I guess I just hate giving them the power to control my feelings, ya know? I just shouldn't care what they think since they're terrible human beings. BUT they're the other grandparents, and DH won't just cut them out. He's fine with not seeing them at much, but well, you know.
Yeah, I know what you mean about not wanting to give them power or dwell on what they said or how it made you feel. But letting it go... Eh I don't know if I'd be ready for that. I'm sorry. I'm sorry having kids is driving you away from your in laws. I thought grandkids were supposed to bring families closer ?
Seriously. My mom suggested that I tell mil to just be a grandparent. She doesn't have to worry about the day to day stuff that dh and I have to. She can just do fun stuff. Or she can fuck off, whatever is easier. haha. My mom is great.
Post by toadandbuggie on Jul 24, 2015 5:35:39 GMT -5
cougarette, I would probably be grudgin. I told my mom the same thing when she was freaking out (when I was still pregnant) about needing a crib and car seat and all these things - just be a grandparent! Your parent duty is done! Now you can have all the fun stuff! Just let me be a fucking parent.
lilyelayne haha thanks that made me feel better! Speaks russian... Lmao
toadandbuggie, I was hanging out with an 8 month old on vacation who is about 12 pounds...less what DS was at his 4 month appt! She is off the growth chart. She was really sick at some point around 4 months and just fell behind height and weight wise. But, she is track for everything else, just is tiny tiny still. Tiny tiny, crawling around, sitting and babbling a ton. They got her checked out and everything, and she is just a little shrimpy for now but perfectly healthy. Dr not concerned, because she is still growing well and meeting all other miles stones. So take heart...there are other babies even smaller then yours! And echoing someone else, one of my friend's husband's was really short until freshman year of college and suddenly he sprouted and is 6 foot + in the national guard and really hot, lol Lots of time!
cougarette, I don't get parenting comments for any of the grandparents, but my grandma I'm sure would dish it out if she were around. She pretends she doesn't know DS goes to day care (which she doesn't approve of) so lots of times I talk to her if I mention work, she'll ask all innocently what DS does during the day. He's at daycare. You know he is at daycare, where he has been for the past 3 months. This is not a memory issue because she is 90, it is a throwing shade issue. My two cousins who live near her, one has a nanny for her two kids, the other one's wife stayed at home while the kids were small. She loves my cousin's nanny, so that's been approved. Both me and my sister get the daycare shade. We both ignore it. Overall, she is a wonderful and loving, she just has these quirks. One of her other ones is sending us chain emails about how Muslims are trying to take over the US...she used to send me these when I lived in Morocco...I finally got her to stop that while I was there, but it started up again recently.
Anyway, if she was anyone other then my beloved grandma, those comments would piss me off to no end. But its her, so we let it slide. I should probably call her on it though. You def don't need to get over your inlaws comments for a long long time! Listen to your momma, she sounds smart!
Update on shattered toe nail: the entire nail finally fell off (2 weeks later). It strangely feels better this way.
Probably because the pieces aren't getting hung on stuff or rubbing together. TMI one of my pinkie toenails grows in two pieces, and I preferred it for the brief period it didn't really grow at all. Ballerina feet, yo, they're gross.
lilyelayne, I bet you're right. No more pulling from my sock, sheet, etc. I remember my brother's thumb nail got busted and fell off and then grew in black at first.. I was a kid when it happened so I could be making that up, but I'm prepared for it to be bad!
I think I'm going to do some me-shopping this weekend. I have exactly one pair of jeans, one pair of shorts, one dress (that is breastfeeding-friendly), and one nice-occasion outfit (skirt/nice top) that fit. Other than that, it's all lounge-wear that is pretty worn out. I at least need some nicer shirts. My boobs are 3 cup sizes bigger than pre-pregnancy and at this point, I don't see them getting smaller prior to weaning.
DS was born in the 5th percentile and has stayed around there. At his 6 months he was only 14lb2oz. I'm disappointed he's not catching up yet even though I know he has time to. I worry I'm not feeding him enough/ there is some metabolic problem with him. What worries me most is his head circumference was 3rd percentile. he's such a tiny guy! I hope having IUGR hasn't affected him negatively. Anybody with a tiny baby that finally "caught up"?
My daughter was IUGR due to HG. She's always been in "less than 4th" percentile in weight and her head has always been smaller too. She will be three next month and at her appointment this month she is only 26 pounds, 14th percent. She hasn't had anything negative because of it. My doctor said not to worry, that someone has to fill the small slots and someone has to be the biggest. DD still doesn't seem to eat a lot.
