IT'S FRIDAY!!!!!!!!! Confessions ahead

[k3am]

I keep a running list of folks with bad bathroom behavior in my head. We have one girl in another department who refuses to wash her hands. EVERY.SINGLE.TIME. And I totally judge her for it. But I know DH isn't great about washing his hands either, and I'm cool with that. I'm really inconsistent. Everything I've read says it's about a 50/50 mix of handwashers/nonhandwashers. YUM.

(This is, sadly, the top confession I can think of right now).

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Someone in the women's room takes elephant sized dumps and doesn't flush. This is disgusting.

[kcones88]

I can see (and sometimes hear ) the bathroom from my desk. I know pretty much everything that goes on in there and who does and does not wash hands. Let's just say, I use a lot of hand sanitizer at work.

[k3am]

I am so relieved not to be on the only person worried about this.. DH acts like I'm crazy to be concerned with other folks hand washing habits.

[mommyatty]

You people are not making me feel better about my situation where I'm sure all the dudes I'm on this trip with know when I'm pooping. But, I DO wash my hands. And DH is borderline OCD about hand washing.

My confession... I think Silver Alerts are dumb. Highway signs should only be used to tell me something about the condition of the highway. Especially in Texas, it's dumb to put out a statewide alert. First of all, I don't think old people are children. There was a silver alert issued for a 65 year old woman with a history of depression who left after a fight with her grown daughter. Really? I think as a grown up, she has a right to leave if she wants to. Mind you, she wasn't suicidal or homicidal, just at some point in her life she had suffered from depression. Second, I don't think the alerts work. How many people DRIVING DOWN THE HIGHWAY memorize that a blue Camry with the license plate PXL-4275 may have an old person in it? And in Texas, if the person can drive 1100 miles without attracting attention and without incident, they aren't that impaired. No one keeps track of how the alerts turn out. I think they know if they studied it, they would find the alerts totally ineffective.

[k3am]

Silver alerts? Really? I don't think we get those here. Or if we do, I've never noticed.

My favorite alerts are the ones that come across mobile phones. A few months ago (maybe a year?), they issued an alert for a kidnapping at like 2:30 AM. I think it was probably the first alert like that I'd ever gotten. That shit woke up EVERYONE in California. And trust me, if someone left SoCal at 1:30AM, there's no way in hell they made it to NorCal by 2:30, and even less of a chance that I'm going to see them while I'm in bed. So now the alerts are pointless, since they've been turned off.

[mommyatty]

Ah yes, Texas loves them some alerts. The Amber in Amber alerts was a Texas girl. So we have Amber alerts for kids. Blue alerts for impaired adults under 65 and Silver alerts for over 65 with a mental impairment. Between that and my state government's obsession with my uterus, I giggle every time a Texan whines about California being a nanny state.

[psutexan]

I totally did nothing at work yesterday other than read my book on my Kindle app. I felt moderately bad about it but it didn't change my behavior

[2chatter]

Further to Texas road signs - I cannot stand the "Guard rail damage ahead signs". What, are they going to prevent an accident, the nature of which is not intentional or controlled? Total waste of money. Should be rephrased to say "Don't run off the road ahead" - equally effective and stupid.

I feel very guilty for being petty, but petty I am.
So DH totally messed up Saturday night with zero celebration of my VP promotion. Apologies followed on Monday night, with a very nice bracelet. Very out of character and appreciated. BUT. I don't want or need another bracelet. The man keeps buying me bracelets for all major holidays (including the just past birthday and Christmas). For a year I have been asking for a short necklace. BUY IT FOR ME PLEASE DH and stop giving me bracelets!!! There is no way I can tell him this and I sound so ungrateful but there it is.

[supertrooper1]

We also keep a running list of people who don't wash their hands because it seems like they're the first to reach into a bag of chips or touch other food at a work potluck.

My FFFC is that I'm bummed that DH called in sick on my two days off yesterday and Wednesday. I was looking forward to my alone time with DS.

[doodler]

Also work related...my work BFF just recently found out her hubby is cheating and is figuring out the separation and everything else. I have spent way more time talking her off a ledge and googling stuff for her this past week than I have being productive.

[mustardseed2007]

Jan 23, 2015 11:28:52 GMT -5 doodler said:

Also work related...my work BFF just recently found out her hubby is cheating and is figuring out the separation and everything else. I have spent way more time talking her off a ledge and googling stuff for her this past week than I have being productive.

I spent yesterday talking to my sister. She was the cheater, which is so very disappointing. I feel so bad for her DH.

Unfortunately we're not going to get him in the divorce...

