After baby birth control

[mathistm]

I know we had a conversation awhile back about plans for birth control after our little squishes were here, but since many of us are getting close to being able to do the deed (if not already approved) I thought it would be nice to bring it up again.
Are you thinking about adding more children to your family? If so, how long are you wanting to wait?
If not, what are your plans for "permanent" birth control?
If you are waiting a bit to add or unsure, what are your plans for birth control until you are ready?

[mathistm]

While I was pregnant DH and I had discussed having 2 babies close together-2 before 30 and done. I'll be 27 in August so still plenty of time for that plan, but prior to Lo being here I had thought maybe wait 6 months and start trying again. It's safe to say at this point that I was batshit crazy for thinking that was a good plan.
My dr asked me to think about birth control plans for my 6 week appt. My sister started Camilla- a birth control pill safe for breastfeeding. I'm unsure if I want something more permanent or not because pills in the past have made me feel out of sorts and it's hard to remember! After we are done-done, DH is getting a vasectomy.

[wormgerm]

We want more kids. Probably start trying after this guy turns one.

Planning on using condoms. I want to avoid messing with my hormones or potentially damaging my uterus after dealing with infertility.

[dogmama22]

We want at least one more. I always wanted a big family, but after needing a c-section and a vbac being unlikely, I'm weighing that decision.
We're both young, so I'm not in a huge hurry to do this all over again, but I would like them to be close in age.
I'm thinking we'll go back to the Creighton method because I don't like the pill, but I need to talk it over with H before we make a final decision.

[purpledaisy923]

We struggled with infertility because I have PCOS and never ovulate on my own (without medication). We did 2 failed medicated cycles, 4 failed medicated IUIs, and 1 round of IVF to get pregnant. I've heard all the stories about couples who did IVF once, got pregnant, and then were able to conceive without fertility treatments the second time around. I'm not going to hold my breath on that happening to me. No birth control for me since it was so hard to get pregnant in the first place. We'll take our very slim chances.

We know that we want more kids. Our ideal gap between the twins and the next sibling would be 2 or 3 years. We have 2 frozen embryos waiting for us, so a FET is in our future.

[mrsmonogrammed]

I was just thinking about this this morning! I think I'd like to wait until DD is at least 18m before trying again, possibly around her 2nd birthday.
Until then I'm thinking we'll use NFP and condoms...I hate hate hate the way BC makes me feel and with options being so limited with breastfeeding, that's what we feel will work out best for us.
Obviously this is not fool proof birth control but we are ok with an earlier pregnancy if it happens.

[mrskblack11]

We will start trying for #2 in a year.

I have my PP check up on Monday. I want to go the mini pill. IUDs freak me out and I don't want to have anything stuck in my body. I have read some things about the depo shot being effective longer in some women and I don't want to mess up my chance to get pregnant right away once we start trying.

I have never had any issues on the pill. I got pregnant right away once I stopped. It also clears up my acne which is a nice perk.

[mcp6286]

We want one more kid and are hoping to get pregnant again this winter when LO is 6-8 months old. I def want the kids to be less than 2 years apart. Hard at first for sure but I think for the long haul it's so nice...my sisters are 19 months apart and they are so close, always have been. BUT while I love being on the pill (both to eliminate IBS attacks triggered by my period and to control my crazy), it wreaked havoc on my system last time. I didn't get my period for 8 months when I went off it to TTC Hayley because my hormones were so messed up. I obviously don't want to have to wait that long to TTC #2 and I don't trust condoms, so I think we'll prob end up using the same iPhone app to track my ovulation that we did before (it was dead on...conceived H the first month I used it) and just avoid having sex that week for the next few months. It's not the most enjoyable method of birth control but it's only for 4 months and if I get pregnant earlier then it was meant to be. Once we have #2, I'll go back on the pill long-term.

[erbear]

We have seven frozen embryos and I think we're going to try a FET in about three-four years. We both know we don't want kids super close together. FETs aren't cheap so I'm not sure how many we'd try before giving up.

Since my H is infertile I technically don't need BC but I'll go on something to regulate my periods. I plan on BFing and I hate depo and the mini pill so I'm not sure what I'll use yet.

[baytosa2013]

Meh this topic is well...meh. I always thought I'd be one and done for several reasons but right after she was born I immediately thought "I'd want one more" which threw me for a loop. DH says he's good with just one. I know financially it would be prohibitive because of daycare, especially right away. I'm trying to stay open and just let life do its thing. I know in 18 months things could totally be different. We make good money but hubby's check covers insurance so it takes too big of a chunk for us to swing me being home and I'm pretty close to him salary wise. I just hate that we may have to make a decision about kids because of finances. I'm going to talk to my dr about options but I was on the pill for SO long and I'd rather not get back on if there's a chance for a 2nd. Plus 18 months is my max wait time. I'll be 37 in Oct. and would want the 2nd here by the time I hit 40.

