Frumpy Mom?

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I have been feeling like a frumpy, dumpy mom lately. I know part of it is bc i am 33w so many face is heavier looking, i have no waist oh and i wear pee pads...but I can't help shaking the feeling that it won't go away after baby. Let's be honest: i spent a ton of money on myself before Miss S came along. Clothing, makeup, shoes, accessories...you name it. Now i look at myself and see a vague shadow of what i was. My hair hasn't been cut in...9 months, i haven't gotten a pedicure in ages. I just don't feel sexy. Or even attractive lately. Siiigh. It doesnt help that MH sees me as an incubator and will only peck me on the lips after work either.

I guess there's no real point to this post other than to whine. I just hate feeling this way, ya know? And I'm totally nervous about losing baby weight after this pregnancy. This isn't to say that I'm not grateful, bc i am. And i wouldn't trade a thing to go back to life before kids. I guess it's just hard sometimes to accept that this is the way it is and will be.

[Robeano]

I hear ya. I feel kinda icky myself these days. Although, my maternity clothes are more sophisticated that my regular wardrobe. I have made a point of when I feel icky and gross, to just put on nicer clothes, do my hair and make up. The act of trying to make myself look better, even when I feel dumpy, helps.

Maybe we should start a fitness check in after all these babies are born, I imagine we're not the only ones struggling with post baby body.

[leahb12]

Before having my own kids, I swore to myself that I would never be that mom who always had her hair up and never got in real clothes. Well, here I am 2 kids later sitting around in my workout clothes all day. It's just not worth the effort when I'm inside taking care of children all day. I totally get it. I have been trying more to get dressed and look nicer. It takes more time, but it makes me feel better about myself. It's not every day though, especially when I don't get to shower until after bedtime.

As for losing the baby weight, I was so stressed about it. I lost the weight faster with DS2 from nursing and just being healthier throughout my pregnancy. The weight did not just fall off though. It took time and I felt awful about myself during that time no matter how many times DH said I looked great. I may not be heavier after having kids, but my body will never be the same. My boobs are deflated and my stomach is kind is wrinkly. It's something I also struggle with, so big hugs to you. I know I'm my own worst critic.

You deserve to go out and treat yourself. Get a mani/pedi, haircut, or take yourself shopping. Hang in there. I know I can relate.

[richzep]

I used to be a night showerer. What helped me after DS was born was showering in the morning. That was my only guarantee to get out of my pj's and look freshened up.

[kmc84]

I can commiserate! There's been no sexy time in ages (and it's not looking promising....), compression stockings, varicose veins, heartburn, burping, red and blotchy face.....where's my modeling contract already!?!? Aside from the physical barriers (that I really put on myself), we are not sleeping in the same bed, almost the entire pregnancy, and it's because I snore while pregnant this has been really hard on me emotionally.

I know that a lot of this will clear up quickly after delivery, but it definitely takes a toll. I've cried myself to sleep a few times.....

Definitely get thee to a spa and get a pedi before baby comes. Get a massage too-even if it only makes you feel a little glamorous in the moment, I find it helps pick me up a bit!

[TJ]

Cheers. I loathe myself these days. I haven't lost any weight since 3m PP, I have 20+ lbs to go. I quit fixing my hair. None of my clothes fit or look nice. I am gross.

I second the fitness check in soon!!!

[chiwifey]

I'm totally a frumpy mom right now and I hate it. I partially blame the way I feel on the gray cloudy cold weather. I don't have my usual pretty tan skin and the ability to put on a cute sundress and feel instantly put together. Plus I'm rocking the 8 week bloat and it's not cute.

Hugs to all! We really can be our own worst critics.

[karabear4409]

I am right there with you all. I still have seven pounds of baby weight to lose, plus the 15 that I gained during IF treatments. So, 22 pounds total. That number makes me want to cry.



Up until the New Year, I only wore work out clothes every day. I actually made it my New Years Resolution to dress better. I had some gift cards from Christmas, so I bought some new clothes in my new bigger size (that was really painful). But, it is helping me feel a little better about myself to actually get dressed in real clothes now. I keep hoping that I will lose the weight and get back in my skinny clothes. But at least for now, I have some cute clothes to wear.

I love the idea of a check in! Can we go ahead and start that now?

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karabear4409 we don't have to wait to start the check-in. I can def benefit from healthier eating right now. I wish i could workout but much like my first pregnancy, most activities bring on contractions (even walking).

I can run the check-in...how about Mondays? Kick off the week w a bang? I can also put a goal for the week in it, similar to the check-in the IF board had (i did lots of stalking there when my sis was cycling). I'll start a separate post. I've been wanting to but we need girls to participate to make it work.

[leahb12]

@ducky719 I was also going to offer to do a check-in on Monday, so I think it's a great idea! Also, if it makes anyone feel better, I've stood up in 3 weddings within a few weeks of having my children. 3 weddings! There are framed pictures of me trying to squeeze into my bridesmaid dresses looking awful in my friends' houses. At least I live out of state and don't have to look at those pics often. Yuck!!

chiwifey I'm jealous that you have tanned skin at some point throughout the year. I'm so fair. My legs are pretty much see through when I put on those sundresses!

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leahb12 i will need help w the checkin once i have the baby. I don't want it to fall by the wayside if I'm too busy adjusting to two kids.

[leahb12]

@ducky719 I'd be happy to help!

[CutieCruz]

What helps me is as soon as I get up, I usually wake before baby,I hop in shower and then get myself ready. Even if I spend rest of day in yoga pants I feel better.