I want to be more active, but I cannot keep up with all the posts, so I keep slipping back into lurker mode. I feel like a total creeper sometimes. How do you ladies do it?!
It varies for me, it depends on my day sometimes I come out of the gate doing good and then slip back other days I start late and then slip back again and figure what's the point. I read and love tit though.
I definitely try to read and love tit! I'm not the best at typing things out on my phone (poor under exercised thumbs), but I have limited time actually at my computer to type things out. Might have to put my thumbs on a training regimen
I guess in connection to KFitz. My confession is that I lurked for a long time and I know a whole lot about you all and you know nothing about me. Does that make me creepy? I don't think so, but apparently you all are opposed to new participants I guess?!
Yeah that's creepy as fuck and no we aren't opposed to new participants. It's fucking weird when someone admits to lurking for a year or whatever and never introing. Like "hey I've been watching you for a year and you guys seem fun" ok so if we seem fun then jump in we don't bite.
I guess this just sends me a mixed message. Do you want me to jump in or not? I am not feeling particularly welcome here.
I guess in connection to KFitz. My confession is that I lurked for a long time and I know a whole lot about you all and you know nothing about me. Does that make me creepy? I don't think so, but apparently you all are opposed to new participants I guess?!
We aren't opposed to new participants, it just seems strange that you know so much about us and we don't know about you. Maybe do an "ask me anything" thread to help us get to know you?
Yeah that's creepy as fuck and no we aren't opposed to new participants. It's fucking weird when someone admits to lurking for a year or whatever and never introing. Like "hey I've been watching you for a year and you guys seem fun" ok so if we seem fun then jump in we don't bite.
I guess this just sends me a mixed message. Do you want me to jump in or not? I am not feeling particularly welcome here.
You are welcome here, I have no qualms with new people joining. The creepy part is " I know a lot about you..." How is that not creepy? Wouldn't you be weirded out by that? I get that it's public and yes there are a lot of lurker but maybe just jump in and don't admit to being a lurker or knowing a lot about us. But to reiterate we are not opposed to new people. So hi and welcome stranger!
Yeah that's creepy as fuck and no we aren't opposed to new participants. It's fucking weird when someone admits to lurking for a year or whatever and never introing. Like "hey I've been watching you for a year and you guys seem fun" ok so if we seem fun then jump in we don't bite.
I guess this just sends me a mixed message. Do you want me to jump in or not? I am not feeling particularly welcome here.
There are two different scenarios. One, in which a newb comes in and joins right away, or after lurking for a week to get a feel for how we roll. Two, when a lurker lurks for an entire year without participating, and all of a sudden wants in. It's weird to the regulars that those lurkers know so much about everyone, know all the inside jokes and back stories, and we know nothing about you. It's not that you're not welcome. Participate and everyone will warm up eventually. But when you ask if it's creepy, you'll get the honest answer that yes, yes it is.
Yeah that's creepy as fuck and no we aren't opposed to new participants. It's fucking weird when someone admits to lurking for a year or whatever and never introing. Like "hey I've been watching you for a year and you guys seem fun" ok so if we seem fun then jump in we don't bite.
I guess this just sends me a mixed message. Do you want me to jump in or not? I am not feeling particularly welcome here.
Uh, not sure why you're confussed! Famous said "jump in we don't bite"! No need to be dramatic about it!
My DS is brought up listening to a lot of Reggae. SO is very into the Rasta culture. I used to love the Devils Lettuce. But I smelt it when I was first pregnant with DS and it made me so sick that I can't bare the smell of it now.
I guess in connection to KFitz. My confession is that I lurked for a long time and I know a whole lot about you all and you know nothing about me. Does that make me creepy? I don't think so, but apparently you all are opposed to new participants I guess?!
You're certainly welcome here, it's just that for me, I don't get the sudden sense of courage by people who claim to have lurked for a long time. What about this new forum makes people feel brave, and why do they need to feel brave? Why not just intro and jump in? I swear we are good people. You don't even have to say a lot, just give some support and get it when needed. We don't flame for that.
I guess in connection to KFitz. My confession is that I lurked for a long time and I know a whole lot about you all and you know nothing about me. Does that make me creepy? I don't think so, but apparently you all are opposed to new participants I guess?!
You're certainly welcome here, it's just that for me, I don't get the sudden sense of courage by people who claim to have lurked for a long time. What about this new forum makes people feel brave, and why do they need to feel brave? Why not just intro and jump in? I swear we are good people. You don't even have to say a lot, just give some support and get it when needed. We don't flame for that.
That's fair. At least some people are helpful in their suggestions around here.
I want to be more active, but I cannot keep up with all the posts, so I keep slipping back into lurker mode. I feel like a total creeper sometimes. How do you ladies do it?!
I have no life and I'm still on mat leave for a few days and DH is off this week and next.
You're certainly welcome here, it's just that for me, I don't get the sudden sense of courage by people who claim to have lurked for a long time. What about this new forum makes people feel brave, and why do they need to feel brave? Why not just intro and jump in? I swear we are good people. You don't even have to say a lot, just give some support and get it when needed. We don't flame for that.
That's fair. At least some people are helpful in their suggestions around here.
DO NOT start getting snarky with these lady's. They were being honest. They all said you were free to participate, just that it does seem a little unfair that you know all about us but not the other way around. DO NOT confuse their honesty for nastiness.
PSA to all admitted lurkers and newbs : don't get all butthurt when we tell you that lurking FOREVER is creepy. It's not like we just up and formed this group, we've been together for a year now that's a long time to form the friendships that we have.
PSA to all admitted lurkers and newbs : don't get all butthurt when we tell you that lurking FOREVER is creepy. It's not like we just up and formed this group, we've been together for a year now that's a long time to form the friendships that we have.
And if you have lurked that long, you should know how these notches talk.
Um FFFC: until you put all of these together I didn't know what Devils lettuce was! I thought it was just an old inside joke with PNW. I also love the devils lettuce but didn't know it!
I guess in connection to KFitz. My confession is that I lurked for a long time and I know a whole lot about you all and you know nothing about me. Does that make me creepy? I don't think so, but apparently you all are opposed to new participants I guess?!
Yeah that's creepy as fuck and no we aren't opposed to new participants. It's fucking weird when someone admits to lurking for a year or whatever and never introing. Like "hey I've been watching you for a year and you guys seem fun" ok so if we seem fun then jump in we don't bite.
This. I know its public forum, but common courtesy still applies. Like a park is a public place, but if you saw the same moms at the playground regularly for a year+ wouldn't you at least say hi?
My DS is brought up listening to a lot of Reggae. SO is very into the Rasta culture. I used to love the Devils Lettuce. But I smelt it when I was first pregnant with DS and it made me so sick that I can't bare the smell of it now.
SOB!
When the twins are having a melt down I always play reggae for them & 95% of the time they chill out! I think it's probably because they heard it so much in utero!
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