So E has suddenly started having poo accidents. But only in the evening and only when I'm home. She's been in panties all day since before Christmas, but still wears a diaper for naps and overnight. Do you think this is bc her dad is gone? Is she feeling out of control and upset? Or is it a normal 2.5 yo regression? Or do I need to find some sort of different motivator? I'm so tired of poop
I'm sorry TJ. Poop sucks, especially when not in a CD. My guess would be normal toddler regression with a bit of "I feel safe around Mommy, so I'm gonna do this around her." thrown in for good measure. Have you tried good ole bribery to get her to want to go on the potty?
Yea. Regardless of the reason behind it maybe find some new rewards. And give her lots of extra snuggles- it must be confusing for her. Good thing she has you as her mom!
Motivation ideas? Would food cause a poop/food association? She isn't much for positive reinforcement. She usually does things because she has decided she wants to. It's hard to motivate her. SHe always tells the nanny That mommy is proud of her when she goes, so she knows it's right and it makes us happy. So confusing.
Do you know when she is about to go? Could you let her call D and talk to him on the phone while she poops? Weird as that sounds. Since she's only doing it for you and not for the nanny, my guess is it's mostly a control issue with dad being gone.
I have no clue when she's going to go. Some days she doesn't go at all, yesterday she went 3 times. And there's no notice until I see her pushing, or smell it. 2 days ago she lied to me to my face, I said "Are you pooping?" And she said "nooooooo-unh" while pooping. Yesterday I have no clue when it happened, and she was standing right next to me playing. But I can try to start using that as an incentive, you can call daddy on the phone if you sit on the potty and go poop. But she doesn't quite get the phone well yet, she just runs in circles around the house yelling "this is my sister" "this is my room" "this is my dog." Weirdo.
The only thing that worked was telling her that we needed to poop in the potty, and that big girls don't poop in their pants. I also tools her we would have to go back to diapers if she kept having accidents. She loves her underwear, so I think that was more effective than anything.
If she was already 100% trained, then I would give some motivation. When my boys were 3 and clearly ready but just lazy, if they pooped themselves, they "cleaned" themselves. Meaning, they took off dirty undies and clothes, cleaned themselves up (with my supervision and intervention of course) and they redressed themselves. A few times doing this and they realized it was much easier to just shit in the toilet. But if you truly believe she's doing it because she misses dad, this may be too harsh. But it works damn well...
If she was already 100% trained, then I would give some motivation. When my boys were 3 and clearly ready but just lazy, if they pooped themselves, they "cleaned" themselves. Meaning, they took off dirty undies and clothes, cleaned themselves up (with my supervision and intervention of course) and they redressed themselves. A few times doing this and they realized it was much easier to just shit in the toilet. But if you truly believe she's doing it because she misses dad, this may be too harsh. But it works damn well...
Speaking of poop, has anyone else's EBF baby (mine is almost 4 months old) had peanut butter like poop? I thought that didn't happen until solids? We have her 4 month checkup next week, and I plan to ask her pedi but I'm looking for anecdotes!
TJ, thanks for letting me threadjack and hope today was a better day for you guys.
Post by unaveragejane on Jan 15, 2015 19:11:35 GMT -5
I have no advice. N has started saving poop for nap and bedtime when he's in a diaper. He managed to do it twice at "nap" time today, which explains why he never went to sleep. I am having all of the wine tonight. Or all of the Oreos. I'm not sure yet.
Thanks TJ. It almost makes me think my parents are sneaking her food! As long as the pedi isn't concerned, I'll take these diapers anyday over the diapers from when I didn't know she was MSPI.
Thanks TJ. It almost makes me think my parents are sneaking her food! As long as the pedi isn't concerned, I'll take these diapers anyday over the diapers from when I didn't know she was MSPI.
Is she straining when she poops? She may be constipated.
Or if you use formula at all that can thicken their poop.
ITK, she doesn't seem like she's straining and there's so much whenever she goes that constipation never crossed my mind. Plus her belly isn't hard or distended. No formula since her first week of life. She's been non-textbook since birth so maybe this is just another one of her things! Thanks!
@chickypoo she's totally ok with it. Doesn't bother her one bit to poop in the potty during the day for the nanny, doesn't bother her one bit to poop in her panties at night for me.
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