chefbonez I say don't go unless she wants that. It's a legitimate question & I'd like to know how to handle my own hormones. I'm well aware that I have them & I'm not always myself because of them. I will say though asking her what she needs will probably get you farther, because we all seem need something a little different, but it's safe to say you shouldn't tell her she's being hormonal. While things may be escalated because of the hormones, she still has valid feelings. It can be overwhelming to have your body & mind doing things you have no control over. I hope that made sense. Struggling with thoughts today.
When I get hormonal H gets quiet. Depending on the situation will depend on what he does next. If it's irrational anger directed toward someone else he starts rubbing my feet/back and gets me to talk myself down. If it's irrational anger directed toward him he does/says nothing till I get over it. For the most part he has done a really good job at responding to my hormones very well. I would say test the waters using these responses and see what she responds to. I know I'm the beginning he didn't do anything right.. And then he saw something that worked and stuck with it. As previous people have said, we know we are being ridiculous, but that doesn't mean we can stop it nor that we want to hear it. The fact that you are looking for assistance is amazing. Good luck!
Kudos to you for wanting to plan ahead of time to be supportive. A couple of thoughts....
Like the others said, never suggest to a pregnant woman that her hormones are making her react a certain way. It minimizes whatever she is upset about. I think that's been stressed enough already though.
In most cases, realize that it might not be something that can be fixed by you, and just validating that "it sucks" is usually the best thing to do.
Here's something that goes a long way with me, that I haven't seen mentioned yet. Often when I'm having a meltdown abut things like nausea, my clothes not fitting, being exhausted, up all night, whatever... DH will just say, "THANK YOU, I see how hard you're struggling. I so appreciate all that you are going through for us, and for our baby. I wish I could do something to make ______ better, but know I can't, but I appreciate everything that you are doing and going through." THIS goes a long way with me. Sometimes it even gets him laid.
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