This is kind of a UO: I don't get the whole Tiny House craze. I watched House Hunters "Tiny House" edition and I am always left with the same three questions
1. How do you have family/friends over? (you don't?) 2. How do you have sex? does it get old doing it in a loft you can't stand up in? 3. When you or your husband rips ass, does it stink the entire place up?
I need more than 250 square feet to coexist with my husband and dog.
I'm not familiar with the details of this story, so I can't speak to whether or not I think he used "appropriate" force when retaliating.
But in general, I agree with the sentiment. If you punch someone, you better be ready to get punched back.
Long story short, he was an FSU football player, at a bar & was pushing into a girl when trying to get a drink. She said something, pushed back, they had words & she punched him in the face. Now she was drunk & it was obvious that her punch barely grazed him but he hit her back in the face full force.
Do I think that she should expect to not be hit or pushed back after hitting him? No. She's in the wrong.
However, he hit her, closed fist, with some force. That's where I don't think it's ok. If I hit my husband as hard as I could (though I never would), I would expect to get pushed and know I maybe hurt him a little. If he hit me with all this force he would do very serious damage.
It's not ok to be physical, and that's for men and women. But at the end of the day the strength of most men is much greater than most women.
Flame away but I think he should be released from the team but if criminal charges are filed, she should be charged as well.
This is kind of a UO: I don't get the whole Tiny House craze. I watched House Hunters "Tiny House" edition and I am always left with the same three questions
1. How do you have family/friends over? (you don't?) 2. How do you have sex? does it get old doing it in a loft you can't stand up in? 3. When you or your husband rips ass, does it stink the entire place up?
I need more than 250 square feet to coexist with my husband and dog.
I love the idea of a tiny house. But in my mind a tiny house comes along with 40+acres of land so....
1. All entertaining = outdoor entertaining and nobody else sleeps over. 2. Sex can happen everywhere, not just in the loft. 3. Windows + outside
You are right, 250 square feet is not enough space if you spend all your time in that space. But my imaginary tiny house is somewhere gorgeous and we spend all of our imaginary time living it up in the great outdoors.
This is kind of a UO: I don't get the whole Tiny House craze. I watched House Hunters "Tiny House" edition and I am always left with the same three questions
1. How do you have family/friends over? (you don't?) 2. How do you have sex? does it get old doing it in a loft you can't stand up in? 3. When you or your husband rips ass, does it stink the entire place up?
I need more than 250 square feet to coexist with my husband and dog.
This is kind of a UO: I don't get the whole Tiny House craze. I watched House Hunters "Tiny House" edition and I am always left with the same three questions
1. How do you have family/friends over? (you don't?) 2. How do you have sex? does it get old doing it in a loft you can't stand up in? 3. When you or your husband rips ass, does it stink the entire place up?
I need more than 250 square feet to coexist with my husband and dog.
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What if it was a really small guy who hit first, instead of a chick, would it be ok for the bigger guy to punch the smaller one?
Or what if as a guy he hit her first without much force and she turned around and knocked him the fuck out. Would reactions still be the same?
These are the questions that I had when I was reading through this. Is it basically that if someone hits you, you should only hit back with the exact same amount of force that they used on you?
I guess it's too much to ask that people just keep their fucking hands to themselves and we look at each of these instances on a case-by-case basis?
For example, in the case of Ray Rice....
He deserved everything he got and more. I don't believe anything his fiancée did justified knocking her out cold then dragging her out of an elevator like she was a piece of trash.
What if it was a really small guy who hit first, instead of a chick, would it be ok for the bigger guy to punch the smaller one?
Or what if it were two girls fighting? Or what if the girl was actually stronger than the guy and she ended up dropping him with one punch?
Regardless of sex, if you are much stronger than someone, walk away instead of fighting back. If there are no weapons involved and it is a one on one confrontation you are not fearing for your life from someone half your size coming at you. Don't be a dick, just walk away.