[doodler]

Jan 23, 2015 11:46:59 GMT -5 mustardseed2007 said:

Jan 23, 2015 11:28:52 GMT -5 doodler said:

Also work related...my work BFF just recently found out her hubby is cheating and is figuring out the separation and everything else. I have spent way more time talking her off a ledge and googling stuff for her this past week than I have being productive.

I spent yesterday talking to my sister. She was the cheater, which is so very disappointing. I feel so bad for her DH.

Unfortunately we're not going to get him in the divorce...

Because of this situation I have been thinking a lot this week about what I would do if a close family member cheated.  In this particular situation he also has an 18mo.  It is not something that I have ever had to deal with.  I would have a very hard time remaining close with that person.  In a sort of related situation, DH and I have recently cut off his brother who is a deadbeat dad to his son who is 3 weeks younger than our son.  There are also other long standing issues in his life but this has been the tipping point for us.  I know it is killing my husband but he also just can't support that behavior.

[doodler]

Jan 23, 2015 11:59:57 GMT -5 privacy said:

I've been contemplating chopping all my hair off (below the shoulders) for quite a while and going pixie. I was like 80% decided and this morning asked DD what she thought, she loved the idea. My mom is watching her this morning, so the first thing DD does is tell grandma that I'm going to chop off all my hair. Which led to my mom trying to convince me not to do it, and/or just cut it short to a bob like hers (this is one reason I'm not keen on the Bob, my mom has for years tried to have the same hairstyle, she can't get hers to grow long anymore or I'm sure she would have). Her main reasoning being that "our" curly/wavy hair doesn't do well that short - I have straight hair. Her insistence/resistance to the pixie pushed me to 100% decided to do it.
Yes I'm 35 and still rebelling against my mother.

I support both the chopping off of your hair and rebelling against your mother  I got an inverted bob a few months before getting pregnant with DS.  I loved it and got tons of compliments but DH does not like my hair short.  I let it grow out while I was pregnant and pretty much ever since(DS is 15 months).  It's halfway down my back now and I am strongly considering chopping it again now that DS is sleeping a little later in the mornings and I have some time to style it.  

Just to take this way off topic, I got the Conair Curl Secret for Christmas and I am obsessed.  It creates perfect curls on my long heavy hair.

[k3am]

Jan 23, 2015 12:26:06 GMT -5 doodler said:

Jan 23, 2015 11:59:57 GMT -5 privacy said:

I've been contemplating chopping all my hair off (below the shoulders) for quite a while and going pixie. I was like 80% decided and this morning asked DD what she thought, she loved the idea. My mom is watching her this morning, so the first thing DD does is tell grandma that I'm going to chop off all my hair. Which led to my mom trying to convince me not to do it, and/or just cut it short to a bob like hers (this is one reason I'm not keen on the Bob, my mom has for years tried to have the same hairstyle, she can't get hers to grow long anymore or I'm sure she would have). Her main reasoning being that "our" curly/wavy hair doesn't do well that short - I have straight hair. Her insistence/resistance to the pixie pushed me to 100% decided to do it.
Yes I'm 35 and still rebelling against my mother.

I support both the chopping off of your hair and rebelling against your mother  I got an inverted bob a few months before getting pregnant with DS.  I loved it and got tons of compliments but DH does not like my hair short.  I let it grow out while I was pregnant and pretty much ever since(DS is 15 months).  It's halfway down my back now and I am strongly considering chopping it again now that DS is sleeping a little later in the mornings and I have some time to style it.  

Just to take this way off topic, I got the Conair Curl Secret for Christmas and I am obsessed.  It creates perfect curls on my long heavy hair.

As someone who recently chopped off all her hair and hated it.. I still say go for it. Make sure it's your CURRENT hair dresser who does it, who knows your hair and how it behaves so he can adjust your cut accordingly. While my second cut was MUCH more flattering and I think looks great, it's more high maintenance than I'm willing to put in.. My stylist was sad to hear that I'm growing it out, but he's been doing a great job of getting me "in between" cuts to help the transition from short to longer that works for my hair type. The style isn't what I love right now, but it looks clean and polished and not like I'm growing it out. 

TL;DR: Do it. It will grow back if you hate it. 

[k3am]

privacy - I know it goes against what most of what you do, but before and after pics, please!

[k3am]

privacy - I know it goes against what most of what you do, but before and after pics, please!

[kcones88]

privacy, my SIL recently did the pixie cut. I LOVE it on her. She can't stop talking about how easy it is to wash and style it in the mornings. I'm kinda jealous.

