Poll: Future TTC plans?

[mands1125]

Just because I am curious... What are your plans as of today?

[mands1125]

DH was one the fence about #2 before DD came along but I think he is moving more and more towards yes to #2 (not getting my hopes up though) but I think we will start trying next spring/summer so they are approx 2 years apart. Then we will be DONE!

[miniwheat]

I put when this LO is 2 or 3 but it comes with a catch.
I really want a third baby but DH currently is happy with 2. So unless he changes his mind, we will be done at 2. But I do hope that over time he think about adding a third. We will see what life brings!

[osumegs]

We will probably start trying around lo's first bday. I wouldn't be upset with it being sooner, though.

[flyster]

Can't take the poll while on mobile. We will def try for #2. Originally I was thinking to space them 2 years appt like me and my sis
After spending more time around 2 year olds and newborns I'm thinking 3 years.

Probably will have to stop at 2 for age and $ reasons.

[dacora]

DH and I are 99.99% decided on One and Done. It took us a while to decide to have DD in the first place, long enough that our parents were pretty much resigned to us never having kids. We've actually already told them not to expect any more, that we're fairly certain it'll be just her.

But, I hate to say "We're definitely, 100%, totally done!" because clearly we weren't 100% on not having kids at all. It isn't even the pregnancy and birth that's holding me back, even after the failed induction nightmare. I was actually thinking about how if in the next few years my brother managed to find a good man and they decided they wanted to have a baby via surrogate I'd contemplate helping them (this is all a very long shot, he isn't even seeing anyone right now) as long as they had an egg donor (I don't think I could give away a baby that was mine, even to my brother). I just really think I'd be terrible at taking care of two.

[mishka29]

DH is done with 2, I think I am too.

[michelle142]

We're done. We have 2, a boy and a girl. DH is going to get snipped.

[FlutterOfYoshis]

We're going to start trying again when DD is around 1.5 years (so around mid-summer next year). It took about 9 months before we hit positive for DD, so by the time we get another positive, there'll be about 3 years difference. That's also how it is for both me and DH between each of our siblings.

ETA: That seems so soon! Also, the plan is for 2 and done. I'd hope we get one of each since I've always wanted a little boy, but I love DD to pieces and imagine it couldn't be so bad if I had a second DD in the end. :-P

[misshart00]

We had always talked about another one but we may be done at two. I don't know if I can do the newborn thing again. But we're going to wait on the vasectomy for another year until we really decide.

[jensoprano82]

I think we do want to have a second, even though I get cold sweats worrying about me wrangling two LO's (and frankly, DS has been super easy and we just take him everywhere with us, I feel like #2 would slow us down MUCH more). However we are loving being parents and I'm 33 and would like to be done at 35 so I reckon we start trying again around new years

[taberbtb]

I also can't take the poll while mobile, but we hope for 2-3 LO's. It took us almost a year for DD and we would like our kids fairly close in age so we will probably start trying after the summer. If we are blessed with another then we will just see how things go. If our family feels complete, we will stop.

Like @holachica the thought of 2u2 makes me a little nervous but I would rather just get past the newborn/sleepless stage as soon as possible rather than drag it out.

[mels823]

It took us 2 years to get pregnant, so we are also going to start trying this summer.

[cougarette]

I mentioned a week or so ago that we booked a cruise for Jan 2017. We'll start working on baby cougar 2.0 then, or shortly after.

[mamabutt2]

DH is firmly OAD and I'm still trying to come to terms with it. Realistically, its the best for us financially, and for my sanity. The PP stage was rough for me with the repeat mastitis situation, learning to breastfeed, jaundice, just newborns in general lol But I always pictured having at least 2 kids. DH is 29 in September and we are planning on him getting the snip at 33 or so since that's the biggest age gap we'd want.

[MapleMomma]

We were initially planning to ntnp right away. However we have been planning an Alaskan cruise for August 2016 for about two years and recently found out that they don't allow babies under 6mo or pg women past 23 weeks. So we are planning to start trying next may or June. That would put the kids 2years apart. Dh is older (35) and I don't think we want to wait much longer. We are planning on 4 kids.

[junebugjam]

I'm mobile so I can't vote in the poll, but I'm thinking well start trying spring of next year. I want to avoid a December/January baby if possible (too close to the holidays), but anything Feb or later will be good and then they'll be 2ish years apart. I got pregnant quickly so hoping the same will be true for the next go round. I drive myself crazy when TTC.

