Question for you ladies: If you see someone you know who has their kid improperly buckled in their car seat, do you say anything? In the past couple weeks I have seen multiple pictures one Facebook with a child inappropriately buckled in. I have just cringed and kept scrolling. Part of me wants to give a subtle hint by posting an article about car seat safety but I haven't since it seems awfully passive aggressive.
Question for you ladies: If you see someone you know who has their kid improperly buckled in their car seat, do you say anything? In the past couple weeks I have seen multiple pictures one Facebook with a child inappropriately buckled in. I have just cringed and kept scrolling. Part of me wants to give a subtle hint by posting an article about car seat safety but I haven't since it seems awfully passive aggressive.
I would probably post an article and do a little post about how important it is. You could message them. I probably would but cautiously. Like I would want to know if it was me. Anytime I post pics in a car seat, it usually inside with the clip loosened. I always do a caption that says I loosen it when indoors.
sjp03, yay for teeth and Friday! I always cringe when I see incorrect car seat but don't say anything. I do have a friend on FB who feels very strongly about it and always posts articles. She actually posts a lot of baby care things and I think I've learned some important things- like bolting down furniture? Never would have thought of that. Anyway, I feel like if you're close to them you can definitely say something. If you're not you can post an article. So many people on my fb feed have kids under 2 forward facing and it makes me cringe. What's the rush in turning them over?
Also, there is a woman who lost her child in a car accident and posted an article about how she wishes someone told her about it. She used to post pics all the time and there were many opportunities for someone to tell her she is doing it wrong and no one did. I think even if they are mad or whatever, it's better to be safe then sorry.
wildflower810, I haven't tried meat yet, but it very well could have made him full enough? Who knows, lol. 4 days in a row? Does that mean he has to work like eleventy days in a row after this or is he on a staycation?
Post by songbirdsinging55 on Jun 4, 2015 9:31:47 GMT -5
I am feeling better now that I know it isn't anything serious. I made DH his father's day present and gave it to him. I made a Daddy and me Scrapbook. Here are some pics. Isaac slept through the night, I think he knew I was in pain. We taught him some new words. He now says cool and look. His favorite phrase is "cool Dada!" Lol. Not that he knows what it means.
Post by ninergirl52 on Jun 4, 2015 10:33:47 GMT -5
songbirdsinging55 - First off, how is it that your child is a complete prodigy? Ha ha ... seriously, he's talking?? So crazy! I love hearing about all of your LO's advances. Also SO glad to hear you are doing ok. I was so worried about you yesterday. And very cute scrapbook pages! sjp03 - Congrats on the first tooth, I'm dreading the first tooth as I EBF so that terrifies me just a little. To answer your question about the carseat. I would send them a private message, and say something like, "hey I hope you don't take this the wrong way, but I noticed in the pic you posted the carseat wasn't buckled in correctly. Just wanted to be sure you were aware, as I didn't realize there was a right/wrong way, etc." something that doesn't sound like you're a know it all. jjh1119 - I read that article too, that poor lady. I can't imagine. I double check to make sure the clasp part is correctly across his chest. Ugh ... freaks me out! wildflower810 - 7 hours sounds AMAZING!! So awesome your LO slept that long. I just tried chicken with LO and he did not like it. It's the only jarred food I've purchased and it grosses me out a bit.
Busy morning, I've been on calls since 6 am. DH came in with a plate of ham and eggs and strawberries a little bit ago. I was sooo thankful!! We found out my BIL has to take a class in person for 8 weeks this summer so I have to find childcare for 3 days a week for 8 weeks. I was talking to my neighbor about it, who is a stay at home mom (who is awesome) and she offered to watch lo. We're actually going to do a little trade, because apparently she really wants to go to a 6 am yoga class some mornings, but her husband leaves at 6:20 - her kids don't get up until after she gets home. So I told her I could EASILY walk over with my laptop and stay while her kids sleep. My lo is usually asleep with DH anyway. It just felt nice working out our schedules and being able to help another mom out. She thought it was a huge deal for me, but I explained I'm up at 5:50 am to start work anyway, so its not a big deal if that just means I work from her couch for 45 minutes. AND she and her husband offered to watch LO so DH and I could go on a date night. YAY!!
Post by songbirdsinging55 on Jun 4, 2015 10:46:08 GMT -5
ninergirl52- That sounds like a great trade off! Also, sounds like she will do a great job for LO. For Isaac, sometimes I think DH and I are crazy and just hearing things we want but then other people hear it too. He is like a little sponge. At my parent ' s the other night, he was trying to grab a can on the table with one hand. I said "two hands honey, use two". Then he used two hands and picked it up. It was crazy! My sister's friend who is a teacher was like you know I feel like he really listened and understood what you said. I feel like this is crazy.
