Both H and come from families with very space out kids and neither of us want it for our family. For me, it is less to do with being close growing up (as toadandbuggie said that is no guarantee) but more that I want to be done sooner and I don't want to go back and do diapers all over again if that makes sense. I also wish my siblings and I have kids closer in age, not that it will happen if they are closer together but it is more likely. All my kids will be the youngest on my side by several years and oldest on H's side by several years most likely.
I feel this way about all of the baby stuff. I don't want to store all of DS's baby stuff for 2-3 years.
My kids are exactly 16 months apart (almost to the minute). I actually love it. Yeah, it's stressful at times but it's mostly fun.
My nephews at 14 months apart. The first year was hell for their parents, but after that it's been pretty fun. SIL worries a lot about the future - needing cars at the same time, going to college at the same time, or near enough.
WittyLittle thanks. I'm so grateful my parents kept trying to have another kid. I don't think I could take that many losses and keep on going. But they did! I was 17 years old before my mom ever mentioned her other babies to me (I knew from conversations with my sister & dad).
There is 2 years and 7 months between my kids. If we have a third, I wouldn't start trying until DS is about 3. I would need the first 2 to be school age. Right now DH says Baby #3 is off the table, so this is a huge "if".
Post by lotsofdotts on Jul 6, 2015 17:22:30 GMT -5
We aren't sure if we will have any more kids. I did some crazy spacing since I have an almost 15 yo, 10 yo and a 4 month old. If we do have another one, it wouldn't be for at least 3 years. We just any afford 2 in daycare for an extended period of time. We are teachers and daycare is too expensive.
DS and DD are almost 3 years apart (2 years and 11 months). It's nice spacing because DS was old enough to be excited about having a baby sister and is old enough to be helpful when I need him, but young enough that I don't think he realizes that he went from being an only child to a sibling once the initial transition had passed. He was potty trained way before she was born and in a regular bed, so I didn't have to deal with 2 in diapers or buying another crib.
However, I will say that age three is a bitch. Waaaay worse than the "terrible twos". So having an infant and a threenager has been... challenging. And by challenging, I mean give me all the wine. For that reason, I kinda wish they'd been a little closer in age. But I needed 3 years between them to build up my bank of sick time to use for maternity leave.
Ideally I'd like around 2 years. Maybe closer to 2.5. But like krispy83 said I need to build up more sick time too so we'll see. I'd like 3 kids, and I'm 30 now and would like to be done by 35 so I don't have too much time to play with if my plan comes to fruition.
DDs are two years and one month apart. I like the difference. They are nice and close in age and DD1 has been GREAT with her little sister (only got mad once about her crying in the car)!
Ohh krispy83 and junebugjam excellent point about building up sick time. If we have a second, I'd say 2.5 years-ish would be ideal and it would take about that long to accrue enough time to cover leave as well.
Post by sugahcookie01 on Jul 6, 2015 19:17:27 GMT -5
We may be one and done. More for financial reasons than anything else. But if we do have another I'd like Henry to be 2-3 years old before we had a sibling.
My kids are almost exactly 2 years apart, and I like the age gap. We were aiming for two close in age (18 months or so) but the independence DS gained between 18 and 24 months was amazing, so I'm happy with 2 years.
DH has a twin and my sister is 17 months older, and we really liked having a close sibling.
Post by hollydfromtn on Jul 6, 2015 22:49:59 GMT -5
We will probably start NTNP after DS' first birthday. I want them to be closer in age than me and my siblings. I am one of 9 siblings ranging from 31 to 3. Not all of them are full-blood relations though. Up until I was 14 it was just me and my two brothers. I'm in the middle and there are 4 years in between me and them in both directions. I think being the only girl for so long made it difficult for us to really be close not necessarily the age difference. I also have a brother that would have been 2 yrs older than me but he died shortly after birth. My parents went through a nasty divorce and remarried when I was 14, that's when I got a stepsister that was 9 at the time. Shortly after that my mom and stepdad became foster parents and eventually adopted 3 kids throughout the years. So that gave me 2 more sisters (now 17 & 14) and a brother (5). I also have a half brother that is 3.
Sorry that ended up being a book. My family is a little crazy lol.
We aren't sure if we will have any more kids. I did some crazy spacing since I have an almost 15 yo, 10 yo and a 4 month old. If we do have another one, it wouldn't be for at least 3 years. We just any afford 2 in daycare for an extended period of time. We are teachers and daycare is too expensive.
This always makes me angry. You're there teaching and taking care of everyones kids and noone thinks of a programme that someone will take care of yours.
WittyLittle, We went with an in-home daycare for Brady instead of a center. When DD was in daycare, my ex was paying $1250 per month. That was the equivalent to the priciest private school in our city. The in-home center is $200 a week, which is so cheap for daycare in this area. All the other kids this lady keeps are kids of friends/fellow teachers. The kids love this lady because she is like a grandma to them.
I make more than my DH because I have been teaching 5 years longer, but when you combine our salaries, you get one decent salary. It is frustrating because my ex is an attorney for a bank and he makes $50,000 more than my DH and I combined. But money isn't everything in life. DH and I aren't starving and are able to provide for our family.
I voted 1-2 years. Like aggiebug I don't want to drag out diapers, and all the newborn stuff. As well I would like B to grow up with someone close to her age since her youngest cousin on H's side is 11, and she is the only on my side for probably quite a few more years.
It also took us almost a year to conceive her, so we will likely start trying at the end of this summer, once she is 6 months.
DS and DD are almost 3 years apart (2 years and 11 months). It's nice spacing because DS was old enough to be excited about having a baby sister and is old enough to be helpful when I need him, but young enough that I don't think he realizes that he went from being an only child to a sibling once the initial transition had passed. He was potty trained way before she was born and in a regular bed, so I didn't have to deal with 2 in diapers or buying another crib.
However, I will say that age three is a bitch. Waaaay worse than the "terrible twos". So having an infant and a threenager has been... challenging. And by challenging, I mean give me all the wine. For that reason, I kinda wish they'd been a little closer in age. But I needed 3 years between them to build up my bank of sick time to use for maternity leave.
You are so right. Three is the wooooorrrst. My ds is 3.5 right now and he makes me want to rip my hair out on a regular basis.
Im hoping a switch flips at 4 and he's suddenly a little angel..lol
Oh and cousins or lack thereof is another reason for wanting a 2nd in 2 to 3 years. DS is the only grandchild on both sides* and our siblings are unlikely to have kids anytime soon, if ever. Need someone to share the attention with.
*My MIL has a bunch of step-grandchildren and step-great-grandchildren that she sees quite often, but these pale in comparison to her own grandchild.
DD is 6, almost 7, years older than DS.... Which is ALOT. I'm old and we have male factor infertility issues, so we will probably start trying again when DS hits around 6 months..... That's when my OBGYN recommende cause we can't wait "too long."
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