Speaking of Friday, FFFC!

[mommakc]

Jan 23, 2015 10:49:19 GMT -5 bcmomsaysso said:

Jan 23, 2015 10:22:23 GMT -5 vtcnicely said:

I want to be a free range parent. I grew up in not the safest neighborhood and from 13-16 walked over 1/2 a mile to school everyday. There was no sidewalk and racially I was a minority there. I do remember being really nervous and we didn't have cell phones back then, but looking back it gave me independence and confidence.

For DS I want to let him walk to parks/school/etc. when he is appropriate age but in this society of helicopter parenting I'm nervous of the cops getting called on me. I think it's ridiculous that I have to worry about this.

I'm lucky enough to live in a fairly safe, close-knit community. Over the summer they have a community park program, where attendance is not enforced. Kids can drop in/out as they wish for guided activities and organized sports. They also have optional field-trips that you can sign up for, for a nominal fee.

It's a great way to give the kids independence as they walk to and from the park alone and can leave whenever they like (as long as they aren't on a field trip) but it is supervised by community/school volunteers so it's not completely sending them off on their own.

And the park is in window view for me which is an added bonus


Edit. Words

We have this same thing, and it's amazing. Our nine year old just started riding his bike to and from our house, which is six blocks from his mom's, and 7 from his school. I am more committed to independence, personally, and have already convinced DH and their mom to allow him to go to the local park, only four bocks away and not on a busy street, for rec. He's so excited for summer.

[sissykate21]

Jan 23, 2015 15:03:56 GMT -5 divinemsbee said:

I'd like to AW my best friend who went on Amazon this morning and made me a list of the things that were worth it, in her mommy opinion (she has 3 adorable kids who are my favorites). Which is awesome. I kind of had a little attack yesterday because there is so damn much stuff and so many options for each thing. Totally freaked. This has calmed me down a lot.

Now that is what I call a true friend. 
When pregnant with DD my DH thought it would be fun to check out Babies R Us. I got in there and had, what can only be described as a mild panic attack. I freaked out. I made a beeline for the restrooms, saw that they had BF'ing rooms (awesome) and I shamelessly locked myself in one of them until my heart stopped racing. I was overwhelmed with all the things. All The Things. I needed your friend at that moment.  

[mommakc]

Jan 23, 2015 12:27:46 GMT -5 @JanetheConquerer said:

Jan 23, 2015 12:01:10 GMT -5 kmartturtle said:

My FFFC: I have never, in my life, ever, given a BJ. And I don't plan on ever doing it. True story.

I don't either. I have once for my H when i was drunk but not since or ever again. H understands. And no sex until 12 weeks since i had been spotting, my exact words, nothings going in there until we are in safe zone. ( I had mc before my dd was born so i get stupid paranoid)

Not to sound like a slut (ha).... But I kind of love giving DH a BJ. It's almost always quicker because I'm so focused on him and the things he likes to hear. And I always feel like I accomplished something amazing when I'm done, like I am woman, hear me roar!

Most of my friends are also in the "won't go there" camp, and I complete get it!

[shannonabigail]

Just started cramping kind of hard on the low right side at work. Used that to come home an hour and a half early and put my feet up.

All my work was done and I gotta take care of myself and this jelly bean right?

[llw42614]

Jan 23, 2015 15:18:16 GMT -5 mommakc said:

Jan 23, 2015 12:27:46 GMT -5 @JanetheConquerer said:

I don't either. I have once for my H when i was drunk but not since or ever again. H understands. And no sex until 12 weeks since i had been spotting, my exact words, nothings going in there until we are in safe zone. ( I had mc before my dd was born so i get stupid paranoid)

Not to sound like a slut (ha).... But I kind of love giving DH a BJ. It's almost always quicker because I'm so focused on him and the things he likes to hear. And I always feel like I accomplished something amazing when I'm done, like I am woman, hear me roar!

Most of my friends are also in the "won't go there" camp, and I complete get it!

This!! I also feel it's another way to show him appreciation.. Let me do something amazing for you while you sit back and relax, your work hard, you deserve it, & you will keep doing it bc you get this ;-)

[mommakc]

OK, my FFFC - I am an open atheist, and I'm not ashamed of that.

