Post by lilyelayne on Jul 28, 2015 20:21:56 GMT -5
hollydfromtn I'm sorry. DH stalled DS's move to the nursery too. Maybe not at bedtime you can discuss & see if H isn't emotionally ready for LO to move rooms, acknowledge that, then pick a new date for baby's first night in the crib. That's what I did with DH.
Maybe you can convince him he should be the first to go to the nursery to soothe LO in the MOTN since he misses kiddo so much haha
hollydfromtn I'm sorry. DH stalled DS's move to the nursery too. Maybe not at bedtime you can discuss & see if H isn't emotionally ready for LO to move rooms, acknowledge that, then pick a new date for baby's first night in the crib. That's what I did with DH.
Maybe you can convince him he should be the first to go to the nursery to soothe LO in the MOTN since he misses kiddo so much haha
We actually just talked about it and it was really sweet. He said its comforts him to know that he's just right there at the end of the bed and that he still thinks he's too little. DH has very few opinions about anything, so when he does have one I try to respect it. I told him he is now in charge of when the switch will happen and I won't push it. He would be a full on bedsharing, attachment parent if he didn't sleep so hard and worry about rolling on S. I have a feeling by the time S is one he'll be in our bed full time, which is fine by me. I usually pull him in bed after his last MOTN feeding now and DH said that his favorite thing about waking up now is being able to reach across me and feel S laying there.
Post by hollydfromtn on Jul 28, 2015 20:44:16 GMT -5
DH really surprises me every now and then with how sweet and sappy he can be. If you knew him you would understand. He is not a man that shares many emotions.
hollydfromtn I'm sorry. DH stalled DS's move to the nursery too. Maybe not at bedtime you can discuss & see if H isn't emotionally ready for LO to move rooms, acknowledge that, then pick a new date for baby's first night in the crib. That's what I did with DH.
Maybe you can convince him he should be the first to go to the nursery to soothe LO in the MOTN since he misses kiddo so much haha
Did you do anything else to make your H feel better about it? We are in the same situation except I am the staller.
Not really. I told him if we moved DS and it didn't feel right to any of the three of us, we'd move him back. There's maaaaybe 2 yards between our bedroom door & the nursery door, and we sleep with both doors open.
DS was STTN more often than not, and I always brought him to the nursery to nurse anyway. DS hates bed sharing so he never ended up in bed with us.
The one night we woke DS because we were having sex was a good motivator to move him. It's nice having our room back. I read to DH until one of us falls asleep, and that was hard to do without waking the baby.
I put DS to bed, and 30-60 min later DH and I go from the living room to bed. I always stop in the nursery to feel DS's breathing. That helps.
Post by lilyelayne on Jul 28, 2015 21:07:01 GMT -5
We have a video monitor but we can only access it through an app on our iPhones or the iPad, so I mostly use it to watch DS fall asleep for naps (or to know when to go intervene). We have an audio only monitor that we mainly use. Because our rooms are so close and both doors are open, I actually turn the audio monitor off at night. If the noise isn't loud enough for me to hear with my ears, DS doesn't need me. When he actually wakes up or cries, I could hear him with my ears before the sound traveled over the monitor
Not hearing the little noises helped all of us to sleep better, I think. But DS is a good night sleeper in general.
Post by lilyelayne on Jul 28, 2015 21:11:05 GMT -5
Now my dog tried to sleep in the nursery the other night instead of in bed with us, and I flipped the fuck out. Woo woo here comes the crazy train. I try to divert the majority of my codependent anxiety onto my dog cause she doesn't let me down or get stressed when I super duper need to cling to her. Yeah... I made both the dog and DH cuddle me all night.
hollydfromtn DH won't let me put L in her crib at night. We bed-share. Her crib is on .y side of the bed. He doesn't have a reason. He just likes her sleeping in bed with us. I don't mind because I still get to get to sleep with my snoogle!
I'm getting nuggets of good info from the BLW book but it's mostly fluff and repetition. I bet there are blogs with better info. DH is giving a bit of side eye to BLW so I wanted to read a book. The style super appeals to me because of the idea that by the time your baby needs to eat, they've learned to eat, so you have a chance in hell they'll know when to stop eating at any given meal. I literally have zero clue how much DS eats at any given meal or in any given day. I'm so used to him being in charge of food & trusting him that it seems weird to feed him another way.
Of course I had a dozen ripe peaches we weren't going to eat, so I cut some into strips / chunks to freeze & puréed the rest. So I figure we'll play both ways.
I'm a little freaked out by BLW and the choking aspect. I want to do it in theory but I'm having issues moving past that :/
Eh, seen spoon fed kids gag/aspirate/cough it up too. And toddlers shoving their faces too fast. Not actually choking, but gagging or needing to cough to clear their airway.
Reading the Baby Led Weaning book. It's really repetitive, especially the anecdotes from parents.
I decided not to get it because I was worried about that. I'm drawing the majority of my info from Pinterest searches and random blog posts I find.
I felt that way about the Happiest Baby on the block. I don't need the chapters and chapters of conversion, just tell me about the swaddle and shush part, thanks.
Tell me about it. I was like ummmm if this is what she is looking for she must be "balling" because this is a crazy price for a divider for a bathtub neck you could probably make it your self out of some thick plastic or something.
I want one of these for DD dockatot.myshopify.com/ but these no way I can justify paying that for it. NOPE NOPE NOPE
Tell me about it. I was like ummmm if this is what she is looking for she must be "balling" because this is a crazy price for a divider for a bathtub neck you could probably make it your self out of some thick plastic or something.
I want one of these for DD dockatot.myshopify.com/ but these no way I can justify paying that for it. NOPE NOPE NOPE
I am certainly not ballin and even if I was I don't think I would hand over almost $200 for a stupid piece of plastic. You've got to be kidding me. That baby dock thing looks cool, but is its only purpose to keep them stationed where they are?
It's times like these where I wonder why I can't come up with an idea and make millions. Time to brainstorm
Tell me about it. I was like ummmm if this is what she is looking for she must be "balling" because this is a crazy price for a divider for a bathtub neck you could probably make it your self out of some thick plastic or something.
I want one of these for DD dockatot.myshopify.com/ but these no way I can justify paying that for it. NOPE NOPE NOPE
I am certainly not ballin and even if I was I don't think I would hand over almost $200 for a stupid piece of plastic. You've got to be kidding me. That baby dock thing looks cool, but is its only purpose to keep them stationed where they are?
It's times like these where I wonder why I can't come up with an idea and make millions. Time to brainstorm
I was thinking the same thing like why the neck can't I come up something to make tons of money of of... I'm gonna do it... And when I do..ill give all the Feb15 free samples. Lol. Now to go brainstorm. Lol. Pretty sure I'll be up all night watching DD since she hit rolled into the ottoman with her head and I'm all nervous and stuff.. meanwhile she and my two DSD are peacefully sleeping.
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