Thursday UO? Or not.

[wegrowsheep]

I am too tired to GAF right now, so I have no opinions, except that naps are beautiful and mysterious things that I've not had nearly enough of.

Some random thoughts:
1. I need to go grocery shopping. With 3 kids. *cue tears*
2. I got 3 or 4 very interrupted hours of sleep last night. *cue more tears*
3. We have AC. It's a tiny little window unit, but it works. *cue joyful tears*

I'm getting out of the newborn fog, despite the sleep deprivation, and realizing how much stuff I have to do outside of changing diapers and washing burp cloths.

Question, for the sake of discussion: Are you big into sharing LO (ie, hold this baby while I go do something that isn't holding a baby) or not so much (ie, this is my baby, please don't touch)?

[baileybaileybne]

wegrowsheep Ugh, I hate grocery shopping and I'm dreading doing it with LO because people are disgusting germy monsters.

It's 2am here so I have no UO. Some thoughts:
1. I was released from hospital this afternoon so yay!
2. I'm so glad to be feeling better but I'm terrified I'll get worse again and this will become a shitty cycle - I need to be more optimistic.
3. I'm so relived its me sick and not LO because I just couldn't imagine dealing with LO being seriously ill and, while I have sympathized with those of you who have/are dealing with that, even more so now!
I kind of feel like I want to snatch LO back from anyone holding her who isn't DH but I try to act calm ha ha.

[turtletyme]

My UO: i am overwhelmed by these "mommy" fb groups my friends keep signing me up for. I haven't decided if they are helpful or not, but they sure as shit are blowing up my news feed. This must be unpopular bc every week someone is inviting me to a new one!

I don't mind people holding the baby, especially if it means I can pee, nap, etc. but it is still kinda weird to share my little buddy with the rest of the world!

[silv3rlining]

I'm currently team please gold my baby. Bc it's exhausting having to hold her almost constantly and I want to play with my toddler....

Eta: though she doesn't tolerate anyone else for very long, DH included

[baytosa2013]

I currently have no opinions on anything except that I need a shower because I smell and that is unpopular!

I am team "hold my baby" if it is DH all day long! I'm ok with my close friends but I have not let anyone else hold her. I was freaked out enough when she was only 2 weeks old and I had to go to the Dr to get my incision checked and this nurse was circling and I saw her hit the hand sanitizer and head our way. She wanted to touch the baby. My Dh was with me and kept a watchful eye...luckily I was tied down to the blood pressure cuff or I'm sure I would have been like NO haha My SIL comes next week for 2 weeks and I know I'm going to have such a hard time with sharing my baby since I haven't had to at all for the last 4 weeks.

As an aside she posted something on FB that had a comparison list of vaccines that kids have to get from birth to 6yo from the 80's and then now (2 of them were the flu shot and Tdap for mom during pregnancy) and the comment was "WOW". She's in CA and they passed the mandatory vaccine law and her baby daddy was weird about her daughter getting vaccinated when she was born. Another family member commented "wow is an understatement, it's too many". While it seemed like a long list in comparison, it really wasn't. it had additions of the flu shot and chicken pox vaccine which they didn't even have when I was a kid. I couldn't help myself and I commented that 2 aren't even for the child, they are for mom and they are all boosters of standard vaccines and the flu shot...I try not to egg on family but I couldn't help it! The other family member was a cousin of theirs with 8 kids...she should know better!

ETA: I lied...clearly I have opinions!

[billyhorrible]

Team Pass the Baby over here. I'm more than happy to hold him all day and night, but also happy to give him to anyone else around so I can have more mobility.

My UO: I don't mind any of the terms for pregnancy, like "we're pregnant" or "preggo" or "knocked up." But I can't stand many terms for babies. Like "angel baby" meaning a good baby always makes me think of a dead baby and "doll baby" makes me think the mother just wanted someone to dress up.

[Widget123]

wegrowsheep could you send your DH to the grocery store or have him watch the kids while you go ( at night when he's home from work or on the weekend)? The idea of bringing more than one kid to the grocery store by myself still horrifies me.

I am team you want to hold my baby? Knock yourself out

[Widget123]

UO: I'm not afraid of my baby being exposed to germs. I'm not going to be cooped up in the house with baby all day. Furthermore he has a big sister attending a large public daycare; she is a bigger source of germs than us walking out into public somewhere.

[dogmama22]

Jul 2, 2015 13:19:31 GMT -5 Widget123 said:

UO: I'm not afraid of my baby being exposed to germs. I'm not going to be cooped up in the house with baby all day. Furthermore he has a big sister attending a large public daycare; she is a bigger source of germs than us walking out into public somewhere.

