I am sad and overwhelmed that the girl that has been running her mouth about us doing foster care just got a placement. I know it has no reflection on me, but it feels like it does. I cried before and after makeup this morning, and I have been up for less than 2 hours.
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I am a morning person and have had a two week streak of getting up at 5am to workout before I head to work. Today my alarm went off and I started crying...stayed in bed instead of working out, and feel even more tired. Whoops. Also...I was away this weekend and we left my iPad in the hotel room, MH feels like it was his fault so I've been saying it's fine so he doesn't beat himself up (he's prone to that) (it's my fault too of course), but I'm going to be so bummed if they don't find it! I called last night but no one was at lost and found so I left a message. I really hope it turns up!!
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I definitely would not spend the money on the party if I weren't getting a legal marriage out of the deal (except in cases where a legal marriage cannot be obtained because laws are stupid).
Yeah, I just don't get it. Why would you lie to everyone anyway? That's the part that makes me the most mad. The lies.
i don't really get the rage i guess? I mean I don't have the backstory but i wouldn't really care A woman i work with got married December 12th with a JP before leaving for Mexico. Then she got married in mexico in a big ceremony with family, friends etc. on December 20th. She considers dec 20 her wedding day. most people don't know the actualy legal date of her marriage.
I don't really see it as deceit or lying i guess. Its just the day you pick to actually celebrate your union with friends. A legal piece of paper isn't really the be-all end-all to me, more just a technicality.
I definitely would not spend the money on the party if I weren't getting a legal marriage out of the deal (except in cases where a legal marriage cannot be obtained because laws are stupid).
Yeah, I just don't get it. Why would you lie to everyone anyway? That's the part that makes me the most mad. The lies. [/
Apparently my stress is so bad I am developing an ulcer. I've known that since my son was born I have times when I get completely overwhelmed and start to lose control of my emotions but I didn't realize how bad it was until I went through this process of telling my doctors over and over that I wasn't stressed and that stress couldn't possibly be the cause of my bouts of nausea.
I went through all of these tests to prove it was something physical but there's nothing. And now that there's nothing physical to blame it on I'm starting to think more about how I'm feeling all day, especially when I can feel my stomach gearing up, and I'm realizing just how much time a day I spend feeling run down.
And now I just want to go home and hide. Ugh.
****stuck in box***** +1 for reccomending a counsellor. best thing I've ever done. I had no idea the shape of my mental health before going and am much healthier and happier now because of it.
I was so productive today guise! I am ALL. DONE. GRADING. except for a few stray papers that were late.
All I have left to do is create one jeopardy review, finalize the final, create a "rate your partner" for my anatomy kids, and clean my room (and grade the finals once they begin).
Apparently my stress is so bad I am developing an ulcer. I've known that since my son was born I have times when I get completely overwhelmed and start to lose control of my emotions but I didn't realize how bad it was until I went through this process of telling my doctors over and over that I wasn't stressed and that stress couldn't possibly be the cause of my bouts of nausea.
I went through all of these tests to prove it was something physical but there's nothing. And now that there's nothing physical to blame it on I'm starting to think more about how I'm feeling all day, especially when I can feel my stomach gearing up, and I'm realizing just how much time a day I spend feeling run down.
And now I just want to go home and hide. Ugh.
Seeing a counselor is one of the best decisions that I have ever made for myself. My stress went unchecked for a long time, and I never realized how bad it was. I did not have any major incident of stress. It was a little bit one day, and a little bit more the next. In the end, it felt like I was carrying a mountain with me everywhere I went.
Find someone, and just talk to them, see if they are a good fit for you. If not, find someone else and try them. I believe you need to be able to find the right person for you. It really can be an amazing tool to use. It is great being able to vent to someone that has no bias. You never have to feel bad for unloading all your shit, you are paying them to listen to it!
