TTC Check-In (June 15th)

[RM80]

Morning All!

Tell us where you are, milestones, big deals, small wins, gripes, whatever you want to share.

**Reminder- If you have a BFP to share, please start a new thread so we can all celebrate with you, please don't post it here!!**


Roll Call:
RM80
mahler5
wittyandwaiting
esquette
kona
Stringy
shemarie82
bmorecharming
03mrstn
luckypanda
dannigirl
jazibel
crazyaunt84
@justjudy
klake42

QOTW: Tell us something (non ttc related) that you are hoping to accomplish in this year.  Big or small goals welcome!

[RM80]

I have all my fingers & toes crossed for wittyandwaiting for tomorrow!

As for me, I am 2dpiui- all went well on Saturday. I'm still not feeling very optimistic, but nothing I can do or change now! Hoping the next two weeks fly by I'll probably test out my trigger later this week, hopefully I don't have the same squinty test fiasco as last time!

QOTW: I am hoping to change jobs (inside my company) within the next year. It's time to move on from my current role, and I'm ready for a change!

[esquette]

Well, I'm in Texas, which is different.

My doctor wants me to meet with a neurologist, to change the meds that manage my migraines, because they aren't working well and they are a class D drug. I've been trying to connect my doctor with a neurologist so that I can get an appointment, but so far, no dice. We were planning to try to AI at home in a few weeks. But now I'm wondering if we should put it off until I can meet with the neurologist. But that might not be until August, which doesn't give us very many months of trying before baby-arrival would not go well with the school year. Grump.

RM80, Fingers crossed for you too!!!

QOTW: I'm excited to start my online course work and become a Board Certified Behavior Analyst. That'll take me until 2016 though. In 2015? I'd mostly like to survive my job shift.

[crazyaunt84]

The days on the bench are ticking down for us - about 3 weeks left.

C and I had a long talk when we got IVF plans in motion, and we decided not to disclose any info to anyone IRL. That was a difficult decision because we had been 'in hiding' with the IUI's and eventually decided to go public with a blog because the secrecy was tough. That came with a gazillion people asking questions and constantly checking to see if I was pregnant yet - which was harder than we anticipated. So, we decided to keep quiet this time around to hopefully reduce stress. We went a step further and haven't even told the friends who were our inner circle support group with the IUI cycles.

Here's my dilemma - I think one of the inner circle knows, and I think it's because I've posted on this forum. I'm not sure how to handle this, because when people have asked, my standard answer is that we're planning to pick things back up this fall. She asked me this week about it, and I gave the standard answer but her reaction makes me think that wasn't the answer she was expecting.

So - I'm throwing this out for advice. Do I come clean and say that we're proceeding but I don't want to talk about it? Do I ask if she knows? Do I hope she's reading this and throws me a text? I'm feeling really weird, and I don't want to retreat from this group because you've all been amazingly supportive, but it feels a little scary right now to not be totally honest with my best friend. I definitely don't want hurt feelings over anything, but I've got this road ahead of me to navigate and I'm not ready to talk about it. I guess taking it into real life right now makes the stakes feel higher and the weight of it more than I'm ready to tackle until I have to.

QOTW: Hoping to put a huge dent in our debt this year.

[RM80]

crazyaunt84- I think its totally normal after going through so much to want to have some privacy when entering the next step, but I also understand not wanting to 'lie' to someone you're very close to. I think it's OK to just leave it at your standard answer and move on, if she saw something you posted then she would also hopefully understand how hard this process is and respect your privacy.

We have people we wished we didn't tell about our IVF, so for our further attempts we have just said that when there is something we want to share or to know, they will be the first ones we tell, but until then, its been a long emotional journey and we don't want to talk about it in every detail anymore. Everyone has been really respectful and nice about it. I know people ask because they care about us and I just try to remember that.

*hugs* hopefully it was just a fluke 'look' and all is fine.

You could post on the blog about what the experience of opening up has been like for you if you wanted to share publicly.

[Stringy]

crazyaunt84, I was going to say what 2moms said at the end. If people are learning info from your blog - what if you make a post about the emotions of being asked and say either that "yes we are pursuing another cycle and we don't really want to talk about it" or straight up - we don't want to talk about it - and if we have something to tell you we will?

Maybe tell them if there's something to know it will be there.

Does your bff know you post on here? Then she may well be here (hi bff!) but if not its kind of a long shot I think.

[crazyaunt84]

Jun 15, 2015 12:00:09 GMT -5 Stringy said:

crazyaunt84, I was going to say what 2moms said at the end. If people are learning info from your blog - what if you make a post about the emotions of being asked and say either that "yes we are pursuing another cycle and we don't really want to talk about it" or straight up - we don't want to talk about it - and if we have something to tell you we will?