+1 I think both baby and I are healthier when we have short outings during the day. We've been out and about since he was about 6 days old and it's been keeping me sane.
I'm justifying it by keeping in mind that many babies are in daycare by six weeks when they still haven't had most of their vaccines.

[Bluedaisy]

I finally have an UO: it makes me gag when people kiss their babies/kids on the mouth. Also when they let dogs lick their faces. I realize tons of people do this so flame away but I just think it's so gross and germy.

Widget123, I'm totally with you on this one. I don't want strangers handling my baby but my mom is hosting a sip and see on the 17th and I know baby will be passed like a football. It's all people I know so I'm not worried about germs at all.

[Bluedaisy]

wegrowsheep, three kids in a grocery store sounds like a nightmare. Is there a grocery delivery service you could use?

[Bluedaisy]

budders, I have ALWAYS wanted to know why people ask if it's a good baby. Seriously who says "Nope he's the spawn of satan"

[tulips114]

I am currently team please hold my baby. But with DD1 I was very much team don't touch my baby. I would have put her back inside if I could!

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Jul 2, 2015 15:29:50 GMT -5 Bluedaisy said:

budders, I have ALWAYS wanted to know why people ask if it's a good baby. Seriously who says "Nope he's the spawn of satan"

I'm going to say that the next time a stranger asks me.  

[silv3rlining]

Jul 2, 2015 13:36:55 GMT -5 Bluedaisy said:

I finally have an UO: it makes me gag when people kiss their babies/kids on the mouth. Also when they let dogs lick their faces. I realize tons of people do this so flame away but I just think it's so gross and germy.

Widget123, I'm totally with you on this one. I don't want strangers handling my baby but my mom is hosting a sip and see on the 17th and I know baby will be passed like a football. It's all people I know so I'm not worried about germs at all.

When DS had a really bad ear infection and was on strong antibiotics the ped actually said to have a dog luck his face. They have good bacteria and it helps restore the balance or something like that

[Bluedaisy]

silv3rlining, as someone who worked in an animal shelter and saw the nasty worms and parasites I think I'd take my chances with the bacteria.

[Bluedaisy]

Jul 2, 2015 16:35:48 GMT -5 budders said:

Jul 2, 2015 13:19:31 GMT -5 Widget123 said:

UO: I'm not afraid of my baby being exposed to germs. I'm not going to be cooped up in the house with baby all day. Furthermore he has a big sister attending a large public daycare; she is a bigger source of germs than us walking out into public somewhere.

I am this way, too. We have taken V out daily since he was 4 days old. I don't even remember to ask family to wash hands before holding him most of the time.

To be honest I didn't even know that it was common to ask people to wash hands until I was reading the baby book.  My cousins wife asked my aunt to wash hands and use hand sanitizer before going near the baby and everyone in our family thought she was weird for asking.  I guess it's just not something people here think about.  I remember thinking "huh who does that?" and then read about it in the baby book and thought "oh I guess that makes sense".  

But the also the first time I heard about asking people about vaccinations was on these boards and I actually asked a bunch of my friends if they did that with their babies because I thought maybe I just didn't know about it.  None of them had ever heard of asking friends and relatives if they were vaccinated either so maybe it's a regional thing?

[bruunk]

UO - I don't like those nursing pillows - the boopy? DB and I can't get correct latch or get very comfortable with them. We seem better with a simple pillow or nothing but us. We have two different types and they're just not helpful.

[bruunk]

Oh and on the asking people and guests if they're vaccinated, I feel like this year it's been a hot topic which is why it's suddenly a big thing to ask everyone? I know here in CA and our county, the Disney measles outbreak was a big deal!

[pghtruelove]

Jul 2, 2015 20:45:51 GMT -5 bruunk said:

UO - I don't like those nursing pillows - the boopy? DB and I can't get correct latch or get very comfortable with them. We seem better with a simple pillow or nothing but us. We have two different types and they're just not helpful.

I feel the same way! I hate using the boppy or any other nursing pillows. I prefer holding her up with my knees or legs or regular pillows and blankets. My mom is so adamait about me using it too. It's so annoying. I keep telling her I am perfectly fine without it and she goes and try's to set it up on me. Guh. Sorry went off on a tangent.

+ 1 on the not liking people to hold the baby. With the exception or my mom, SO, and my best friend.

