just need to vent
Jun 15, 2015 11:37:31 GMT -5
Post by lolo918 on Jun 15, 2015 11:37:31 GMT -5
Hi Ladies,
I hope you don't mind a bit of a rant, and I'd love input/experience you might have. BD contacts me late last night on apple messenger to say he wants to come by this weekend. I have no problem with that, if he wants to try to be in DD's life. Then he mentions, well if it's okay I'd like to stay overnight. That I had a problem with, and told him so. Then the story changes: his response is well why don't you meet me halfway since I don't want to come to your parents house (I live with my parents). I thought very briefly about this, then realized it's always this way if I have a problem with something in that he then has to change plans so that he is making whatever final decisions. I spent awhile thinking about why it bothered me before I passed out when she finally passed out. He has to be on my schedule or borrow someone else's car if he wants to see me or DD anyway since as far as I know he still hasn't fixed his car that broke down back in September. I decided that I didn't want to do that because its just a lot of work to pack DD up and drive to the halfway point between our houses just because he has made things awkward for himself around my family. Never got to respond to that because apparently taking longer than a couple hours to respond means I'm doing things like playing games and using her as a tool of power against him. Not that I might be taking care of a newborn, but you know whatever.
Today after trying to explain newborn care, etc. the story is that he's willing to go to court with me so that he can see his daughter. Only, you didn't speak to me for a month when I brought up how to handle her expenses, visitation, etc. in April- I was playing games and using her against him then too....the only difference now is that you presented the idea (as a threat, no less). This is also fine with me as I have plenty of people who will most likely be able to vouch for me that he hasn't been involved in my pregnancy- from an emergency room visit on Halloween with bleeding to never being there for OB visits, to not being there to sign the birth certificate or listed as my support person, and not being listed as someone who can make medical decisions for DD at the pediatricians office. I also know he doesn't want to have her with him full time, so I really don't know what he truly hopes to accomplish from taking me to court.
I also have to laugh at the fact that it's no surprise he wants to come by this weekend- Father's day so that he can probably get pictures with DD playing the loving and supportive Dad to last for awhile. Never mind the fact that all of his pictures are from 11 days old in one set and 4 weeks old- 3 to 4 days shy of one month old in the second set.
I hope you don't mind a bit of a rant, and I'd love input/experience you might have. BD contacts me late last night on apple messenger to say he wants to come by this weekend. I have no problem with that, if he wants to try to be in DD's life. Then he mentions, well if it's okay I'd like to stay overnight. That I had a problem with, and told him so. Then the story changes: his response is well why don't you meet me halfway since I don't want to come to your parents house (I live with my parents). I thought very briefly about this, then realized it's always this way if I have a problem with something in that he then has to change plans so that he is making whatever final decisions. I spent awhile thinking about why it bothered me before I passed out when she finally passed out. He has to be on my schedule or borrow someone else's car if he wants to see me or DD anyway since as far as I know he still hasn't fixed his car that broke down back in September. I decided that I didn't want to do that because its just a lot of work to pack DD up and drive to the halfway point between our houses just because he has made things awkward for himself around my family. Never got to respond to that because apparently taking longer than a couple hours to respond means I'm doing things like playing games and using her as a tool of power against him. Not that I might be taking care of a newborn, but you know whatever.
Today after trying to explain newborn care, etc. the story is that he's willing to go to court with me so that he can see his daughter. Only, you didn't speak to me for a month when I brought up how to handle her expenses, visitation, etc. in April- I was playing games and using her against him then too....the only difference now is that you presented the idea (as a threat, no less). This is also fine with me as I have plenty of people who will most likely be able to vouch for me that he hasn't been involved in my pregnancy- from an emergency room visit on Halloween with bleeding to never being there for OB visits, to not being there to sign the birth certificate or listed as my support person, and not being listed as someone who can make medical decisions for DD at the pediatricians office. I also know he doesn't want to have her with him full time, so I really don't know what he truly hopes to accomplish from taking me to court.
I also have to laugh at the fact that it's no surprise he wants to come by this weekend- Father's day so that he can probably get pictures with DD playing the loving and supportive Dad to last for awhile. Never mind the fact that all of his pictures are from 11 days old in one set and 4 weeks old- 3 to 4 days shy of one month old in the second set.