[k3am]

privacy - the shorter hair is really flattering on you.. I would totally go for the pixie!

[k3am]

My true confession for the day. It's Friday, which means mimosas at 11:30ish. The rest of the day will be non-productive, and around 4, we're leaving for happy hour. I love Fridays.

[indyrowergirl]

privacy - with your cheekbones you can totally pull off the pixie! Go for it! As someone who had one a long time ago, I'd recommend starting with the KDunst pixie, and if you want it shorter, go for the GGodwin. The one thing I didn't like about my pixie was when it was time to grow it out - getting it over the ears is the worst part of it. Keep a little length around the ears if you can (a la KDunst). If that makes you nuts, you can always take it off.

My FFFC - I don't want to be my Mom's friend, I want to be her daughter. My mom is an introvert, has very few friends, and no real social circle. She recently found out that my step dad is cheating on her (this isn't the first time) and is contemplating divorcing him. She wants to spill every detail, and as she has no friends, I end up hearing about all of it. Consequently, I know way more about my parents' marriage than is appropriate. However, she also wants me to act like nothing is wrong when I'm around him, which I just can't do. Add to it all that if she does decide to leave him, she will end up moving in with me, and I'm a big ball of stress and anxiety about the entire thing. I try to draw, what I consider to be, healthy boundaries and tell my mom that she can't keep unloading this stuff on me, but then she calls me crying and I feel like a b*tch. Ugh. I feel like I can't win. @doodler - why do families have to be some complicated!

[librarychica]

Must be in the air -- we have cheating relative/acting like a jerk drama in our family too. Thankfully it isn't on my side.

I try to note the silver alerts as both my grandmas have/had Alzheimer's, but we live in FL and there are confused old people everywhere evidently.

My confession: The other day I was running errands sans kids and stopped at McDonald's for a fish sandwich. I never buy my daughter McDonald's and I'm have no idea if they're even really fish, but I have a odd love for that sandwich.

[emmaswan]

My FFFC: I don't care about the Super Bowl and I'm tired of hearing about the Patriots balls.

[arkansasmom22]

Jan 23, 2015 10:14:11 GMT -5 k3am said:

I keep a running list of folks with bad bathroom behavior in my head. We have one girl in another department who refuses to wash her hands. EVERY.SINGLE.TIME. And I totally judge her for it. But I know DH isn't great about washing his hands either, and I'm cool with that. I'm really inconsistent. Everything I've read says it's about a 50/50 mix of handwashers/nonhandwashers. YUM.

(This is, sadly, the top confession I can think of right now).

I do this too! In my old department there was a lady who loved to bake and would bring in desserts all the time. People always raved about them but I never really indulged because I was on WW. Well one day I was in the bathroom and she totally used the restroom and walked out without washing her hands! After that I always made sure to never eat anything she brought in.

[mommyatty]

@emmaswan - The 25 men I'm on this trip with agree with you. One of them a few minutes ago said, "For God's sake, can we cause an incident so they'll quit talking about under inflated balls? That's all that's been on CNN for 3 days!"

[Deleted]

Jan 23, 2015 10:16:28 GMT -5 @marlasinger said:

Someone in the women's room takes elephant sized dumps and doesn't flush. This is disgusting.

We have a list of things that women do at work in the bathroom. It grows and grows. We give people nicknames. #girlsaregross

[CurlieWhirlie]

In light of some of the previous posts in this thread, I guess this is a UO rather than a confession — I don't think that cheating is a reason to cut a family member, or a friend, out of your life. And I don't think that when a couple separates/divorces that means that you "lose" one of them. It's possible to care for and support both people, even if you don't agree with their decisions. I'm still friends with people who voted for Romney, for example. :-)

[2chatter]

I have a new one. DD has a friend that I find very self-centered and somewhat dumb. Mostly harmless in the grand scheme of things, but this girl really bugs me. I just needed to tell someone that!

[gamora24527]

For lunch today I ordered pizza for my support staff. I did it not so much to be nice as much as I wanted to eat a half of a pizza without anyone noticing or judging me. We also had dessert pizza

[mustardseed2007]

Jan 23, 2015 16:48:05 GMT -5 CurlieWhirlie said:

In light of some of the previous posts in this thread, I guess this is a UO rather than a confession — I don't think that cheating is a reason to cut a family member, or a friend, out of your life. And I don't think that when a couple separates/divorces that means that you "lose" one of them. It's possible to care for and support both people, even if you don't agree with their decisions. I'm still friends with people who voted for Romney, for example. :-)

EH, I think it's situational. There is cheating and there is being really mean and gross and horrible. 

My sister is drifting over the line.