[veggiemo]

Jul 2, 2015 20:48:21 GMT -5 bruunk said:

Oh and on the asking people and guests if they're vaccinated, I feel like this year it's been a hot topic which is why it's suddenly a big thing to ask everyone? I know here in CA and our county, the Disney measles outbreak was a big deal!

People posted about asking if others were vaccinated on DS1's BMB and he was born in 2012. I do think it's still a hot topic recently so there were maybe more threads about it here, but it was definitely still brought up back then too.

I love my boppy! I sit cross legged and put the boppy in my lap. It puts LO at the perfect nipple height for me. I can nurse just fine without it (I still prefer to sit cross legged when I can) but the boppy just allows both my hands to be free.

[wegrowsheep]

Widget123 I chickened out and sent DH for groceries after work. Bluedaisy Grocery delivery doesn't exist out here for less than a small fortune, or I would totally go for it.

I didn't totally chicken out though. We're making hay at my parents' place right now, and dad decided that he needed mom to drive one of the tractors, so she couldn't watch my older two or change irrigation. So I got to be the water girl today. As a bonus, my children spent a huge amount of time outside in the little pool, and helped me pick blueberries, and came home tonight completely exhausted. LO spent his day alternating his naps between the jogging stroller and a blanket in the shade. He was so happy!

[wegrowsheep]

And I'm in the "please hold my baby" camp. Not strangers, but pretty much everyone else.

[erbear]

My mom has come over a few days and held my baby so I could shower and/or nap. I'm firmly on team hold my baby!

[jcprn]

I don't mind at all when it's my family but for some reason it really irks me when certain members of DH'S family hold G. And if he's crying while they're holding him it makes me absolutely cringe and I just want too steal him back. Especially if I know why he's crying and they don't seem to get the hint.

Reading this post of mine makes me feel like a huge bitch. Oh well. Blame it on the hormones.

[tulips114]

Oh, MIL was just here visiting and it did bug me when she was holding him because he was always fussing with her and she couldn't soothe him and all she would do was talk about how he had gas. Just be quiet and give me the baby!

But the nurse at my OBs office picked him up when he started crying when I was being examined and that didn't bother me at all.

[silv3rlining]

Jul 2, 2015 20:45:51 GMT -5 bruunk said:

UO - I don't like those nursing pillows - the boopy? DB and I can't get correct latch or get very comfortable with them. We seem better with a simple pillow or nothing but us. We have two different types and they're just not helpful.

I didn't use it to nurse DS or this LO but I live it for tummy time/propping the baby up/use for assisted sitting.

[carolyngrace]

Jul 3, 2015 5:43:36 GMT -5 jcprn said:

I don't mind at all when it's my family but for some reason it really irks me when certain members of DH'S family hold G. And if he's crying while they're holding him it makes me absolutely cringe and I just want too steal him back. Especially if I know why he's crying and they don't seem to get the hint.

Reading this post of mine makes me feel like a huge bitch. Oh well. Blame it on the hormones.

I hate when I'll give people specific feedback ("DB hates to be cradled and loves to be held upright against your chest") and they ignore me and walk around with a crying baby! Then say something like "it doesn't bother me, I like babies". Ummm ok but you could easily comfort him right now!

[billyhorrible]

Jul 3, 2015 8:02:18 GMT -5 silv3rlining said:

Jul 2, 2015 20:45:51 GMT -5 bruunk said:

UO - I don't like those nursing pillows - the boopy? DB and I can't get correct latch or get very comfortable with them. We seem better with a simple pillow or nothing but us. We have two different types and they're just not helpful.

I didn't use it to nurse DS or this LO but I live it for tummy time/propping the baby up/use for assisted sitting.

I also like it because it fits perfectly over the arm of the glider, so I use it as a reminder for which side I need to start on.

[dogmama22]

Jul 3, 2015 8:34:33 GMT -5 carolyngrace said:

Jul 3, 2015 5:43:36 GMT -5 jcprn said:

I don't mind at all when it's my family but for some reason it really irks me when certain members of DH'S family hold G. And if he's crying while they're holding him it makes me absolutely cringe and I just want too steal him back. Especially if I know why he's crying and they don't seem to get the hint.

Reading this post of mine makes me feel like a huge bitch. Oh well. Blame it on the hormones.

I hate when I'll give people specific feedback ("DB hates to be cradled and loves to be held upright against your chest") and they ignore me and walk around with a crying baby! Then say something like "it doesn't bother me, I like babies". Ummm ok but you could easily comfort him right now!

Why do people do this?! I've had this happen too. Thanks for stressing my kid out instead of just doing what I told you...