Can I intro?
Jun 22, 2015 0:11:56 GMT -5
Post by angelsnight on Jun 22, 2015 0:11:56 GMT -5
I hope this doesn't offend anyone, I am not sure if I really belong here or not. I am still married, been with MH for 8 years and married for almost 5. Our living DD just turned 15 months and we have a DD in Heaven.
I've always thought of leaving him, for the entire 8 years, but it's just since DD was born that I have ever given it serious thought, and today I delivered the ultimatum. He needs to make some serious changes, he needs to go back on anti-depressants, and he needs to seek anger management. He has a serious anger problem and is verbally abusive to me (but he has never ever been bad to DD, but she does see/hear our fights and they upset her).
I am finally reaching a point of accepting divorce. I haven't really been ready until now....I'm still not, but I will not have DD growing up, seeing her daddy treat me terribly, thinking this is how all men behave. I love my husband, but I love my DD and myself more.
So I know I am not technically a single parent yet, obviously he is still here if I absolutely need him, but in many ways I do all of it by myself. Caring for her, feeding her, playing with her, bathing her, putting her down for naps and bedtime, I do it all. He will occasionally change a diaper or get her dressed if I ask him to, but he does almost nothing on his own except play with her for 5 minutes here and there. I am currently a SAHM, so yeah much of it does fall on me, but even on the weekends or when he's off work he does nothing, and didn't even when I was working (been a SAHM for almost a year). I take care of everything for our house, the bills, medical appointments, I drive DD to and from his parents house when they take her for the day. Pretty much all he does is work, and occasionally mows the lawns. Oh, and bitches about what I don't do right.
None of my family knows I am contemplating divorce, and only my best friend knows, so it's tough without many people to talk to. Just wondering if I can hang out here a little?
I've always thought of leaving him, for the entire 8 years, but it's just since DD was born that I have ever given it serious thought, and today I delivered the ultimatum. He needs to make some serious changes, he needs to go back on anti-depressants, and he needs to seek anger management. He has a serious anger problem and is verbally abusive to me (but he has never ever been bad to DD, but she does see/hear our fights and they upset her).
I am finally reaching a point of accepting divorce. I haven't really been ready until now....I'm still not, but I will not have DD growing up, seeing her daddy treat me terribly, thinking this is how all men behave. I love my husband, but I love my DD and myself more.
So I know I am not technically a single parent yet, obviously he is still here if I absolutely need him, but in many ways I do all of it by myself. Caring for her, feeding her, playing with her, bathing her, putting her down for naps and bedtime, I do it all. He will occasionally change a diaper or get her dressed if I ask him to, but he does almost nothing on his own except play with her for 5 minutes here and there. I am currently a SAHM, so yeah much of it does fall on me, but even on the weekends or when he's off work he does nothing, and didn't even when I was working (been a SAHM for almost a year). I take care of everything for our house, the bills, medical appointments, I drive DD to and from his parents house when they take her for the day. Pretty much all he does is work, and occasionally mows the lawns. Oh, and bitches about what I don't do right.
None of my family knows I am contemplating divorce, and only my best friend knows, so it's tough without many people to talk to. Just wondering if I can hang out here a little?
Many hugs.