Yeah, I just don't get it. Why would you lie to everyone anyway? That's the part that makes me the most mad. The lies.
i don't really get the rage i guess? I mean I don't have the backstory but i wouldn't really care A woman i work with got married December 12th with a JP before leaving for Mexico. Then she got married in mexico in a big ceremony with family, friends etc. on December 20th. She considers dec 20 her wedding day. most people don't know the actualy legal date of her marriage.
I don't really see it as deceit or lying i guess. Its just the day you pick to actually celebrate your union with friends. A legal piece of paper isn't really the be-all end-all to me, more just a technicality.
Yea, I don't really get it either. People keep secrets all the time. I don't feel like this is one of those secrets that's a big deal. I don't feel like it's deceitful or anything. I don't see the problem. They just chose to keep that between them and celebrate on a different day.
Or maybe I'm just someone who just doesn't give a flying fuck what people do as long as it doesn't harm me in any way.
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
Engaged May 2003 Married June 2005 TTC #1 since October 2014 H-1% morph, low motility, low count Me-.1 AMH levels, low AFC, DOR/POI, perimenopause Foster Care journey begins March 2016-licensed 11/7/16 Foster parents to A & J 1/31/17 www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5525ef
i don't really get the rage i guess? I mean I don't have the backstory but i wouldn't really care A woman i work with got married December 12th with a JP before leaving for Mexico. Then she got married in mexico in a big ceremony with family, friends etc. on December 20th. She considers dec 20 her wedding day. most people don't know the actualy legal date of her marriage.
I don't really see it as deceit or lying i guess. Its just the day you pick to actually celebrate your union with friends. A legal piece of paper isn't really the be-all end-all to me, more just a technicality.
Yea, I don't really get it either. People keep secrets all the time. I don't feel like this is one of those secrets that's a big deal. I don't feel like it's deceitful or anything. I don't see the problem. They just chose to keep that between them and celebrate on a different day.
Or maybe I'm just someone who just doesn't give a flying fuck what people do as long as it doesn't harm me in any way.
Edit: Harm me OR ANYONE ELSE in any way.
Well, if you think about it technically, you aren't "married" in the legal sense for a few days after your wedding anyway since the paperwork has to go through. For us, anyway, we signed the paperwork at the wedding. It was delivered on Monday, so *technically* we weren't fully legally married for a few days.
For us, though, the legal marriage means about as much as something to wipe our noses with. The state could abolish marriage tomorrow, it won't change one bit the commitment we have. I think that's the beautiful part. I know everyone sees it differently though. I think what's really important about your marriage is up to the individual couple. In mrsjene's example this couple really only cared about the day they celebrated with family and friends. I also have a family member (on H's side) who married legally a year before their "wedding" and they count that day as more important. What really matters is being with them on the day they value.
dovahfel, I don't play any video games, and I have no idea what Skyrim is, but I snort-giggle *every* time I scroll past your siggie. "Now, TWIRL, honey, TWIRL!" Ha! It'll never get old.
dovahfel, I don't play any video games, and I have no idea what Skyrim is, but I snort-giggle *every* time I scroll past your siggie. "Now, TWIRL, honey, TWIRL!" Ha! It'll never get old.
hahaha!! Yes I had to pick this one especially for the character they had doing it. He's the proprietor of a weapons and arms shop. XD
Yeah, I just don't get it. Why would you lie to everyone anyway? That's the part that makes me the most mad. The lies.
i don't really get the rage i guess? I mean I don't have the backstory but i wouldn't really care A woman i work with got married December 12th with a JP before leaving for Mexico. Then she got married in mexico in a big ceremony with family, friends etc. on December 20th. She considers dec 20 her wedding day. most people don't know the actualy legal date of her marriage.
I don't really see it as deceit or lying i guess. Its just the day you pick to actually celebrate your union with friends. A legal piece of paper isn't really the be-all end-all to me, more just a technicality.
