Inspired by a GKU thread...heard about it from my wife...instead of a guest husband AMA; how about keep recruiting your partners to join here? And in the mean time ask us whatever you'd like.
I give my wife her space on other boards so don't stray far from here, but do hear about everything from spreadsheets to cum jars.
Our board is relatively slow and I personally do most of my posting in the middle of the night while feeding our little guy. But trust...you'll get a response.
Post by jekylandhyde on May 29, 2015 18:43:27 GMT -5
Not a dad or dad to be, although it feels like it some days working in a daycare. Basically looking for support as my wife and I are trying to conceive. It has been 7 months and I just need support. Also, does sleep apnea play a roll in pregnancy? I have not been diagnosed but we suspect.
Welcome. The dad/dad to be was a carry over from TD. We've discussed changing it because there are plenty of supportive partners that don't fit that description.
Anywho, TTC is a crazy ass process for men and women. I'm going to address that in its own thread. TTC for guys deserves that being parsed out. Its a much needed discussion and something I wish I had had some support around.
As for sleep apnea (not a real doctor - psychologist who works a lot with insomnia) but it's going to play a roll in so much as you won't be as rested and maybe have the energy to give all your effort (ie not make the most of the window for conception) during ovulation but other than that no real impact.
I would add that lack of sleep will lower your ability to deal with stress and stress will impact TTC. You may be the one that has apnea, but when you snore, gasp for breath, move around in bed; I doubt your wife sleeps soundly either. The level of stress that would significantly impact TTC though...not like to result from this alone.
Inspired by a GKU thread...heard about it from my wife...instead of a guest husband AMA; how about keep recruiting your partners to join here? And in the mean time ask us whatever you'd like.
I give my wife her space on other boards so don't stray far from here, but do hear about everything from spreadsheets to cum jars.
Our board is relatively slow and I personally do most of my posting in the middle of the night while feeding our little guy. But trust...you'll get a response.
Let the games begin...
So I'm the spreadsheet that you heard about. I am an accountant and attempt to maximize efficiency as much as possible. My wife and I got into the "how many people" sex question so I put together a spreadsheet for her with all partners, what we did, my approximate age, and any important notes (first time, longest relationship, etc.) It just made sense to get it all there in a one stop shop.
Lol! Yeah I got the play by play last night as it was happening. You were pretty good about it; making a profile and chatting a bit with the ladies. Well done!
And welcome if you plan on hanging out with us.
My wife did ask me, since I also work for the government if you'll "read me into the program." She is curious what constitutes "important notes." I think she is under the impression that the notes are pertaining to the quality and specifics of the sexual encounter.
Hmm. I was pretty sure a lurking lady would have dropped in to ask something. At least something totally random by now...
Since the spreadsheet has been answered straight from the source, I can say that I have never kept a jar full of any bodily fluid in my room or anywhere else for that matter. I don't know any guy that has, but then again I can't imagine that convo. "Dude after the game is over want to see my cum jar?" Um yeah, no thanks bro; as I'm running out the door.
It really baffles me why someone would keep such a jar. I'm willing to give a pass for most things. Like ok, you happen to have an empty jar handy and because it's handy s/he spits into it. Maybe for some reason a guy jerks off and this jar seems like a good idea (I'm not sure why, but fine, ok, whatever). But why is that jar not thrown away first chance you get?
Granted, I didn't read the thread, but my take away, secondhand, was said jar may have been overflowing for years in a hollowed out compartment in the floor of a closet...for years! Ok, that's a slight hyperbole, but just a slight one.
Hi, I'm the one with the H that had the infamous cum jar.
I'd recruit my DH here and make him answer all of those questions, but he's really busy.
FWIW, he only had them for like a few weeks at a time before throwing it away. ALSO, he threw it away like a year ago, shortly after I found out about it. He didn't like keep it forever. He used to live two floors away from his bathroom, so it was just convenience.
Ok so this is a bit different than the version I got. All the same words, but different order. The saving for a year part was definitely in the version I got.
Still baffled by this practice...for weeks? As I mentioned, convenience I get. Not my method, but okay. I'm trying to think of a scenario in which this makes sense. I'm going to say 1) 2 floors up = inconvenience. I'm with you so far, 2) uses jar - this is the issue with the story. I feel like removing the jar or any storage container and few people have strong issue with this because storage implies keeping it for a reason. And it's hard to find a reason to save cum. But that's not what you are saying? It's strictly convenience. He can do this in his room where he is comfortable and it's just convenience.
So how would a person get there...probably happened once and got rid of it. Then at some point forgot to remove it or didn't remove right away because he didn't want others in the house to see him with the jar or something. Then went to use the jar again realizing it wasn't empty and thought "not a huge deal." Repeat and eventually it's just a method. Hmm...
Say we substitute tissue for jar in this argument. Most people are probably ok with this. But say he tosses the tissues in a trash can, in his room and doesn't take the trash out for a week or two? Still likely not an issue (at the very least a mild one of why don't you take the trash out more often, but I feel like "stereotypical guy" is an acceptable answer for most people). But to be honest we are still talking about cum in a container for weeks. Yeah, not the typical method (jar) but if that's the choice it's not so different from tissues in the trash if you can get past the thought of it being saved for a purpose. I rationally see the logic and yet can still be grossed out because of the mental image of cum in a jar.
I'm curious if the ladies on the board you brought this up on would have reacted so strongly (myself included) if the scenario was "My H would cum into a tissue, throw it away, and not take the trash out for weeks." I doubt it would have found its way here. It's just picturing cum in a jar that's difficult to get past.
I see. As for "regretting heavily," it WAS (as in the past) an odd practice and pretty gross. Sounds like it gave something for people to talk about, but I see it as just that. Something to talk about. I'm sorry you regret mentioning it. That sounds like you feel embarrassed and/or feel the need to defend it. I apologize if I contributed to that feeling. My understanding, second hand, was that folks were curious if this is common male practice. All I can say is it is not mine.
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