FFF/ rants/ vents.

[mrsclark731]

Jul 10, 2015 15:08:31 GMT -5 missys said:

FFFC- although I'm a teacher on break O goes to the babysitter's twice a week. He gets to hang with another little boy and watch what a one year old does and is thoroughly entertained while not losing contact with my friend who will have him 5 days a week starting in August. Plus, I have me time. I feel super guilty about this but for my mental health I need the time...

I'm jealous and want this arrangement don't feel guilty! Mental health is important and so is socialization and maintaining friendships. My neighbor has a 3 year old she sends to daycare 5 days a week for a couple hours while she hangs at home with her newborn. A lot of mom's do it!

[misshart00]

Jul 10, 2015 15:08:31 GMT -5 missys said:

FFFC- although I'm a teacher on break O goes to the babysitter's twice a week. He gets to hang with another little boy and watch what a one year old does and is thoroughly entertained while not losing contact with my friend who will have him 5 days a week starting in August. Plus, I have me time. I feel super guilty about this but for my mental health I need the time...

I'm a SAHM. Both of my kids go to Mother's Day out once a week. It's the most wonderful thing in the world. I always pretend like I'm going to get stuff done but I usually take a nap or just eat lunch in peace. And DD loves it. She's my little social butterfly.

[lilyelayne]

Thanks FlutterOfYoshis
mrsclark731 I'm sorry BF didn't work out like you wanted it to, but such a soldier for pumping like that! Hate that AF came back but glad you're taking care of yourself instead of pushing the pump!
missys aw, thanks, that's so nice. I would love to help. and don't feel guilty about LO going to the babysitter's. I bet it's great for both of you.

[GeekBeagle]

Jul 10, 2015 11:17:55 GMT -5 mrsclark731 said:

Vent--

Around 3 months old DD became very uninterested in my breast after being a rockstar breast feeder (even after a 2 day NICU stay). I tried EVERYTHING. It was so upsetting. I spent three days crying and feeling like a failure before H snapped me out of it. My mom's comments didn't help either.

I began pumping and adding what BM I could to bottles for her. This week I finally decided to stop pumping...my supply really took a hit (despite ALL my efforts) and pumping for 20+ minutes a day multiple times a day, while trying to still care for DD was not worth it for the 1-2 ounces I could get. Three days later, today, I got my period. Damn!!! At least I'm not pregnant?

I completely get this. I was doing the same long pumping sessions for not much milk. I stopped when the pedi told me to due to DS's allergy. While I still get really disappointed about it, quitting pumping did a lot for my mental health and stress. So hugs to you. You're doing what's best for your LO.

And sorry about your period. I know that sucks, too!

[emilyz320]

mrsclark731 you are awesome for trying to keep up with pumping. I tried to do it before switching to formula and it was so stressful trying to do that and care for my lo. I agree that it is not worth it if it's just not working for you. You nursed for 3mo and that rocks. I beat myself up for a while too but you need to do what's right for you and your baby. A happy mama is a happy baby.

[mrsclark731]

I must say... All of you ladies are so supportive and wonderful. I feel so much better, thank you

[AppropriateChocolate]

Rant:My mom may have blocked my FB page so she can post pics of DD after being told several times not to. I can no longer find her on FB and she used to be a mutual friend with all of my family. Guess its time for me to be private eye.

[mrsclark731]

Jul 10, 2015 19:08:15 GMT -5 AppropriateChocolate said:

Rant:My mom may have blocked my FB page so she can post pics of DD after being told several times not to. I can no longer find her on FB and she used to be a mutual friend with all of my family. Guess its time for me to be private eye.

That's crazy! I would be heated. Ask her directly why you aren't friends on FB anymore. See what she says... I would ask a mutual friend you can trust if her FB page is active first. 

[missys]

Jul 10, 2015 19:08:15 GMT -5 AppropriateChocolate said:

Rant:My mom may have blocked my FB page so she can post pics of DD after being told several times not to. I can no longer find her on FB and she used to be a mutual friend with all of my family. Guess its time for me to be private eye.

[AppropriateChocolate]

She either completely gone from FB or I'm blocked. I tried to post business marketing on her page today at 12 and it was saying there was an error loading post and now I don't see her page. Also stuff people tagged her on no longer shows her name as a clickable link. I don't know WTH is going on. I asked my cousin to look for her from her page she said she would let me know later. I pray she just deleted her page because she's having a tough time seeing her BFs (the one who passed away 2 days after DD passed) post remaining on her page or some other reason.

[AppropriateChocolate]

Update. She got rid of her page because it was hacked... She didn't inform me because she didn't want an I told you so when it came to putting DD out there. Also this info came from my cousin not her...*side eye*

[missys]

Jul 10, 2015 19:29:14 GMT -5 AppropriateChocolate said:

Update. She got rid of her page because it was hacked... She didn't inform me because she didn't want an I told you so when it came to putting DD out there. Also this info came from my cousin not her...*side eye*

I am obsessed with gifing today

[AppropriateChocolate]

Jul 10, 2015 19:35:28 GMT -5 missys said:

Jul 10, 2015 19:29:14 GMT -5 AppropriateChocolate said:

Update. She got rid of her page because it was hacked... She didn't inform me because she didn't want an I told you so when it came to putting DD out there. Also this info came from my cousin not her...*side eye*

I am obsessed with gifing today

Much appreciated

[flyster]

+ on husbands following around during *me* time. Also I swear sometimes he doesn't try to stop DS from fussing just so I'll have to hurry eating to take him back/feed him, ect.

Editing to add: Today was my day to sleep in. DH made a very week attempt to rock him to sleep MOTN and brought him to me in bed instead because he "thought he was still hungry" (he wasn't). DH slept in guest room, so when DS woke up at 7 am I just got up with him because didn't seem like a point to go get DH to take DS at that point. Its 9:30. DH is still sleeping and I've been up for 2.5 hours. I'm pretty suspicious DH planned this. 

[seamonster]

I wish we had a functional 2nd bedroom so LO could have his own room and I could feed/sleep in a bed by myself rather than on the couch or crammed next to DH in our bed. I want all the room.