Maybe tell them if there's something to know it will be there.

Does your bff know you post on here? Then she may well be here (hi bff!) but if not its kind of a long shot I think.

She was the one that introduced me to The Bump, so yes. She didn't make the great migration (and wasn't super active on TB anymore anyway) but it wouldn't be hard to check up on me. I didn't really think about it until this week.

[cetcar]

Content warning- pregnancy mentioned in message & sig.



Hi all, it's CET (yes I really should get my own account probably). Finally finally got labs back from my baseline pre-ivf testing. Numbers are overall okay, and the clinic doesn't seem worried. My FSH/LH numbers are possibly on the higher side of normal, but still normal. However, they said the lab 'had an issue' with my AMH so I have to go back again and get my blood drawn again. Luckily, we can do it at any time, so I'll have it done when we go for CAR's 9 week u/s on Thurs. She'll have blood taken too....so we'll get matching bandaids

Not sure when I'll actually do the IVF (assuming we want to go through with it based on my labs and the expense). The earliest would be September.

QOTW: Hoping to get some hands-on trial experience this year. I've managed a lot of long-term cases, but have stayed back to keep up all the other active files the few times something went all the way through trial in the past. Looking like I'll be 'on site' for at least one this year. It'll be good, but probably a lot of long hours.

[JustJudy]

crazyaunt84 I'd just let your friend know you're going to keep details between you two right now, but as soon as you're ready to share more info with friends you'll let her know.

AFM, we did at home insem this morning and will do it again tomorrow. This time I bought soft cups and it was surprisingly comfortable and (TMI alert) made the process way less messy. So now the super fun TWW starts!

ETA QOTW: This year I hope to get a large chunk of money into our saving account. I've been much better about not buying stuff I don't need and that was the first step. 

[wittyandwaiting]

Thanks RM80! Good luck to you too!

Just in the waiting room waiting for my beta blood draw as I type this. I'll post as soon as I hear. FX

Time for beta!

[RM80]

Good luck JustJudy, your just a few days behind me now! We can suffer the TWW together!

[RM80]

wittyandwaiting, I am SO hoping for you BFP so you can't post here anymore!! FX today & good luck on the interview. You had an interview today too right?

[shemarie82]

Day late and a dollar short, but I am here!

crazyaunt84, I think that it is completely up to you what information you choose to disclose. I don't think that I would ever have hurt feelings if I wasn't given intimate details of someone else's conception. Maybe just bring it up to her in a generic way. If she is your close friend, mention, not directed at her, that you two have decided this time to not tell people. If she knows that it was tough on you last time, I would hope that she could understand where you are coming from.

TTC- I am feeling like we will probably not move forward with seeing the RE in September. It could happen, but there have been some financial hiccups, and it doesn't really seem like it would be the best decision for us. I am actually feeling better about that fact today, though just yesterday I had a meltdown about not being able to name a child. It is hit and miss, but am trying to keep things in perspective. My OB told me long ago that I had until I was 30 to have a kid or it wasn't going to happen, so I had made peace with that. It is only in the last year and a half that the door felt like it was creeping back open.

FTA- I am still trying to patiently wait for my wife to take care of two things for the license. There is a repairman coming out this week, so at least that is a baby step. We got a call to do respite (short term) care for 11 month old boys next weekend. They are part of a sibling set of 4. The family is taking a little vacation and cannot handle 7 kids. There is the potential that these boys could need a placement in the future. It will be a jump into the deep end, but at least we will see if we can form an attachment with them.

QOTW- I would really like to make a big dent in out student loans this year.

[klake42]

Hey y'all!
I'm 4dpIUI, and I'm on progesterone. I'm swinging between feeling really hopeful, and feeling some dread. I've been charting BBT, and my temps are all over the place, but I'm a light sleeper and stuffy-nose-mouth-breather, so who knows? I'm just trying to focus on other stuff and not obsess too much.

crazyaunt84, I think it would be a great idea to mention, on your blog, that you don't really want to talk about this or answer questions right now. People generally mean well, and they just need to know that the best way to be supportive at this time is to zip it.

RM80 and @justjudy, we're all pretty close together with our inseminations! My IUI was Saturday, too. I appreciated having a weekend day, for relaxing afterwards (the prior two had been on work days, bleah).

Edited to answer QOTW: I just got a piano (a freebie from a neighbor who was moving), and I'm hoping to re-learn how to play!  I got to an intermediate level as a kid/teenager, then left it behind when I went to college and lost access.  It's been many, many years!  But I picked up an old lesson book, and was able to sorta sight-read most of the pieces, so I'm hopeful-- it's amazing to retain that muscle memory!

[RM80]

FX for bfp's all around this month!