NGKUR: Child Support
Jun 3, 2015 15:45:51 GMT -5
Post by Ray on Jun 3, 2015 15:45:51 GMT -5
Okay, I know there is a blended family board but I don't want to just drop in there and mine for some info. I tried looking online without success so I thought I'd hit you guys up for some thoughts.
DH has two children with his first wife whom he pays child support to. It is less than what the judge would have calculated he pay by about 200$ but it is what XW agreed to (and is honestly the max we can afford currently anyway). I have ZERO problem with the general concept of child support. Here is my issue/question - what exactly is child support supposed to "cover"? Is it just the bare minimum (housing and food?) and then dentist visits, extracurricular sports, new clothes etc. are on top of that? Or is it supposed to be a here is the money and financially we are "even" (that sounds heartless but ykwim)
The reason why I ask: XW asks us for additional money all. the. time. for example when back to school shopping she has asked for $200 bucks to get new clothes backpacks and supplies (assuming we are splitting the cost 50/50 HOW is she spending 200$/kid???) Kids went to the dentist. She asked for $100 bucks to split the bill. Signed the kids up for soccer. She asked for another $80.
Now if child support is only for food and shelter costs, fine. I will stop complaining about us bleeding money out to this woman, but I have a feeling that she is totally manipulating and squeezing DH for every penny she can get. He won't say anything to her because we are on good terms now and she has the potential to be a super bitch but we are trying to save up $$$ to have a kid of our own and its kind of difficult when we're constantly shipping it off to her for shit that we should already be paying for. no? gah
so yes sorry about the novel vent. please enlighten me on how child support is supposed to work.
DH has two children with his first wife whom he pays child support to. It is less than what the judge would have calculated he pay by about 200$ but it is what XW agreed to (and is honestly the max we can afford currently anyway). I have ZERO problem with the general concept of child support. Here is my issue/question - what exactly is child support supposed to "cover"? Is it just the bare minimum (housing and food?) and then dentist visits, extracurricular sports, new clothes etc. are on top of that? Or is it supposed to be a here is the money and financially we are "even" (that sounds heartless but ykwim)
The reason why I ask: XW asks us for additional money all. the. time. for example when back to school shopping she has asked for $200 bucks to get new clothes backpacks and supplies (assuming we are splitting the cost 50/50 HOW is she spending 200$/kid???) Kids went to the dentist. She asked for $100 bucks to split the bill. Signed the kids up for soccer. She asked for another $80.
Now if child support is only for food and shelter costs, fine. I will stop complaining about us bleeding money out to this woman, but I have a feeling that she is totally manipulating and squeezing DH for every penny she can get. He won't say anything to her because we are on good terms now and she has the potential to be a super bitch but we are trying to save up $$$ to have a kid of our own and its kind of difficult when we're constantly shipping it off to her for shit that we should already be paying for. no? gah
so yes sorry about the novel vent. please enlighten me on how child support is supposed to work.