Well socialized dogs can interact safely with other animals much smaller and weaker. A lab can be gentle enough with a kitten to not harm it. But that same lab can play super rough with another lab. If a dog can figure it out it is not unreasonable to expect an adult to do the same.
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The talk of the FSU kid who punched a girl at a bar is big talk here in Florida because...Florida. I don't think he needed to punch her in the face full force as he did but that being said...
I think that as a woman, if you choose to hit a man, you cannot be shocked if he chooses to hit you back. I'm not saying it's right or wrong, I'm not condoning a domestic violence situation, but I don't think that it should be drilled into boys & men that hitting women is unacceptable but not vice versa. No one should put their hands on anyone.
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I see where you're going. But I'm not comfortable agreeing. This is really similar situation to Ray Rice and his fiance. She smacked him, he punched her lights out. (Disclaimer: I could not bring myself to watch the video, so I am going off of hearsay.) Should she/we not be shocked? Was she asking to be laid out? There is a factor I think is missing from your statement, and that is the inequality of/escalation of force.
I think the backlash from the Ray Rice situation ended up more to do with the fact that the NFL tried to cover it up. No one denied that she hit him or he clocked her so hard she was knocked out. It would have been a very different discussion (more like the one we're having now) had the NFL acted appropriately immediately after it happened.
Regarding the FSU incident, I see both sides. She went to smack him and he held her arm. She responded by punching him so he hit back. I think he was justified to hit her having already grabbed her and most likely saying something along the lines of "Don't touch me again." That said, he hit her fucking hard and that isn't ok, but it's hard to say "Oh, you can hit her but not that hard" if someone continues to try to hit you. I think FSU was right in suspending him from the team since it's your responsibility to act appropriately in any situation (remove yourself from the bar at 19 years old maybe?), but her actions need to be looked into.
These are the questions that I had when I was reading through this. Is it basically that if someone hits you, you should only hit back with the exact same amount of force that they used on you?
I think you should be trying to restrain them or walk away and get help unless you feel in imminent danger and feel you absolutely MUST defend yourself. No matter the gender of the person who hit you.
No, I agree. I just think sometimes people jump to vilify a man who uses unreasonable force but don't react as strongly when a woman does it.
I recently saw a clip from a talk show (can't remember which one) where a young man was talking about how his ex-fiance used to terrorize him. She locked him in the house, hit him, threw things at him, etc. As he was telling the story of how he jumped out a second story window to finally get the hell out of there, the audience laughed. Kudos to the talk show host for making them stop and pointing out that if the young man had been a young woman, no one would be laughing, they'd be horrified instead.
This is kind of a UO: I don't get the whole Tiny House craze. I watched House Hunters "Tiny House" edition and I am always left with the same three questions
1. How do you have family/friends over? (you don't?) 2. How do you have sex? does it get old doing it in a loft you can't stand up in? 3. When you or your husband rips ass, does it stink the entire place up?
I need more than 250 square feet to coexist with my husband and dog.
I just want one to use in my backyard, like a grown up tree house. I envision sitting by myself, no TV in sight, reading a book without CONSTANT interruptions. ahhhh. more specifically I want a Gypsy Caravan, but tiny houses are close.
Maybe UO?? If/when H and I have children, we do not want any pictures on any social media, and we will strongly request that our families do the same.
We have had this discussion before too. We don't really mind when our (well, really mine) parents post pics BUT H's brother's vile girlfriend who changed her last name to ours but they are not married and who calls DS her nephew (NO NO NO NO) has posted stuff of DS and I shut that shit down real quick.
But all in all the posting pics from by everyone else doesn't bother me as much as I thought it would.
This is kind of a UO: I don't get the whole Tiny House craze. I watched House Hunters "Tiny House" edition and I am always left with the same three questions
1. How do you have family/friends over? (you don't?) 2. How do you have sex? does it get old doing it in a loft you can't stand up in? 3. When you or your husband rips ass, does it stink the entire place up?