My parents are atheists as well, and raised my siblings and I to be open minded to everything. They sent us to church with relatives (individually) when we were about ten, and made us stick with it for a year, through mass and Sunday school, bible study, etc. We then started having open discussions about everything, and they explained their positions. We traveled a lot, and met many different people. In the end, they absolutely supported our beliefs in either direction, and we ended up a mixed bag. (A practicing Catholic, two Christians that do not go to church, and two atheists). We all get along in that department. This is exactly how I plan to raise my children.

[telos]

All this talk of billable hours and BJs makes me want to gag.



And FTR, I swear, that's the first time I've said "billable hour" and "BJ" in the same sentence...

[2dumbdogs]

I have a ridiculous fear of something happening, and having to come home to a house full of precious baby crap with no baby. I told my husband that the only things I want to buy before August are a car seat, and a handful of onesies and diapers, and MAYBE a crib or a secondhand bassinet to get through the first week. I decided we can Amazon Prime ship everything we want once we get home. We are renting right now, so I can't really paint/decorate a nursery anyway (and I'm just not that type of person to really want to...baby won't have any clue what's going on!)

So crazy, I know, but it's just what I want.

[2dumbdogs]

Jan 23, 2015 15:29:52 GMT -5 telos said:

And FTR, I swear, that's the first time I've said "billable hour" and "BJ" in the same sentence...

Ha, don't lie.

[elizabeth11]

Jan 23, 2015 15:28:55 GMT -5 mommakc said:

OK, my FFFC - I am an open atheist, and I'm not ashamed of that.

My parents are atheists as well, and raised my siblings and I to be open minded to everything. They sent us to church with relatives (individually) when we were about ten, and made us stick with it for a year, through mass and Sunday school, bible study, etc. We then started having open discussions about everything, and they explained their positions. We traveled a lot, and met many different people. In the end, they absolutely supported our beliefs in either direction, and we ended up a mixed bag. (A practicing Catholic, two Christians that do not go to church, and two atheists). We all get along in that department. This is exactly how I plan to raise my children.

MH is an atheist and I was raised strict Italian Catholic. We get along great! We have taught our children about different religions and belief systems since the moment they had minor understanding. They know that we are open in our family about any route they wish to take or try out. We will take them to a church if they ask or take them to the library to read about a religion.
Right now my 8 yr old is an atheist and my 10 yr old is Buddhist.

[divinemsbee]

Jan 23, 2015 15:18:16 GMT -5 mommakc said:

Jan 23, 2015 12:27:46 GMT -5 @JanetheConquerer said:

I don't either. I have once for my H when i was drunk but not since or ever again. H understands. And no sex until 12 weeks since i had been spotting, my exact words, nothings going in there until we are in safe zone. ( I had mc before my dd was born so i get stupid paranoid)

Not to sound like a slut (ha).... But I kind of love giving DH a BJ. It's almost always quicker because I'm so focused on him and the things he likes to hear. And I always feel like I accomplished something amazing when I'm done, like I am woman, hear me roar!

Most of my friends are also in the "won't go there" camp, and I complete get it!

If it was faster I'd do it more often. Or at all. I just always end up with jaw cramping and then we have to stop and then start again and it just takes way too long.

[2dumbdogs]

Jan 23, 2015 15:28:55 GMT -5 mommakc said:

OK, my FFFC - I am an open atheist, and I'm not ashamed of that.

My parents are atheists as well, and raised my siblings and I to be open minded to everything. They sent us to church with relatives (individually) when we were about ten, and made us stick with it for a year, through mass and Sunday school, bible study, etc. We then started having open discussions about everything, and they explained their positions. We traveled a lot, and met many different people. In the end, they absolutely supported our beliefs in either direction, and we ended up a mixed bag. (A practicing Catholic, two Christians that do not go to church, and two atheists). We all get along in that department. This is exactly how I plan to raise my children.

I think what your parents did is beautiful.

[Deleted]

after all this sex talk, i decided 9.5 wks was enough and went home and jumped h. happy friday all

[mosdub]

Students and Staff: I have been blaming my ridiculous forgetfulness on this head cold I'm dealing with.

Confession: it's pregnancy brain.

Confession x2: Actually, I'm normally pretty forgetful so who knows.

[numb3rmel]

I haven't been here the past few days. Work, family, smerk... Whatevs.