Post by ninergirl52 on Jun 4, 2015 11:35:45 GMT -5
songbirdsinging55 - Re: meats ... we just offered pureed chicken to LO the other night and he wasn't having it. He's super particular though, seems if its pureed, it has to be peas or sweet potatoes or he's not eating it. He does like eating things through his feeder. I make all of my own puree's but not sure I want to start pureeing meat. So I bought a couple of organic one's to see how he'd like it. I'll try again tonight. We'll see how it goes.
songbirdsinging55 - Re: meats ... we just offered pureed chicken to LO the other night and he wasn't having it. He's super particular though, seems if its pureed, it has to be peas or sweet potatoes or he's not eating it. He does like eating things through his feeder. I make all of my own puree's but not sure I want to start pureeing meat. So I bought a couple of organic one's to see how he'd like it. I'll try again tonight. We'll see how it goes.
We tried beech nut turkey and turkey broth puree. He gagged so much. He was not having it. We finally incorporated veggies into his diet because before he would only have fruit. We tried chicken and sweet potatoes because he likes sweet potatoes but same issue. Should I hold off on meats for now?
DD STN last night and has been babbling since she woke up. She will yell at us if she doesn't feel she's getting enough attention. So in the car we get yelled at a lot.
songbirdsinging55 I've done the gerber purées with meat for DD. So far she's a fan of Turkey and sweet potatoes and while she ate it she didn't love chicken and noddles last night.
As for the car seat thing I would say something. I like some of the pp suggestions.
ninergirl52 love the talking and listening skills of your little guy.
songbirdsinging55 - Re: meats ... we just offered pureed chicken to LO the other night and he wasn't having it. He's super particular though, seems if its pureed, it has to be peas or sweet potatoes or he's not eating it. He does like eating things through his feeder. I make all of my own puree's but not sure I want to start pureeing meat. So I bought a couple of organic one's to see how he'd like it. I'll try again tonight. We'll see how it goes.
We tried beech nut turkey and turkey broth puree. He gagged so much. He was not having it. We finally incorporated veggies into his diet because before he would only have fruit. We tried chicken and sweet potatoes because he likes sweet potatoes but same issue. Should I hold off on meats for now?
I was advised to offer veggies first, because some babies like the sweetness of the fruit they refuse veggies later. My LO doesn't seem to like fruit puree's but he will eat them out of hit net. Our ped told us to introduce meats, so we're giving it a shot. I'd offer it a couple of times and see how it goes. I found my LO had to be offered something a couple of times before finally taking it. Good luck!!
@msnicole06 - songbirdsinging55 has the genius child he talks and listens ... not me
Post by wildflower810 on Jun 4, 2015 12:31:36 GMT -5
jjh1119, H worked a night shift during those 4 days, so he hasn't been off for 4 days, he's just been home during the day for 4 days. And yes, he now works a bunch all in a row. He thinks he'll only be taking 1 day off next week.
ninergirl52, pureed chicken does sound gross. I peeled off a chunk of what I was eating and handed it to M. No pureeing here!
Soo... MIL and FIL are on board with a lot of the parenting decisions we've made, except they have this thing for sleep training. They sent us this book and I got like 3 pages into it and the methods this guy was saying to use made me cringe. Like right now for M's age I should put him down for bed, walk away, and let him cry for AN HOUR before going in and soothing him. How about HECK NO. They were really pushing this book for a while, but backed off and haven't said anything. We were talking to MIL last night and I mentioned how tired I was. So today H gets a text "have you looked at the sleep book I gave you?"
Yeah, I did... and the testimonial about the baby who cried for 3.5 HOURS but then suddenly started STTN made me so excited. NOT.
Post by ninergirl52 on Jun 4, 2015 13:49:37 GMT -5
wildflower810 - Oh HECK NO on the sleep training book. I'd use that as kindling for my next fire. I swear people and their opinions about babies sttn drives me absolutely bonkers. Seriously ... I believe sleep training is based solely on the parents wishes due to the inconvenience, but not exactly what the baby needs. Trust me I find it wildly inconvenient that my LO wakes up a zillion times a night, but you know what? In the grand scheme of both of our lives this is a blip, and I can live with that. If he needs his mommy at 1 am and again at 1:30 am then so be it. Just give me some coffee and be prepared for a little grumpiness on my part. But every baby is different and needs different things. Argh!! Sorry the topic makes me a little ragey ... and I might be slightly sleep deprived.