I'm undecided if I want 2 or 3. I really want 3, but if the next baby is not super mellow and easy going, I might be done after 2. My LO is giving me a run for my money still, but I don't want him to be an only.

[kartish]

I have always wanted 3 or 4 kids, but when I was pregnant decided that one was plenty. My husband wants two, and since LO was born I have been thinking maybe I might do it ask again. But I have always been interested in adoption also. I have two adopted uncles and my grandma, who passed away two years ago, was very passionate about adoption. So I don't really know.

[cloe111479]

We always said 2. So I think we are still on that but I'm no spring chicken. (35). So if we want another it would be soon like after dds first birthday we would start the process. I got preg on 2nd round of clomid so I would think we would pick up where we left off and start there.

But I do keep telling DH -- I had a very easy pregnancy, a very easy delivery and dd is a pretty chill baby.

I don't think we can hit the jackpot again. Something is going to go badly. So I have major fears about it. (Also a cousin of mine recently had a second child, and his wife is a little bit older and she had downs. Not that there is anything wrong with it or that God doesn't give you what you can handle -- it just sparks fears for me)

[hollydfromtn]

We plan on trying for #2 sometime next year. Were undecided on stopping with two or going for a third. DH says that if we have a little girl next we'lol stop there bc we'll have one of each. If it's another boy though, we'll try again for a girl. We're definitely done at 3 though.

[anchovies]

We are unsure. We did IVF x2 for DS and it's just a lot to go through. We have days where we discuss a sibling as a possibility and other days where we fear pushing our luck. We had a couple of scares during pregnancy and labor, so I really just don't know at this point.

[jensoprano82]

P.S..... I also wanted to get back to pre-Bex weight before ttc again, and I am starting to get very concerned it won't happen. Anyone else throw contingencies on theirs?

[osumegs]

Jun 11, 2015 10:45:29 GMT -5 hollydfromtn said:

We plan on trying for #2 sometime next year. Were undecided on stopping with two or going for a third. DH says that if we have a little girl next we'lol stop there bc we'll have one of each. If it's another boy though, we'll try again for a girl. We're definitely done at 3 though.

We're the opposite. I'd like 3 or 4, but DH says that he wants to be done at 2 if the next one is a girl. He said he doesn't want to run the risk of 3 daughters and me when they hit the teen years. Apparently it would be too many hormones lol.

[pitdigger]

We haven't talked about a maximum number, but DH is 38 so we don't have forever.

With the combination of the section, insurance waiting period, and work permit renewal this December, the absolute earliest we would start trying would be October. In all honesty, we'll probably wait until DH has a renewal in hand as long as it is at least 2 years. We didn't have any real trouble getting pregnant, but I like to have the time and I don't fancy coordinating an international move at the same time as giving birth.

[aggiebug]

Lalalala I can't hear you people!



H and I seem to be taking the head in the sand approach. Ie we know we want another kid (at least) but have almost intentionally avoided the subject of when we would start trying again.



And flyster you should be able to vote in tapatalk. You have to go to the 3 dot menu (top right I think) and select Web view.

[MapleMomma]

Jun 11, 2015 10:19:24 GMT -5 kartish said:

I have always wanted 3 or 4 kids, but when I was pregnant decided that one was plenty. My husband wants two, and since LO was born I have been thinking maybe I might do it ask again. But I have always been interested in adoption also. I have two adopted uncles and my grandma, who passed away two years ago, was very passionate about adoption. So I don't really know.

5 of the 9 of us in my family are adopted. It's awesome!

[Deleted]

We are one and done. DH and I agreed beforehand that we'd like to make one kid, and should we want a second, we will adopt.
I absolutely don't want to be pregnant again, so that pretty much confirms the position.
I am loving the the newborn stage though, and have fantasized about a second go around... So I don't know. Maybe adoption is in our future?

[ace226]

We're planning to pull the goalie around the first of the year, when he's about 10 months:)

Before having him and looking at our financials I'd always pictured 4... But two might be more realistic. We'll see! I just know I don't want an only child.

[misshart00]

I have two under two. It's not too terrible.

[MapleMomma]

Jun 11, 2015 13:46:31 GMT -5 misshart00 said:

I have two under two. It's not too terrible.

At one time my mom had 6 under 5 (2 adopted)