Today is my dating u/s! Yay right? FFFC? I missed it. I thought it was at 1. Nope 12:30. I'm the dump pregnant twit that showed up 30 mins late to her first u/s. Anyways, long story short, after having my husband and my daughter here to hear the heartbeat, I thought I was out of luck. They went to get lunch while I waited to see the OB. 30 mins roll by, I'm still here. I was just going to throw in the towel on today when the chicks at the front desk told me, 'oh no, DR said you will get your u/s today.' I'm glad they're working with me. I'm dumb and fully admit it. So now. I wait. And wait. And wait.

[malelz]

Since we're on the subject of bjs, I don't mind at all. Pregnancy not withstanding. It's kind of foreplay for me as well. I hardly ever take him all the way, but it's good for startup. I also appreciate when he returns the favor, so I gotta keep up my end.

[jumparoundbucky]

Jan 23, 2015 15:28:55 GMT -5 mommakc said:

OK, my FFFC - I am an open atheist, and I'm not ashamed of that.

My parents are atheists as well, and raised my siblings and I to be open minded to everything. They sent us to church with relatives (individually) when we were about ten, and made us stick with it for a year, through mass and Sunday school, bible study, etc. We then started having open discussions about everything, and they explained their positions. We traveled a lot, and met many different people. In the end, they absolutely supported our beliefs in either direction, and we ended up a mixed bag. (A practicing Catholic, two Christians that do not go to church, and two atheists). We all get along in that department. This is exactly how I plan to raise my children.

I think this is awesome. 

[mosdub]

Jan 23, 2015 16:01:52 GMT -5 numb3rmel said:

I haven't been here the past few days. Work, family, smerk... Whatevs.

Today is my dating u/s! Yay right? FFFC? I missed it. I thought it was at 1. Nope 12:30. I'm the dump pregnant twit that showed up 30 mins late to her first u/s. Anyways, long story short, after having my husband and my daughter here to hear the heartbeat, I thought I was out of luck. They went to get lunch while I waited to see the OB. 30 mins roll by, I'm still here. I was just going to throw in the towel on today when the chicks at the front desk told me, 'oh no, DR said you will get your u/s today.' I'm glad they're working with me. I'm dumb and fully admit it. So now. I wait. And wait. And wait.

Oh that sucks  I feel like the wait for my 1st ultrasound is taking so long that if I missed it and they had to reschedule I'd break down and cry - and I'm not that type of person!  Glad they are working with you! 

[pmcd886]

Jan 23, 2015 16:01:52 GMT -5 numb3rmel said:

I haven't been here the past few days. Work, family, smerk... Whatevs.

Today is my dating u/s! Yay right? FFFC? I missed it. I thought it was at 1. Nope 12:30. I'm the dump pregnant twit that showed up 30 mins late to her first u/s. Anyways, long story short, after having my husband and my daughter here to hear the heartbeat, I thought I was out of luck. They went to get lunch while I waited to see the OB. 30 mins roll by, I'm still here. I was just going to throw in the towel on today when the chicks at the front desk told me, 'oh no, DR said you will get your u/s today.' I'm glad they're working with me. I'm dumb and fully admit it. So now. I wait. And wait. And wait.

With DS1 I went the day after one of my regular OB check ups, like took the time off work and everything. They made it happen for me too. I was extremely grateful. I felt like an idiot when they said, "Your appointment was this time yesterday."

[lawndog1216]

Jan 23, 2015 14:12:31 GMT -5 kmartturtle said:

Jan 23, 2015 13:27:03 GMT -5 lawndog1216 said:

All you girls who've not had sex this trimester - count me in (although that's expiring very shortly).

shannonabigail, I felt the same way when I clicked over to "Member"!

kmartturtle, I kinda want to flip you the bird for your FFFC, but mostly out of jealousy. However, that's because I'm old and I'm over it, and DH is old and decidedly NOT over it. When I was young, it never bothered me and I liked the slight power of being in charge of him.

I still suck at coming up with my own FFFC and UO's. A therapist would probably have a field day with the people-pleaser in me.


eta: spelling.

double post...

bahahahahahaha

[sissykate21]

My FFFC is that I was all excited to show my manager how productive I am in spite of pregnancy brain/fatigue/etc. (I haven't told anyone at work yet) I planned to take on 2015 like a boss!
So far, the most productive I've been is only evidenced by my contributions on this site. And my status is still n00b so that's not sayin' much.

