How long without playing naked wrastlin?

[bullybutt]

See poll.

[soon2bmrsn]

Probably the 6 week postpartum wait after birth.

I once told my (younger, single) coworker/friend that those were my favorite six weeks (well, crime-scene bleeding and whatnot aside) and DH's least favorite six weeks ever. She about died laughing. Just keeping it real.

[lea]

Since we'e been married, aside from postpartum, probably the 7 weeks DH was away recently. Normally we're 2-3x a week.

[mary1217]

Its usually a few times a week - but obviously PP plus sleepless nights - it tanked for awhile, but eventually got back to normal. DH was also just gone for 5 weeks. A few years ago DH was deployed to kuwait for 10-11ish months. So that would be the longest stretch.

[Lola]

Longest was the 6w PP for us. We are usually 3-4 a week for sex, but we typically fool around every night before bed. (TMI?)

Im currently trying to figure out how to do this with an 8 and 4 year old down the hall. All new to me.


ETA: Im rethinking based on you asking bullybutt. In my first marriage we rarely had sex,maybe every other month? Then through separation/divorce, It was about 6-9 months.

[bullybutt]

I'm a deserted wasteland at the moment.

Also, no one called me out on the misspell of deserted up there...(desserted, lol)

[soon2bmrsn]

I'll add that we're 1-2x a week and have been for a few years - since kids came into the picture basically. Also, I'm terrified of getting pregnant again. If he'd suck it up and get a V, I'd be all for more frequent sex.

[jnnfrrose6]

We can go months without (really sad when you think about it) and then we get spells of can't get enough. Unfortunately I have to do most of the initiating even though he's more than eager. It'd be nice if he made the effort a bit more that wasn't so obvious "let's have sex" contact.

[bullybutt]

Jun 18, 2015 9:38:55 GMT -5 jnnfrrose6 said:

We can go months without (really sad when you think about it) and then we get spells of can't get enough. Unfortunately I have to do most of the initiating even though he's more than eager. It'd be nice if he made the effort a bit more that wasn't so obvious "let's have sex" contact.

I hate that.  I had a hard time after dating Finkle because I went from relationships where we were rabbits ALL the time to sporadic sessions with him (even early on in the relationship) that made me really insecure about myself.  He never instigated and I was sick of putting in all the work.  Screw that (no pun intended).

[liziz]

With the exception of PP, we have't gone longer than a couple weeks. It's been rough though. It's the last thing I want to do a lot of the time.

I also haven't been single for more than a week for more than 10 years, and my now H kidna overlapped with my previous ex-BF. I definitely had "maybe we should stay together sex" with the ex right before I dumped him. Oops.

[Deleted]

Just about 28 weeks is the longest stretch for us. I was diagnosed with placenta previa and was banned from having sex until I had L. They told me this at 12 weeks. It was really hard for both of us.

Now probably 1 time a week. We get so busy we try and make time for at least one time.
EDIT:

Wait. 28 plus no sex for like 3 months post baby due to fucking horrible tearing. So 40 weeks? My GOD. Poor H!!

[liziz]

Also, way to follow the new guidelines on not cursing or using sex-words in the thread title, bullybutt.

[lucanjo14]

Since we've been married the pp period is probably our longest stretch, we went 8 weeks. Otherwise, we have gone a month without doing it for various reasons, mostly schedules and sleep deprivation. We try to do it 1-2 x per week now but it doesn't always happen.

[Liv]

Yep, postpartum was the longest dry spell. It will probably be longer this time around so we don't end up with summer baby #3!!!

[honeybee434]

I think we went almost 2 months once. I was sick, then he was sick, and then I got sick again, and then with our opposite schedules, things just never lined up.

[hurricanerek]

We went without for a few months of pregnancy because I was sick and exhausted. Otherwise it's typically 1-2x per week.

[anotherdreamer]

Hmm, from 6w to probably 28w'ish pregnant with DS (was on pelvic rest).

[dawnfire]

Jun 18, 2015 9:20:51 GMT -5 bullybutt said:

I'm a deserted wasteland at the moment.