I need more than 250 square feet to coexist with my husband and dog.
I just want one to use in my backyard, like a grown up tree house. I envision sitting by myself, no TV in sight, reading a book without CONSTANT interruptions. ahhhh. more specifically I want a Gypsy Caravan, but tiny houses are close.
I get that! We have a shed in our backyard that we've turned into a "tiki bar." (I use the term loosely) It has fridge, bar, TV, recliners and a bunch of tiki shit. It's nice having a little place to get away.
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Maybe UO?? If/when H and I have children, we do not want any pictures on any social media, and we will strongly request that our families do the same.
We have had this discussion before too. We don't really mind when our (well, really mine) parents post pics BUT H's brother's vile girlfriend who changed her last name to ours but they are not married and who calls DS her nephew (NO NO NO NO) has posted stuff of DS and I shut that shit down real quick.
But all in all the posting pics from by everyone else doesn't bother me as much as I thought it would.
I know parents who have a hashtag for their kid like #LindasLife and post all their pictures to it... I like the idea of it as a modern baby book or picture album, but there are SO many creepers...I dunno. Also this is one of the reasons I keep my fb clean, I think its something that will be neat for my kids to look back on when I'm 90. I wish my grandparents had something, showing off their style/sense of humor/environment. Who knows, by the time I'm 90 the internet might be over.
Maybe UO?? If/when H and I have children, we do not want any pictures on any social media, and we will strongly request that our families do the same.
We have had this discussion before too. We don't really mind when our (well, really mine) parents post pics BUT H's brother's vile girlfriend who changed her last name to ours but they are not married and who calls DS her nephew (NO NO NO NO) has posted stuff of DS and I shut that shit down real quick.
But all in all the posting pics from by everyone else doesn't bother me as much as I thought it would.
Wut.
Your brother needs to run far far far away. Stage 5 clinger.
Post by ghostmonkey on Jul 9, 2015 12:15:05 GMT -5
Creepers existed long before the internet. For some reason people seem to forget that.
Do whatever works for you because that is the best choice for your family. But keep in mind that any abductions/abuse is almost always done by someone the child/family knows.
Post by icaughtfire on Jul 9, 2015 12:18:44 GMT -5
Not post pictures of my kid on social media? What the hell else am I suppose to talk about on Facebook? What I ate for breakfast? The price of gas? My grocery list? My life isn't really all that interesting.
Andplusalso my kid is cute as shit so I like showing her off.
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Not post pictures of my kid on social media? What the hell else am I suppose to talk about on Facebook? What I ate for breakfast? The price of gas? My grocery list? My life isn't really all that interesting.
Andplusalso my kid is cute as shit so I like showing her off.
Your Rodan & Fields products. Maybe your Jamberry.
Post by frankenboom on Jul 9, 2015 12:22:01 GMT -5
I do NOT condone violence of any sort - there is not a single person who should hit another. However, I believe that anyone who puts their hands on someone else should be prepared to be hit back.
By some of your logic, because I'm a woman, I should be able to hit the biggest guy in a bar and expect him to use restraint, either by just walking away, restraining me, or not using his full force - simply because of my sex. Why shouldn't I be expected to use restraint in the first place, and then none of this would even be discussed???
I truly hope that not one person who commented something similar to the above calls themselves a feminist, because if you do, you're feminisming wrong.
I do NOT condone violence of any sort - there is not a single person who should hit another. However, I believe that anyone who puts their hands on someone else should be prepared to be hit back.
By some of your logic, because I'm a woman, I should be able to hit the biggest guy in a bar and expect him to use restraint, either by just walking away, restraining me, or not using his full force - simply because of my sex. Why shouldn't I be expected to use restraint in the first place, and then none of this would even be discussed???
I truly hope that not one person who commented something similar to the above calls themselves a feminist, because if you do, you're feminisming wrong.
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