The bras are totally worth it! I know we have slightly different cup sizes but I bought a few from there and had a fitting after D and it was the best money I've spent! I left Victoria's Secret in tears before I went there.
Post by everydayimshuffling on Jun 29, 2015 5:48:59 GMT -5
mcbush You can do it! First day will always be tough but then it's over and you never haver do it again! Your girls will do great. I always find the biggest stress is in the days and weeks before going back (or before any big change) the things usually settle quickly in to a new routine.
Post by everydayimshuffling on Jun 29, 2015 6:13:41 GMT -5
Can I start with a bit of a vent? O has been extra cranky his whole little life in the evenings but the last week or so he is getting way worse. I'm talking screaming so bad he starts gagging every night from 7-9:30 or so. Red faced, hot, angry baby. And nothing stops it. He doesn't eat well from 3 onwards either. His sleep is also super crappy from about 3pm onwards (maybe a 10 min cat nap here or there) and I know a big part of it is him fighting sleep. He will eventually calm down and semi-pass out, which is when we try to sneak his last bottle in to him. Sometimes he falls asleep on it. And he is back to waking at night to eat again (I think because his intake is so low from 3 pm onward). I don't mind getting up to feed him, I'm mostly concerned about his poor evenings. They are hard on him and on us.
I'm not sure what to do about it or how to help him stop fighting sleep so much. I really think it's mostly that he is overtired but I can't quite tell. I have tried tinkering with his naps earlier in the day, I have tried just completely following his lead (this usually leads to the worst nights), I have done just about every thing you can imagine. I keep his feeds and naps written daily and try to look for patterns.
I know it's frustrating for me and I'm sure it for my H too, especially since the evening is often the only time he gets to see O. But he is handling it terribly and I'm ready to lose it on him. This morning's gem was "just change his formula already goddammit! Why do you think you know so much about this kid? It's not his schedule, that's ridiculous". From the man that sees the kid 2 hrs a day, has no idea what his schedule is, has done none of the research, been to none of the doctor appointments and really wasn't around much for when we did change his formula 3 times and this was the best!
Yes H. I going to change his formula 2 days before we go on vacation. Back to a cows milk one that he was terrible on. That's a fantastic idea. While you're at it you may want to go jump off a cliff
Post by huckleberry08 on Jun 29, 2015 6:37:05 GMT -5
Good luck today mcbush. Go out for a quiet, solitary, non child friendly lunch, if you can. That is one of my favorite things about working. Also, I am jealous of your pricey bras and need to do that for myself one day, too.
mcbush Good luck on your first day back. I definitely had a few breakdowns the nights before I went back to work, but on the actual day I realized how good it felt to drink my coffee in peace without anyone touching me.
everydayimshuffling I'd be pissed at your H too. He can't just swoop in when he hasn't been involved in trying to fix the problem in the first place. I hope things get better for O (and for you) soon!
All of this. everydayimshuffling - this too shall pass. When he stops being so angry, his smiles will be the most rewarding thing in the universe. I wish I had ideas for you, or a magical solution. M is pretty go with the flow now, but sometimes gets particular about being in motion as she falls asleep.
@everdayimshuffling- boo to mr. Shuffling! I hate it when they want to swoop in and save the day. Like give us some credit. If it was that easy of a fix, we would have figured it out already! I don't have any advice for O- lots of hugs on that too. That sounds rough.
Post by everydayimshuffling on Jun 29, 2015 7:20:16 GMT -5
Thanks Ladies. I'm not as much worried about being able to handle it, now that we are on the second kid saying this too shall pass becomes a lot easier because I know for sure that it does! It's just more like really H?! Really?! That kid has been my job for the past 4 months. And I'm good at it. If it was as simple as just changing his formula don't you think I would have tried that?
I think he's just frustrated and the idea of a quick fix sounds nice to him. Unfortunately I don't think there is a quick fix for O. The doc warned us that reflux can get worse around this age before it resolves and I'm not sure if this is related or not, but he has been crazy spitty the past week or so along with the crankiness.
I'm just going to bank that quote for future use as a joke.... Kind of like the time he told me when I was 40 weeks with K that he wanted me to hurry up and have the baby because he was feeling fat (and he wanted me to start cooking healthy meals again). We laugh about that line now but at the time....
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So tired. DS was up for over an hour last night. Feeding him finally got him calmed down. As he didn't eat much dinner cause he snacked all afternoon at the in-laws. DH wasn't much help last night and yelling tell me what you want to DS which was just making the crying worse
My bitch this morning is that I have not spent nearly enough time getting my house in order for the three house guests I will have this week. My mom arrives first tomorrow afternoon, then my dad in the evening. Our third guest should arrive sometime on Friday after my dad leaves. The guestroom, which my mom will be staying in, looks great but I need to clear the 4th bedroom so my dad and the friend can use it. It is a wreck. I have maternity clothes, winter clothes, and all sorts of stuff just piled in there. I have not wanted to make a decision about what to do with most of it and now I have to do it tonight after work. I'm not looking forward to it at all. #firstworldproblems
Post by subliminalrabbit on Jun 29, 2015 7:47:09 GMT -5
Hi guys! Crazy week and another coming up -- mom's coming for a visit and DH's back is acting up so I have no help and a shitload of work. So I honestly don't know how much I'll be on here until we can get a sitter sorted (interviewing a couple tomorrow). Miss you ladies SO much!
If anyone has any snot-be-gone vibes they can send in the direction of my LO it would be much appreciated. We are rearranging our visit with my brother, SIL, and nephew because LO is just such a snotty, coughing mess and I feel bad having him around the 3 month old. We will still see them later this week, but I was hoping do go down today and tomorrow and instead I'm keeping A here for a few days to try to get him over this little cold. It wouldn't be as big a deal if both LO and nephew weren't in hands in the mouth phases and my LO wasn't obsessed with nephew's tiny fingers. However, they are totally adorable!
everydayimshuffling I'll let the ladies with reasonable H's offer advice on him...
Regarding O... Have you had his dosage for reflux med increased yet? It might be time for a higher dose or even a switch. What time does he normally go to bed? I feel like 4 months is when I started a bedtime for D and we did the nightly routine thing. Is he on completely dairy free formula? I think he is. Some babies do grow out of their sensitivity at 4-6 months. Not my kid... Nope... But sure as the sky is blue he was fine at 1 year!
Post by huckleberry08 on Jun 29, 2015 8:03:20 GMT -5
mcbush That sounds like one of those mornings that will be laughable in the future but really, really sucks when it is happening. The first day back is always rough and I hope your DH understands. Hang in there. I hope it gets better and soon.
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