Friend's Shower - WWYD?
Jun 29, 2015 21:07:57 GMT -5
Post by GeekBeagle on Jun 29, 2015 21:07:57 GMT -5
I was going to put this in spam, but as I typed it, it got really long and I didn't want to clog it up. So, sorry for the length, but I have a situation that I need some thoughts on.
I have a good group of girlfriends that I met through playing softball. Several of us have had babies in recent years and the core group of about 6 girls has typically thrown baby showers for the moms-to-be. One friend did opt out of a friend shower because she has local family and just invited us to that. Well, my friend M is pregnant and due in August. She also has local family, so when we asked her about having a shower, she originally said she was going to invite us to the shower her SIL was throwing. Her guest list ended up getting too large for her SIL's house, so she said she just wanted to do something casual with friends since she was having several other showers. Her best friend, A, was taking charge of planning a brunch. A isn't part of the core group that has been involved with the other showers. I told A that I would be happy to help with anything she needed, as did some other girls.
This was over a month ago. On Friday, I got a text from A asking if I would still help her, to which I replied yes. She asked me to do decorations. A told me the restaurant that the shower would be at and that for anyone that wanted, we were going to do pedicures after. That's all that was said.
I talked to another friend, S, that evening and she told me that she had met up with the mom-to-be (M) and that she was a bit frustrated because A was dragging her feet and things weren't getting done with the shower date a month away. I guess some of the other girls had messaged about it, but I wasn't included on that. Apparently they were already aware of the proposed date, though.
So, yesterday A sends a Facebook message to myself and another friend, E, asking if we could meet about the shower on Thursday. Again, I said sure, no problem.
Well, today I get the invitation for the shower that is 3.5 weeks away and my name is included on it as a co-host with A. I was totally taken aback by this. I am absolutely happy to help, but I didn't know I would be considered a co-host. I'm not sure why she asked E to come to a planning meeting and not include her as a host. I don't want the rest of the girls to feel like I went and did things without including them when I had no idea what was going on. I also don't want M (or anyone else for that matter) to think that I was slacking on planning this when I only found out about it a couple of days ago. Also, the location is different than what I was told on Friday (but ultimately that's not a big deal).
Since it is at a restaurant, I don't think that there will be a lot of work to be done, or cost for that matter. I assume all guests will just be ordering and paying for their own food, but since I haven't been informed of anything, I have no idea.
My H says that I'm overreacting for being worked up about this, but am I? That's why I'm asking you ladies with an outside perspective (and many who had their own showers in the past year). Should I be bothered that my name was included on the invites as a host?
I have a good group of girlfriends that I met through playing softball. Several of us have had babies in recent years and the core group of about 6 girls has typically thrown baby showers for the moms-to-be. One friend did opt out of a friend shower because she has local family and just invited us to that. Well, my friend M is pregnant and due in August. She also has local family, so when we asked her about having a shower, she originally said she was going to invite us to the shower her SIL was throwing. Her guest list ended up getting too large for her SIL's house, so she said she just wanted to do something casual with friends since she was having several other showers. Her best friend, A, was taking charge of planning a brunch. A isn't part of the core group that has been involved with the other showers. I told A that I would be happy to help with anything she needed, as did some other girls.
This was over a month ago. On Friday, I got a text from A asking if I would still help her, to which I replied yes. She asked me to do decorations. A told me the restaurant that the shower would be at and that for anyone that wanted, we were going to do pedicures after. That's all that was said.
I talked to another friend, S, that evening and she told me that she had met up with the mom-to-be (M) and that she was a bit frustrated because A was dragging her feet and things weren't getting done with the shower date a month away. I guess some of the other girls had messaged about it, but I wasn't included on that. Apparently they were already aware of the proposed date, though.
So, yesterday A sends a Facebook message to myself and another friend, E, asking if we could meet about the shower on Thursday. Again, I said sure, no problem.
Well, today I get the invitation for the shower that is 3.5 weeks away and my name is included on it as a co-host with A. I was totally taken aback by this. I am absolutely happy to help, but I didn't know I would be considered a co-host. I'm not sure why she asked E to come to a planning meeting and not include her as a host. I don't want the rest of the girls to feel like I went and did things without including them when I had no idea what was going on. I also don't want M (or anyone else for that matter) to think that I was slacking on planning this when I only found out about it a couple of days ago. Also, the location is different than what I was told on Friday (but ultimately that's not a big deal).
Since it is at a restaurant, I don't think that there will be a lot of work to be done, or cost for that matter. I assume all guests will just be ordering and paying for their own food, but since I haven't been informed of anything, I have no idea.
My H says that I'm overreacting for being worked up about this, but am I? That's why I'm asking you ladies with an outside perspective (and many who had their own showers in the past year). Should I be bothered that my name was included on the invites as a host?
) E was also made a host on the FB event. There are only 10 people invited (as of now) and all of them are my friends, so I'm feeling better about that. The FB invite also includes a link to the nail place and asks to choose what you want and let her know so she can make a reservation. Hmm...