How to word hospital flowers card?

[pamela]

The baby girl we hope to become ours is being born today. We want to send flowers to her mom, but don't know how to word the card. She is Christian and has told us a name she plans to name the baby (no idea if she's changed her mind on that, we don't have direct contact. Just two agency meetings). She's also in the midst of a controlling BF scenario and he doesn't want her to place (he wants to stay together, she doesn't) so us sending something needs to be unobtrusive. She has no family or friends coming to be with her though. Just his friends.

[redandblue]

I can't even imagine. What a tricky thing to thing about. I am sure whatever you send/sent she will greatly appreciate.

[pamela]

We ended up bring unsuccessful in sending flowers. The florist called back 2 hours later and said it was too late and they couldn't do it until Monday. She should have discharged yesterday. And I'm glad we didn't waste the money because she cut off contact with the agency the afternoon after the birth and they heard from the hospital SW that she planned to parent. Hospital thought she'd told the agency already since she said she'd been texting the agency all morning. And she had, but didn't say the plan had changed.

[nobb14]

That is so hard. I'm very sorry. hugs.

[theatrepal]

I'm so sorry. Take care of yourself. (Hugs)

[lbey]

Oh that is hard...im sorry. (hugs)

[redandblue]

Oh I am so sorry Big hugs to you. What a disappointment.

[pamela]

Jul 6, 2015 14:49:57 GMT -5 @bookworm92 said:

That is so hard. Please know that her decision had nothing to do with you. A birth mother has to make the decision to place so many times. After birth that decision feels like it may kill you. I hope you can take a small piece of comfort knowing that it wasn't anything you did.

I know this and really thought my heart was there; that she doesn't make the decision until post birth. It's the lack of communication and that she may have succumbed to an emotionally abusive situation that upset me most.

[pinkie]

I'm really sorry - it's almost impossible to not get attached and invested once you are matched. Take care of yourself.

[roxy]

I'm so very sorry.

[badgergirl66]

I'm sorry. Hugs.

[shemarie82]

I am so sorry. Take care of yourself!

[chele]

I'm so sorry Pamela.