Maybe "mad" was the wrong word to use. It's not like I'm actually mad. I'm more just confused about why someone would do that, probably because it's not something I would do. Personally, I would feel like I was being dishonest with my friends and family. Why not just tell them what's going on? It's not like anyone would have cared that they had something going on that made them have to delay the legal side of it.
dovahfel, I don't play any video games, and I have no idea what Skyrim is, but I snort-giggle *every* time I scroll past your siggie. "Now, TWIRL, honey, TWIRL!" Ha! It'll never get old.
hahaha!! Yes I had to pick this one especially for the character they had doing it. He's the proprietor of a weapons and arms shop. XD
Yea, I don't really get it either. People keep secrets all the time. I don't feel like this is one of those secrets that's a big deal. I don't feel like it's deceitful or anything. I don't see the problem. They just chose to keep that between them and celebrate on a different day.
Or maybe I'm just someone who just doesn't give a flying fuck what people do as long as it doesn't harm me in any way.
Edit: Harm me OR ANYONE ELSE in any way.
Well, if you think about it technically, you aren't "married" in the legal sense for a few days after your wedding anyway since the paperwork has to go through. For us, anyway, we signed the paperwork at the wedding. It was delivered on Monday, so *technically* we weren't fully legally married for a few days.
For us, though, the legal marriage means about as much as something to wipe our noses with. The state could abolish marriage tomorrow, it won't change one bit the commitment we have. I think that's the beautiful part. I know everyone sees it differently though. I think what's really important about your marriage is up to the individual couple. In mrsjene's example this couple really only cared about the day they celebrated with family and friends. I also have a family member (on H's side) who married legally a year before their "wedding" and they count that day as more important. What really matters is being with them on the day they value.
i don't really get the rage i guess? I mean I don't have the backstory but i wouldn't really care A woman i work with got married December 12th with a JP before leaving for Mexico. Then she got married in mexico in a big ceremony with family, friends etc. on December 20th. She considers dec 20 her wedding day. most people don't know the actualy legal date of her marriage.
I don't really see it as deceit or lying i guess. Its just the day you pick to actually celebrate your union with friends. A legal piece of paper isn't really the be-all end-all to me, more just a technicality.
Maybe "mad" was the wrong word to use. It's not like I'm actually mad. I'm more just confused about why someone would do that, probably because it's not something I would do. Personally, I would feel like I was being dishonest with my friends and family. Why not just tell them what's going on? It's not like anyone would have cared that they had something going on that made them have to delay the legal side of it.
But I guess I'm confused about why you HAVE TO know this?
Maybe "mad" was the wrong word to use. It's not like I'm actually mad. I'm more just confused about why someone would do that, probably because it's not something I would do. Personally, I would feel like I was being dishonest with my friends and family. Why not just tell them what's going on? It's not like anyone would have cared that they had something going on that made them have to delay the legal side of it.
But I guess I'm confused about why you HAVE TO know this?
I guess I don't. But I feel like I would want people to know if it were the other way around.
dovahfel, I don't play any video games, and I have no idea what Skyrim is, but I snort-giggle *every* time I scroll past your siggie. "Now, TWIRL, honey, TWIRL!" Ha! It'll never get old.
hahaha!! Yes I had to pick this one especially for the character they had doing it. He's the proprietor of a weapons and arms shop. XD
I agree with mlgnumbers, that siggie is hilarious! That's just funnier that the character is the weapons proprietor.
On the topic of going to talk to someone, I know it has been said, but I couldn't recommend it enough. I always thought my issues weren't "bad enough" to speak with someone, but I finally did it and I am starting to feel so much healthier.
On the topic of going to talk to someone, I know it has been said, but I couldn't recommend it enough. I always thought my issues weren't "bad enough" to speak with someone, but I finally did it and I am starting to feel so much healthier.
I think you meant to hug starbuck27. I mean I know I want candy really bad, but I don't think that is really hug worthy. I could be wrong.
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