[sugarkissed]

Oh, am I the only one who currently thinks that I never want to have sex again?! Lol. I'm sure I'll come around, but good lord, I'm actually dreading my 6 week appointment because I know I'll be cleared to resume such activities...

We originally said that we'd be done at 2 kids but now we are unsure. Regardless, I'd like to wait until this LO is at least 2 before trying again. I've never taken the pill so I'm kind of torn on our options right now. I've thought about getting an IUD, but I'm still undecided.

[alayne926]

I am thinking an IUD. I do not trust myself to remember to take a pill with two kids. We are very unsure if we're done or want to add #3 in a couple of years. I want to talk to my dr about options when I go for my one month pp visit.

[bendherova]

We're done, so long term H is getting snipped. I hopeful this year, bc with delivery we'll reach our family OOP max. but he has interviews and conferences which will eat up his vacay.

we used condoms pretty successfully for most of our 8yrs of marriage and I may add the mini pill while I am nursing and can't temp/nfp.

[tulips114]

This is our 3rd baby and if DH were to change his mind I would totally have one more, but I don't think that's happening. So no more for us.
Not sure about permanent BC yet. We haven't talked anything permanent. We won't do anything permanent until this little guy is at least 2-3 y/o.
We will not do any BC while nursing. Well, if you consider pull & pray BC, that's what we'll be doing. When I'm done nursing and my cycle comes back I'll look into an IUD. Probably mirena.

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Jul 9, 2015 10:10:38 GMT -5 Joolschweets said:

We may be one and done for a number of reasons. (Don't get me started on A15's 'having just one is selfish' UO thread last week - I read it last night and it gave me all the feels)

I really hated the pill, well the 4 different pills I tried. It fucked with my moods, my weight and generally made me miserable for years. The last 3 years we've not used anything, but I think I may look into the IUD, would be interested to hear others experiences with it.

The having one is selfish really got me too. I read it last night and it opened up old wounds.

In our case we have two now but we were told by multiple doctors that we were only ever able to conceive through fertility treatments so we were initially one and done. DD is a complete surprise baby that happened accidentally with no fertility meds. Still shocked at how it happened considering it took us so long to conceive our first.

In regard to birth control since I'm 39, breastfeeding and do already have fertility issues I would be beyond shocked to get pregnant again!!

[megeliz1]

This is baby #2 in 15 months and we are done. I plan on an IUD and H getting a V done later this year once we are in a better head space and getting a little more sleep to really make that decision.

We had IF with DD1 and conceived with meds and 3 rounds of IUI, we werent using any BC and DD2 was a complete surprise 6 months post partum. We are not willing to take that risk again.

[billyhorrible]

Jul 9, 2015 11:51:34 GMT -5 @poppyc8 said:

Jul 9, 2015 10:10:38 GMT -5 Joolschweets said:

We may be one and done for a number of reasons. (Don't get me started on A15's 'having just one is selfish' UO thread last week - I read it last night and it gave me all the feels)

The having one is selfish really got me too. I read it last night and it opened up old wounds.

I read that and honestly, having children at all is selfish.  No one is procreating to solve world hunger or to bring forth the next messiah.  These babies don't have a choice whether they want to be born or not. We have kids because WE want kids.  There's nothing inherently more selfish about having one versus having eight. 

We're done.  DH and I were discussing how to handle birth control a couple weeks ago.  I really don't want to undergo a tubal and therefore I wouldn't ask him to have a vasectomy unless it was something he wanted to do.  He doesn't.  We only have a couple years left of fertility based on my family history and my personal history, so for the next couple years we'll go back to charting/condoms. We both are pretty confident with that since we've been having sex for 15 years with no oops babies and I'm not getting more fertile!

[mathistm]

A big decider for us will be what I land for a job as well. This time around we weren't quite expecting to get pregnant as soon as we did. My job had no paid maternity leave at all and I was contracted so FMLA didn't apply for me to have a job when I came back from maternity leave (I didn't want to so that worked out). Ideally I'd like to be somewhere with paid maternity leave and be confident in taking leave before getting pregnant again.
I must be deliriously tired because I completely didn't even think about condoms (I guess they haven't been a part of our lives for 9+ months). I suppose that would work for short term since we used them only for 5+ years with no issue.