You're doing a great job! Trust your mommy gut though, if you think something is wrong call it in. I haven't felt like anything is wrong with DD, but when I do, I'm usually right.
toadandbuggie DD is around the sizes you mentioned. Her head was less than 1 percentile at 2 months and was 6 percentile at 4 months. It seems proportionate with her body though and the ped doesn't seem concerned since she went up on her growth curve from 2 to 4 month in all categories.
First MOTN blowout! Only took almost 6 months. She never pooped MOTN before but just started like every night for the past week or so. Ugh what is up with that?!?!
Post by toadandbuggie on Jul 25, 2015 6:26:19 GMT -5
allonsy221b, Yes, he has gained at every appointment. Started out at 5'13, then at 2 months he was 9lb something, then at 4 months 11'12 and now at 6 months 14'2. So steady growth. I don't feel like anything is wrong, but I've seen other babies gain more rapidly than he has. But your dr is right, someone does have to fill the smaller slots!
mands1125, Same here. The dr is never concerned but I was disappointed to hear "Your child's head is less than the 3rd percentile" because of course I think head = brain size = is everything ok??? But he is hitting all of his milestones so far. And UGH to MOTN poop blow outs!! My LO has never done that either and I hope he doesn't start! Hope your LO cuts that shit out... literally.
Post by jensoprano82 on Jul 25, 2015 10:55:48 GMT -5
toadandbuggie - another SGA mommy here, DS is also not being measured on the preemie charts (but I have a girlfriend who had the same due date, her LO was born 6 days earlier, and she's now almost 50% on everything because she's being measured on the preemie chart.) My little guy started at less than 1% and at six months was 4% on height and weight. Pedi says as long as he is following his growth curve he isn't worried. I have a niece who was also a tiny 37 weeker and she is now 22 months and 94th percentile on both, so they do catch up!!!
Don't let anyone give you flack about his eating or his weight. That's just mean spirited and unhelpful. You know you've got this.
DS was born in the 5th percentile and has stayed around there. At his 6 months he was only 14lb2oz. I'm disappointed he's not catching up yet even though I know he has time to. I worry I'm not feeding him enough/ there is some metabolic problem with him. What worries me most is his head circumference was 3rd percentile. he's such a tiny guy! I hope having IUGR hasn't affected him negatively. Anybody with a tiny baby that finally "caught up"?
My daughter was IUGR due to HG. She's always been in "less than 4th" percentile in weight and her head has always been smaller too. She will be three next month and at her appointment this month she is only 26 pounds, 14th percent. She hasn't had anything negative because of it. My doctor said not to worry, that someone has to fill the small slots and someone has to be the biggest. DD still doesn't seem to eat a lot.
You're doing a great job! Trust your mommy gut though, if you think something is wrong call it in. I haven't felt like anything is wrong with DD, but when I do, I'm usually right.
Has he been gaining at every appointment?
If he's staying on his curve and meeting milestones, and the doctor isn't concerned I'd just go with having a tiny baby. I'll loan you my giant baby who fell off his weight curve resulting in extra weigh ins. There's worrying about growth at all sizes. Someone needs to be in all percentiles. I get shocked looks when anyone asks his age and I see babies smaller then him walking and talking.
You didn't do anything to get IUGR just like I didn't do anything to get a giant baby. As long they're growing and developing, that's what matters. He may skyrocket when he's older.
Post by seamonster on Jul 25, 2015 23:55:30 GMT -5
I got a free month of amazon prime with plans to watch on my kindle. Watched nothing. I'm cancelling before I get charged for the year. Although 2 day shipping was great.
My mom wanted me to go to the 'stros game with her and my grandma tonight. I flat out said no. I feel really bad. She did ask me right after I got in from running errands. The heat index today was 113°. Just...no. I definitely wasn't taking the baby out in that nonsense.
Post by hollydfromtn on Jul 28, 2015 19:34:52 GMT -5
Spent the day rearranging the nursery so that DS could start sleeping in there tonight. I had already discussed this with DH and he was on board. Then bed time rolls around and he comes up with all of these reasons he shouldn't sleep in there. We need a mesh crib bumper. He's liable to be upset, so we should wait for the weekend (it's not like H gets up in the MOTN anyway). He's too little to be in his own room. Etc etc. He doesn't understand that one of the reasons we might be having all of these wake ups is because he's in our room and I hear every little move he makes. I just feed him instead of letting him figure out how to go back to sleep on his own. Grrrrr this momma just wants her baby to be able to sleep more than 3 hours at a time.
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