[astheria]

Y'all are lucky (depending on how you look at it). MH specifically asked the OB at the first appointment if sex was a go. He literally asked her "so, about intercourse...." I about died. She gave the green light so it's almost impossible for me to get out of.

And I am with some of you, I'm not a huge fan of giving BJs. I have what I think is TMj and my jaw does all sorts of weird things while I'm doing it and the pressure from sucking is just too much sometimes. Lol

My Fffc I've hardly gotten anything done at work. I do leukemia research for a living. It's probably not good to admit I'm not working as hard as I should be . Also scared to death I have strep now bc of a coworker being an idiot and coming to work for five mins while sick. Fuck her. I am all sorts of judgey on her about it.

[ady45]

I don't mind BJ's but I have A very touchy gag reflex so going until completion is not happening. I have tried and always end up running and heaving to the bathroom. Yeah, nope.
FFFC- I don't have an orgasm from just sex. I need a LOT of foreplay. It's kind of sad.

Oh FFFC #2- At work, we have a portable ultrasound machine that is used for finding veins and starting IV's. I really want to use it on myself to see the baby.

Eta: can't spell.

[abvintage]

Jan 23, 2015 17:40:43 GMT -5 ady45 said:

I don't mind BJ's but I have A very touchy gag reflex so going until completion is not happening. I have tried and always end up running and heaving to the bathroom. Yeah, nope.
FFFC- I don't have an orgaorgan from just sex. I need a LOT of foreplay. It's kind of sad.

Oh FFFC #2- At work, we have a portportable ultrasound machine that is used for finding veins and starting IV's. I really want to use it on myself to see the baby.

Eta: can't spell.

I would have already done this. I wouldn't even feel bad.

[mommakc]

OK, this is technically a UO, I think, but I've seen it so many times today I just have to get it out.

I can't stand the word siggy.

[hopefulreturn]

Currently sexless in our house too. DH was freaked when I was able to think about it at 5 weeks. Now I don't want anyone or anything to touch me. Damn nausea makes me just want to ball up and be alone!

[anaberry]

We're talking about bjs huh? And sex? love it, as always.... Here's my Fffc:
After I stopped taking my contraceptive about three years ago, my vagina dried up - bad. I couldn't get wet, not even porn helped. If we had sex, I would bleed because my husband would enter into the Sahara covered by thin walls of skin.
Lubs didn't help, Dr's and medicine didn't help, and I forgot the last time I had an orgasm with him. One asswhole dr told me I just had to suck it up and it was a mental thing.
The worst part is, I was a fucking sex fiend. Insatiable. Husband would ask for breaks before this.
I was so desperate, and this shit went on for 3 fucking years. I go to a dr, and he diagnosed me with a 28 year olds equivalent to vaginal atrophy. Wtf people? Wtf? He gave me estrogen BOMBS, and I jumped my hubby 3 weeks straight. I was knocked up, and now I'm back to being a desert down there.
I'm so upset, I don't give him BJs anymore because I'm petty and immature. So I am on the no sex train along with many, but if I could, I'd be the queen of BJs and riding it like a champ if I could.

[ady45]

Jan 23, 2015 17:59:06 GMT -5 abvintage said:

Jan 23, 2015 17:40:43 GMT -5 ady45 said:

I don't mind BJ's but I have A very touchy gag reflex so going until completion is not happening. I have tried and always end up running and heaving to the bathroom. Yeah, nope.
FFFC- I don't have an orgaorgan from just sex. I need a LOT of foreplay. It's kind of sad.

Oh FFFC #2- At work, we have a portportable ultrasound machine that is used for finding veins and starting IV's. I really want to use it on myself to see the baby.

Eta: can't spell.

I would have already done this. I wouldn't even feel bad.

I am hoping I have time this weekend! I have used the doppler. It eases my PGAL brain to hear the heartbeat.

[carabassa]

I'm late to the game, but with all this talk about sex and BJs and orgasms, I feel compelled to share.

FFFC: I've never had an orgasm. Never. Not by myself, not with H, not with anyone, not any kind, not any time. Zilch.

[shannonabigail]

Jan 23, 2015 19:09:17 GMT -5 carabassa said:

I'm late to the game, but with all this talk about sex and BJs and orgasms, I feel compelled to share.

FFFC: I've never had an orgasm. Never. Not by myself, not with H, not with anyone, not any kind, not any time. Zilch.

Have you tried using a vibrator?