-sit the dog if we ever needed her to, she made a comment about how if we ever needed a baby-sitter for any future babies that she would love to volunteer bc she loves babies. I was really taken aback, because on the list of people I would allow to babysit my child, my husband's ex-wife probably would not crack the top 50. Am I being ridiculous to not want her to watch a future baby? On one hand, she loves SS, and SS would love his sibling, so I would think she'd treat the baby okay, and I mean I take care of her child every weekend, but on the other hand, ugh, it's the woman he used to be married to - I don't want her all up in our life like that.
Not really here nor there at the moment since I'm empty-uted, but the fact that she said it just weirded me out.
I... that's a complicated situation.
You spend time around her son (your SS), and she's clearly okay with that. Like it or not, she's a part of your extended family, and I kind of think it would make things more complicated to cart SS to one place, and then your future child to another just because you don't want him/her around DH's ex.
I do not consider H's ex to be part of my extended family.
Post by LovesMeSomeCake on May 29, 2015 11:25:49 GMT -5
We have only had sex maybe once a month for most of 2015. All the stuff getting ready to TTC has made me feel like a science experiment, and now that we NEED to HIO its...meh.
We have only had sex maybe once a month for most of 2015. All the stuff getting ready to TTC has made me feel like a science experiment, and now that we NEED to HIO its...meh.
I suggest toys, dirty movies & perhaps some role playing. Yes, you need to have sex to make a baby but that's not all that your sex life should be about. Spice it up & have fun.
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We have only had sex maybe once a month for most of 2015. All the stuff getting ready to TTC has made me feel like a science experiment, and now that we NEED to HIO its...meh.
I suggest toys, dirty movies & perhaps some role playing. Yes, you need to have sex to make a baby but that's not all that your sex life should be about. Spice it up & have fun.
There is a subscription box you can get called Spicy Box. It's awesome. H and I used it for like six months a few years ago when we were in a lull.
Not only is DH the only guy I've ever slept with, he's also the only one I've ever dated. No one had ever asked me out before. I was 17 when we met. I feel like this is super weird and I probably should have dated more before settling down.
This is really common among many of my friends. Date, marry & make babies with the boy you lost your virginity to. Hmmm, no thanks.
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