[silv3rlining]

Just planning on condoms or spermicide for now. I got a diaphragm after I had DS but didn't love it. We aren't sure if we're done yet. Before we got married we said we'd have 2 and then adopt later on. After DS I felt like we'd have 3 total. DH wants an even# and says if we go for a 3rd we have to go for a 4th. We decided we'd wait 2 years before making a decision about when he'll get a V (if we're dine or want more). We know that neither of us want me to go on anything hormonal. We said we'd be OK if an "oops" happened.

[sunnyb]

Since our IF diagnosis is very significant MFI we will not be using birth control. We are confident that we will not get pregnant on our own. We have 3 frozen embryos and will probably wait 3-5 years before doing a FET (if we decide to try for more babies!).

[sunnyb]

Fuck that having one is selfish bullshit. I'm a very happy well adjusted only child. I am and have always been very close with my parents. We are a tight family of 3. I loved it just being us growing up.

[lunalovegood]

I am with sugarkissed and michyme123, really not feeling the whole sex thing right now. I am 6 weeks PP tomorrow, but since my doc was on vacation this week I won't go back until next week and I am not looking forward to getting cleared.

I am absolutely horrible at remembering to take the pill, so much so that DS1 and DD1 were both conceived while on the pill because I would take it late or forget. I chalk some of that up to being young and immature and not having a clue about my body too.

I got an IUD after DS3 and while the first several weeks sucked with how much bleeding I had, the next 6 years were awesome. I rarely got my period, the horrible cramping I would get was non-existent, and I did not have to remember to take a pill. I really did not have any negative issues with the IUD except for the bleeding at the beginning. I got it taken out last June so that my body could get back to normal before we really started TTC in August and I got pregnant in September. I will be getting the IUD again this time. I am 99.9% sure we are done, but there is one small part of me that thinks maybe just one more. DH thinks I am crazy for thinking that of course.

[Flick]

I'm doing paraguard. I like that it's hormone free and lasts 10 years. LO will probably be an only child but SO and I have agreed to wait three years before making any permanent decisions.

[tiffbot]

We're thinking we'll try for a third. Might wait until DD is 18 months or 2 to start trying again. Though I said that with DS and by 14 months I was pregnant again as the fever hit us both by then haha.

Just sticking with condoms in the meantime. I haven't been on hormonal birth control in yeaaaars. I just didn't like it, maybe I was on one not right for my body.

[bruunk]

I'll be getting an IUD at my 6 week. I've had both before - the copper and hormone release type. The copper one resulted in heavy periods so that's a no go. I'm going with the hormone one again - it does have hormones which I'm not a fan of but instead of going all through my body like the pill, they're localized. It also doesn't mess with me and my moods like the pill. We want more kids and will prob try in about 2 years. We got pregnant within a few months of removing the IUD so we'll just keep it in until ready (and no worries about missed pills!!)

[txngrl31]

Whoa- I can't even think about being pregnant again right now hahaha. My pp appointment is next week so I'll discuss BC methods then. I have no idea what to use!

[musicfrk2002]

I have never been on birth control. I am with some of you ladies with the not even wanting to think about sex...my tine in bed is for sleeping right now, thankyouverymuch.

I had 2 different doctors come in to my hospital room 2 or 3 days PP pushing it on me. Due to the medical issues I had, I pretty much cannot whatsoever get pregnant again for at least a year, and after that it still is not advisable to try as all my medical issues could recur. I told them we would talk in a year or two, basically the only kind I can use right now is an IUD and I am not sure if I want to deal with that. We had always talked about having 2 kids, not sure that's in the cards anymore though.

[carolyngrace]

Aw, man, I thought I would be the first one to make the abstinence joke

Like others, I thought (before baby) that I might want two kids back-to-back. Now that I have one, HELL NO, I'm waiting at least two years.

I liked the patch before, so probably that again.

[mirage86]

I definitely don't want to go on the pill again. I tried a couple different kinds, plus the ring, and they all messed with my body pretty badly. I'm hoping that pregnancy will have reset my hormones so I can go back to what was normal for me. We plan to go back to using the Billings Method (NFP). We used that for about a year before getting pregnant, and it is still a reliable method while BF.
After reading some posts on here, I'm surprised that nobody at the hospital or my clinic has ever talked about BC options. The closest it came was one of the nurses mentioning before we were discharged that we should be careful if we don't want to get pregnant again right away. I would prefer to wait a while before having a second LO. E is a really good baby but he's enough of an adjustment for now.

[Girlymama79]

We plan to ttc immediatly.