Happy Double Duty Day

[freezorburn]

This sentiment has been popping up in my news feed all morning, and I thought it would be appropriate to share here:

... Happy Father's Day to all the single parents out there, who take on the role of being both mom and dad to your LOs. (Trying to keep this gender neutral, though I'm not aware of any single dads in this forum.) Big hugs to you, whether or not you are sharing this day with your child(ren).

I'm having a rough time today. There are practical reasons why STBX is not with DS today, but on an emotional level, I'm feeling a lot of sad and a lot of angry over the situation.

[arb213]

Hugs, freezorburn.

My DD is with her father (he's involved in her life, and very much so) but I felt this way Friday evening. I went to a neighborhood block party without my daughter (it was her weekend to be with her father) and I felt absolutely horrible seeing all the happy in tact families together. It just breaks my heart. Can't stop thinking about it and can't wait to have my weekend with her this coming week.

Again, hugs!

[ontherock2012]

It's tough being the "double duty" parent.
DD has never met her bio-dad, and she's at the age now that she's aware of it. At 3, I'm not getting into details, of course, but when she says "I don't have a dad" I tell her mommy loves you very much and our family is just me and you.
It kills me that I can't give her that picture perfect family.

Father's Day at our house is just another Sunday.

[lolo918]

I know this is just another weekend. I was not, however expecting this weekend to be so hard emotionally.

Hugs to you freezorburn.

[20thirteen]

Hugs to everyone.

[Deleted]

Heck yeah! I buy myself whatever I want for Mothers and Fathers day! A kid at DS school asked me if he had a dad, and I said, no he does not, but time for one of the gently reinfocing talks I think.

[excited30]

I wish that I'd looked at the board on Father's Day. I had a hard time that day too. I am the sole custody parent, the "mother/father" on the day to day responsibility level. DD's dad is in her life through phone calls, and a weekly 1-2 hr supervised visit. We had a visit on Father's Day. So, it was a very bittersweet day. An in your face reminder of what could have been but isn't. Like, literally. I came home, put dd to bed and cried. I also started Father's day with a trip to the hospital in an ambulance. I had to have my 3 yr old dd run and get me the phone so I could call 9-1-1. I came home, recuperated for over half the day, and then had the father's day visit. Yay for me! It was a good visit all in all, but the day was tough, and honestly, I'm thankful that he's around and in as little as it is, for the amount that he IS around and that he gives what he can to dd. I did have a self pity moment though that I was angry he wasn't there to replace dd having to find me almost passed out sick. Aaaaanyways... neither here nor there.

[freezorburn]

excited30, Sorry you had such a rough day. Glad the trip to the hospital didn't turn into an overnight visit! Sounds like Father's Day was tough for a lot of us. Well, it's behind us now.

Mine actually turned into a bunch of drama later in the day, which I won't re-hash now. But I decided to use it as an opportunity to give STBXH some things to think about for what kind of role he wants to have in the future.

@sherminator, I love the idea of a Father's Day gift for myself! I've been holding off on buying a few things for myself, for a bunch of reasons, but maybe I deserve something after last weekend.

[20thirteen]

excited30, holy shit! Trip to the hospital? I'm sorry you had to go there, I hope you're feeling much better

freezorburn, @sherminator, I was pregnant on the first (well, only) Father's Day that I celebrated for me. I gave myself a trip to get a mani/pedi. HAHAHA.

But, seriously, I hope you all go out and do something special for yourselves.

[arb213]

excited30, hope you're feeling better. How awful

[excited30]

lunalovegood, 20thirteen, and arb213 thanks for your concern.  It was an awful few hours for me. Very scary and not what I want to go through again (but very likely might).  I am just fine now and have been most of the rest of this week. I still need to make a follow up drs appointment to discuss my condition.. I've been putting it off. I don't have very much free time these days and really don't want to book the appointment time.  I'm doing childcare 6x a week right now and if I can get a spare moment I don't want to spend it there. Boo... but I hate the thought of it happening again and the effects on my daughter. Part of my episode on Sun had me laying on the bathroom floor unable to move and today when my 3 year old daughter was feeling sick she disappeared and was quiet for a few minutes.  She then came to me and told me, "Mommy, I just went to lay down on the bathroom floor for awhile. I wasn't feeling well... just like you!"  Awwww... so not what I want her to pick up.  Unavoidable. And no, I wasn't drinking