Finalization Party

[milehighmama]

We have a date set for the finalization and I am trying to figure out logistics of a small party to celebrate.  The finalization is the day before we have family coming to town and 2 days before H's birthday.    I feel bad having a party the day of and excluding family but I also don't want to celebrate the adoption the same day as H's birthday.  The family visit was planned before we had a date set and they can't come out earlier.
What would you do in this situation?

[Captain Serious]

We keep most of our adoption celebrations to just our family, although we did include grandparents and aunts/uncles on the boys' first anniversaries. Since your son is older, I caution you that he may have some unexpected mixed feelings that day if he ever lived with his birth family.

I wouldn't feel bad about keeping it intimate because otherwise it could be overwhelming to him. I think as parents, we want to make a big hoopla to make our children feel special and the center of attention, but sometimes, that's not really what they want or need.

Congratulations on your upcoming finalization!

[pinkie]

Personally I would combine and say you are celebrating your husbands birthday and the adoption finalization. We just had our baby baptized and at the lunch said we had so much to celebrate, his baptism and the official finalization of our family. I would feel weird bringing the same group of people together twice in such a short time.

I agree with the pp that you could go to dinner after the finalization with just your family if you want to make that day extra special.

Congrats on your upcoming finalization - it's such a special day