Anyone else have to defend their KU status?

[league2b3]

Ok, ladies, I got my blood work back from my doctors and apparently they don't even test to confirm pregnancy. I contacted them this morning to see if maybe I wasn't reading correctly, and they said that it's simply because I got a positive at home, so there really isn't any need to test me again. Ok, cool, I get it. (PGaL brain would have appreciated some type of confirmation, but okay.)

I was fine with this until last night when my dad and my evil stepmother looked at me like I was insane when I told them I was pregnant, and that the doctor didn't run a QUANT test. Then it turned into an hour of them asking me if I was sure I was pregnant.

Then, I text H do tell him why there was no test, and he's all like "Well, did you ask them to test you? It'd be nice if they did."
So I told him no...I won't be asking them. I got a positive at home and I have a freaking ultrasound next week.

So, apparently the multiple sticks I've peed on aren't enough and I'm having to defend the fact that I'm pregnant. Um, here, let me show you my sticks and tell you about how freaking tired/nauseated/achy I've been. Let me show you my temp chart and explain to you how I would  be going on 3 weeks late at this point. And now, I'm ragey, too, apparently.

[akraus2015]

I've been dealing with this with my husband, actually. I think he's scared and it's his natural defense mechanism, but he keeps saying things like "We haven't even seen the doctor yet, we aren't even sure you're really pregnant." It makes me super angry every time he says something like that. Yes I'm fucking sure I'm pregnant!

I'm trying to be understanding and put myself in his place. He isn't feeling all the things that are going on in my body, so he really has nothing to connect it to, other than just taking my word for it.

[league2b3]

It's so frustrating, isn't it akraus2015?

We had a very early loss in September, so I get the hesitation. But I mean, pregnant is pregnant. Don't make me defend this baby. We told our immediate family because should anything happen, I'd want their support. Everything was fine until last night when we told my dad (the last to find out).

Don't get me wrong, they're all really excited, but don't ask me if I'm sure I'm pregnant.

[mishy2010]

My doctor's office uses a urine test to confirm pregnancy in office. I won't have blood work for another couple of weeks and I'll schedule a dating ultrasound after my first appointment. If someone tried to tell me that meant I wasn't pregnant I would be so pissed.

[league2b3]

It seriously hurts because I am SO close to my dad.

And my stepmom is a bitch. "Didn't they run a a QUANT? Why wouldn't they do that? That's really weird. So you're sure?"

YES. I'M SURE. Just because you work in medical billing and work with a ton of OBGYNs doesn't mean you know everything.

Now I'm crying.

Damn hormones.

[salsawifey]

Most often the doctor will use the same tests as you do at home.  Since you've tested positive there is no reason to test you again.  Sometimes they will run betas if you've had a history of loss but my doctors office doesn't even do that.  The chances of you having a false positive is very, very small if you are not on fertility drugs.

Next time they want to give you crap about it, throw them a pee stick.  LOL!

[britterrss]

Jun 22, 2015 9:36:20 GMT -5 league2b3 said:

It seriously hurts because I am SO close to my dad.

And my stepmom is a bitch. "Didn't they run a a QUANT? Why wouldn't they do that? That's really weird. So you're sure?"

YES. I'M SURE. Just because you work in medical billing and work with a ton of OBGYNs doesn't mean you know everything.

Now I'm crying.

Damn hormones.

Pee on a stick in front of them and say "HERE! This is the same GD chemical they measure in the blood. It's positive for HCG! Google it and STFU because I'm pregnant!"

I mean, maybe you're not that intense or in your face - but it'd probably make me you feel better.

[league2b3]

I told them all that if they needed proof the pee sticks are still in my bathroom drawer if they'd like a gander. My. Gawd.

[leahks77]

I remember being surprised by that when I was pregnant with DS. I didn't get anything done until my first appt at 8wks. I asked them if they wanted me to come in to confirm and they told me no, the tests at home are just as good (sometimes better) than in the office. And since I had peed on many sticks, that was acceptable.
I'm sorry they were weird and challenging. You are pregnant Tell them you have all the confirmation you need in the drawer...

[SheilaTheTank]

Who the hell would make up that they're pregnant, especially after a loss? What the actual fuck?

I'd hand them a pair of sun glasses and be like "you're welcome to take a look with this special ute goggles the doctor gave me." assholes.

[chickadee]

I'm sorry you went through that! I think it is pretty typical to not have a test by the office. I don't go in until 8 weeks and even then it is just a meeting with a nurse. I don't see a doctor until after 10 weeks. I agree with the pee on the stick and shove it in their face tactic!

[auchick913]

Ugh so been there with my own DH of all people. He didn't believe it even when I pulled out the pee sticks for him with two obvious lines! He made me go get a blood test, which was very positive, and only then did he believe it. And it didn't matter that my period was late. He still won't fully acknowledge the pregnancy until he sees the ultrasound next week.

My mother also didn't believe it. She was asking if I was sure I didn't have some kind of tumor. Or if I was using left over fertility meds that could somehow still be in my system.

I guess this is what happens when doctors tell you you can't conceive and then you do.

[lvlyldybmp]

sorry league2b3, that's rotten. I haven't had to defend the fact that I'm pregnant, but I constantly have to correct people (i.e. my MIL) about what I can and can't do... because once you're pregnant you're not able to do anything apparently...

[eyelashedviper]

My last pregnancy the doctor's office was content with a home test and then booked an appointment for 10 weeks.