Also, no one called me out on the misspell of deserted up there...(desserted, lol)

That's what I was imagining, and it made me a little jealous of those ladies!

We're currently about 2-3 times a week since we're TTC.  But I'm pretty meh about it and can go without.  DH, on the other hand, would be a very sad panda.

[jnnfrrose6]

So I know this is a weird question, but seeing as I'm the weirdo who goes months without it on the reg, what is it that you guys do to make it happen so regularly? How/who is initiating it? When we were dating we couldn't keep our hands off each other, but 12 years later that's not happening. It seems more contrived and I'm not a fan of that.

[Lola]

Jun 18, 2015 18:16:00 GMT -5 jnnfrrose6 said:

So I know this is a weird question, but seeing as I'm the weirdo who goes months without it on the reg, what is it that you guys do to make it happen so regularly? How/who is initiating it? When we were dating we couldn't keep our hands off each other, but 12 years later that's not happening. It seems more contrived and I'm not a fan of that.

We talk about it a lot (flirty texts during the day, etc). Sometimes it's planned. I think more than anything, when we are in the habit of doing it, it just happens more regularly. My husband isn't home two nights a week, so I know I make a point to initiate at least one night a week before his shift. He seems to do the same the day after he works.

[Leapinglizards]

You are not the only one jnnfrrose6. Honestly I never got my sex drive back. I do it but I don't get the urge to jump his bones like I used to

[honeybee434]

Jun 18, 2015 18:16:00 GMT -5 jnnfrrose6 said:

So I know this is a weird question, but seeing as I'm the weirdo who goes months without it on the reg, what is it that you guys do to make it happen so regularly? How/who is initiating it? When we were dating we couldn't keep our hands off each other, but 12 years later that's not happening. It seems more contrived and I'm not a fan of that.

DH initiates 95% of the time. I'm so tired most of the time being up with DD in the MOTN that i would rather just sit in peace and quiet or nap or just have some free moments to myself. So basically I'm no help. Other than telling you DH initiates. Lol

[bullybutt]

If all else fails put your butt against his junk and just start to rubbing. LOL If that doesn't say I want some booty, then your hubs is just an idiot.

[Deleted]

Jun 19, 2015 8:11:46 GMT -5 bullybutt said:

If all else fails put your butt against his junk and just start to rubbing. LOL If that doesn't say I want some booty, then your hubs is just an idiot.

Dead!

[jnnfrrose6]

Jun 19, 2015 8:11:46 GMT -5 bullybutt said:

If all else fails put your butt against his junk and just start to rubbing. LOL If that doesn't say I want some booty, then your hubs is just an idiot.

Honestly that's what I usually have to do, but sometimes it'd be nice if he'd initiate without it being so blatant "let's have sex" contact. Subtly isn't his strong suit, though, and I knew that when I married him. 

[Liv]

Hubs is always down for anything at the drop of a hat. Mostly he initiates, but that's only bc it only takes not-intense-at-all physical contact to get him in the mood! ?

[ladytiffany24]

DH is an animal. And i USED to have a similar sex drive. But BFing has ruined that. I'm hoping once I'm fully weaned some of that will come back.

outside of the PP drought, we usually only go a few days. We're usually like 4 or 5 times a week. Occassionally more, occassionally less. DH is usually the one that initiates...especially since my drive has diminished.

Edit: Apologies for resurrecting an old thread.

[Lola]

Jun 26, 2015 10:43:04 GMT -5 ladytiffany24 said:

DH is an animal. And i USED to have a similar sex drive. But BFing has ruined that. I'm hoping once I'm fully weaned some of that will come back.

outside of the PP drought, we usually only go a few days. We're usually like 4 or 5 times a week. Occassionally more, occassionally less. DH is usually the one that initiates...especially since my drive has diminished.

Edit: Apologies for resurrecting an old thread.

I noticed a HUGE difference once I stopped BFing. I felt like I came out of a 6 month fog. Sex drive returned to normal within a few weeks. 

[bullybutt]

Fuck, so now I need to nurse DD for as long as I can even when she wants to self wean...or else hurry up and find a fuck buddy?