Post by spiraltheory on Jun 4, 2015 14:11:06 GMT -5
wildflower810 - I would LOSE it about the sleep training book. Have you told them how adamantly against CIO you are? If so, they are totally out of bounds. If you haven't said anything, it might be time.
We have family pictures tonight. Myles and I are going early to do a few shots for Father's Day. --- I don't know why I get nervous about these things. I've spent so much time, energy, and money on clothes for all of us for this shoot. I just feel a lot of pressure, but I don't know why. Anyone else get weird about pictures?
spiraltheory I get super concerned about pictures. I spend a lot of time searching for the right outfit for DDs pictures. We've done newborn, 3 month and 6 month photos.
I can only imagine how it's going to go when it comes time to get outfits for all of us when we do our yearly family photo.
So tonight I'm getting together with some of my book club girls for dinner and pole dancing class. We did it a few weeks ago and it was so much fun but boy was I sore after. Who knew it was such a workout?
ninergirl52 I agree it is such a short time in the grand scheme of things. They will sleep when they're ready. Is it a pain in the ass in the moment? Yes. Do we lose our cool at 3 am when we want to sleep? Yes. But this will pass.
I didn't have a baby so I could sleep
spiraltheory we have family pics this weekend. I'm putting a little more pressure on myself about them than I would like. But it's pics! And they can be expensive and you want them to look nice. Totally understand. I'm sure they will come out great!
Post by wildflower810 on Jun 4, 2015 17:58:41 GMT -5
Glad I'm not alone in my opinions about sleep training. You want to know what's even better? I have not one, but TWO copies of the book. One from MIL when M was born, and one from H's cousin about a month ago. I guess MIL gave Cousin her original copy (it has MIL's name in it) when Cousin had her first baby 5 years ago.
So, my kid doesn't like avocado but has been eating asparagus for 20 minutes now. I even gave him the last piece off my plate because he wanted more. (He just sucks on it and winds up shredding it, but he for sure swallows a lot.)
wildflower810 that's awesome. I'm getting closer to just giving him the actual food. For now we do the idea of BLW in that he is in control but I still use purees. I mix it with oatmeal for a thicker texture and put the loaded spoon on the tray. And he picks it up and eats it or I give him a mesh feeder. He has sucked my whole peach and a whole apple before and had fun. I'm just so nervous about choking.
Baby is asleep. H is at the gym. I slapped a piece of rotisserie chicken in the microwave and put it in a potato bin with hot sauce and spinach lol. Not my usual type of dinner. But it will do. I'm starving.
songbirdsinging55 That is so cool that Isaac talks already! That's so fun. I used to loosen my kiddo's carseat straps and undo the clip when we were inside too, but then I noticed that there's a warning label on there that says not to because it's a strangulation hazard. Idk how that could really happen, but I guess it has!
wildflower810 That sounds HORRIBLE. I know some people do CIO and it is fine, but 3.5 hours seems excessive to me. I'm sorry but that sounds cruel.
If I were to sleep train I would have to do a no-cry version of some kind. But right now, LO only wakes up 1-3 times at night and I have no problem with that. I HATE when I tell people how often she gets up and then they act like I'm some kind of failure and I need to do more to get her to not need me in the MOTN. Just, no. She's 6 months old and she needs her mom.
spiraltheory I get stressed out about pictures. The main thing I worry about is her being hungry or tired at the wrong time since I make appointments. But it has always turned out ok.
Post by littleapplemom on Jun 5, 2015 6:40:09 GMT -5
Soooo late to the party!! Teeth....yay! 3 day weekend....yay!! Sleep....yay!!! Car seat, I would post, maybe private message. Meat purées....tried chicken and apples myself, he didn't like it. It was dry and weird. He likes the gerber ones though. Otherwise, I just give him a hunk of what we have. He ate steak the other night. Pro pics....doing our first for LOs christening in 2 weeks. I still have nothing to wear and just fussed over which outfit to pick for LO for a week. Stressful!!!
songbirdsinging55, glad you're ok, adorable book. wildflower810, LMK how your little handled the asparagus, my guy was super gassy and fussy the next day. Sleep training book...uh do you have pets! Use it as cage liner. CIO for an hour!! That's absurd. I'd lose my damn mind!! ninergirl52, awesome exchange. Praying for a miracle like that here! My parents want more time without the kids this summer.....so now I have to research sitters. We did veggies first too. Squash then peas, then went in with the fruits.
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