I schedule it, but I also have a toddler. Pre-baby, if I knew it was fertile week, I would just make sure I was being good about initiating and be spontaneous the rest of the month.
This is us. Pre-baby, we had a much more active sex life and during my FW, I initiated a lot. With a toddler, we are much more limited in our opportunities so we need to schedule. This month we have been terrible about it but next month we plan to aim for EOD during the fertile week. Basically it will be get DD to bed by 8 (hopefully) then head to the bedroom before I crash out by 9:30. Romantic, I know.
Yep this is us. We have been known a few times to spontaneously decide for the child to watch TV in the living room and slip down the hall for a quickie. Most of the time though it's semi scheduled and praying that DD goes to sleep at a decent time.
Post by daystardreams on Jun 26, 2015 12:30:18 GMT -5
I was really worried about this at first too but as time wore on, it has just become second nature. My DH is just as informed as I am. I tell him when my fertile week is coming up. We make a game plan together. This month (since apparently I can ovulate anywhere from CD 14-31, wtf body) we decided to switch to every third day instead of every other day. The rest of the month is pretty much up to him. I let him know frequently that I'm game if he is, no pressure!
We usually only have unscheduled sex once a month...
We usually only have unscheduled sex once a month...
We also don't have sex very often when we aren't TTC. Because of DH's constant work obligations and lack of drive, we have to schedule EOD, and sometimes that doesn't even work out. Like our toddler woke up early on O day this time.
Post by almachs0786 on Jun 27, 2015 19:00:12 GMT -5
We've been TTC long enough that we both understand when the FW comes around, it doesn't matter how "not in the mood" we are... That sounds terrible, but it's really not. There are times when we have to make ourselves because all we really want to do is go to sleep. But outside of the FW we have a very healthy sex life and relationship, so that helps a lot. The best thing you can do is communicate with your partner!
TBH, we schedule. I'm all into it on day 1 and over it by day 2. I have a low drive, a kid, I work, and DH works a LOT. I guess I'm old because most days I'd rather sleep than have sex!
I also feel like we have to schedule, because otherwise we may miss the FW.
You can always try to get quirky, try new things or places, wear something pretty, etc to spice it up!
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