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[sordidvolition]

My threenager is making me hate life right now. Twenty minute "discussion" as to why he couldn't eat his breakfast on his avengers plate this morning.
I realize this is because I'm a billionty months pg and super bitch but c'mon kid. Don't even get me started on DH....

[honeybunches101]

I'm getting really sentimental about the last few days with DS as an only child. I'm 39 weeks tomorrow and every night when I put DS to bed (still rocking him to sleep at age 3) I wonder if it's the last time I'll get to do this for a while. He is so so excited for his baby sister to come, but I am going to miss all our one on one adventures and snuggles.

[Widget123]

I haven't seen DD in 2 days. I miss her. Hopefully we'll be able to leave the hospital this evening. Still don't know how DD is really going to react. She won't meet baby until we get home.

[bendherova]

38.5w with a 4 year old. We signed him up for June Camp at his preschool for the month. He needs a lot of physical activity per day, and we figured 4h of running around at a place he's comfortable, where he can jump in a baby pool, play with his friends, run around, you know, it would be fun?!?!?

He's been throwing tantrums every day at drop off. (He did this occasionally throughout the school year too, but never this consistently). My only guess is that he just wants to hang out with me all day, but seriously, I'm not that fun. I can't run around with you, kid. I sit when we throw balls in the living room. I can't chase you down the hallway, I can't bend over and race hot wheels.

So, every day so far this week, I've had to dangle some sort of bribe in front of him - playdate, a trip to target, today is that I finally opened the Leap Pad that he got from my ILs for Xmas so that he can play with it. (note for your futures, ladies, Go with an ipad or a kindle, much more user friendly)

I feel incredibly guilty about all of it.


And then of course, I'm feeling sad about him not being my sole focus anymore, yet, I am ready to be DONE with pregnancy. So.

[sugarkissed]

41 weeks tomorrow and spending my days chasing my crazy 21 month old. I never realized how often I pick her up in a day until it started to become so difficult. I'm tired. I'm huge. I want this baby out, and I want DH to stop being so busy at work so that he can help out a little bit. I'm trying to enjoy these last days with her as an only child, but I'm just so unmotivated to do much besides sit around the house all day.

[veggiemo]

41 weeks today. 3 weeks ago it was feeling a lot harder physically than it does today. I'm not sure why I'm feeling better and not worse, it seems backwards. My mom took DS on Tuesday morning when I was initially going in for my induction. I got tears in my eyes when they left and that was VERY unexpected. I did not think I would get emotional over this whole thing.

I hope this doesn't come off wrong but: DS has been really hard to be around, his whole life. He's just always been a difficult baby, difficult 1 year old, difficult kid. Unfortunately, the negatives often outweighed the positives with him and some days I struggled to keep my sanity. He has a speech delay and it took him a long time to get to talking. This past month or so he has just shot up in improvement with his speech and it has just made him suuuuch a more pleasant child to be around. I actually enjoy spending time with him and having conversations and I have really grown a different kind of attachment to him. It's just been overall a huge relief to finally have more good times than bad. Obviously, he's still a maniac 2.5 year old and still has plenty of difficult moments, but it's starting to feel WORTH it now. Like I said, I hope that doesn't come off badly. But it makes me more excited to be a mom of two. I can do this!

[tatersalad]

I'm just over it. DS is on summer break from preschool and I struggle to do our favorite activities alone with him. He has really started to take an interest in all things related to the baby, which is sweet. I'm having increased anxiety about going past my due date again and praying I can convince my doctor to induce me next week. I've had a few episodes of false labor and they've left me emotionally and physically drained. Done, done, done.

[tiffbot]

Hey!

H just started going back to work half days yesterday, and will go back full time on Monday so so far things are going as well as I'd like them too! DS must be just at the right age/time of his life he's hardly even noticed, he loves his new sister and seems to have just accepted there's a baby around now! The first day he would get upset when she cried, but it quickly turned into running towards her making sure she's ok, or just looking at one of us and ignoring the new sounds haha.

The days are still going very fast as we are slower at doing things between me stopping to BF and adjusting to newborn life again, like all of a sudden it's like 'holy it's lunch!' Or like yesterday, I didn't get us outside at all just from not being organized enough on my own. But it's ok, I know it's all part of the learning curve. I'm tired, but H is a great dad and we currently have pretty decent rhythm of making sure each kid is taken care of how it works best for us.

[tiffbot]

Oh man, I just realized I'm the only one who has their baby at home so far in this thread! Come on babies! I know I was starting to feel like I just needed baby out and start the new routine of life so I wouldn't think about it anymore. Newborn is a tough stage, but it's certainly been nice starting to feel better physically and finally see how DS and us reacted to the change.

[megeliz1]

I'm 38 weeks with a 14 month old at home. It's so hard to stay engaged all day with her without completely wearing myself down. It's getting so damn hot out and all she wants to do is go out and play.

I am really starting to have a hard time knowing that the bond we have right now is going to be different for a little while because she will not have 100% of my attention and I feel really guilty for that.

[nettje]

I still have DH at home helping out with both kids now. I focus on little man and he focuses a bit more in DD as I'm not able to do everything with her yet. I can't wait until I've healed from my c-section. I still have some pain especially if I over exert myself.

Today we took DS to be circumcised. I cried the whole time. I will probably cry every time I change his diaper for the next couple of days.

[ladysif]

Right there with you ladies. I feel so guilty and horrible that DS now says "mommy can't do x, y or z because of baby" as obviously I've been using it as an excuse with him but I just can't keep up or do some of the things he wants me to do! I would love to Superman you up the stairs, buddy, but would probably drop you and go into labor immediately. Daddy can roughhouse with him, I'm slow as molasses and my patience is effectively gone. I have been trying to do lots of special things with him lately though which I feel good about.

I am, however, at my wits' end with the hitting and pushing (and now he's added spitting). I feel like the worst mom and my mom ego is so hurt by it because I try so, SO hard to raise a well-behaved little boy. Play date today he pushed another kid over who was sitting in a chair, they both toppled over; could have been really bad, thankfully wasn't. I am trying so hard to stop the behaviors, I don't tolerate them at all and there are always consequences but he won't stop. I am honestly terrified he will do significant damage to baby if given the slightest provocation. I already know I can't EVER leave the baby in the swing, for example, and go pee alone because it is too much opportunity for something to happen. I just feel completely defeated by him lately.

[redlipz]

My son (middle one) is driving me insane. Every night at bedtime it's a freakin struggle with him. Tonight he is crying for no reason saying that no one wants him. I try to involve him as much as possible and cuddle n kiss him all the time. I hate that he's feeling like that and idk what to do.