Post by gnomesweetgnome on Jul 10, 2015 10:51:55 GMT -5
Tomorrow we are having a family-only celebration for B's birthday. We invited his BM awhile ago and she was planning to come. Today I texted her to confirm and set up a time to pick her up, since she has no transportation of her own.
And she said yes, she's still planning to come. And his BF wants to come, too.
Those of you who have been around awhile know that we had a lot of drama in finalizing the adoption, due to issues with his BF filing things in court. I have never met him, and DH has once, at one of the court hearings.
We decided to say yes, and I'm so anxious! I don't want any tension to disrupt the celebration, especially since our families are less understanding of him due to the stress we felt during that long period of uncertainty. I'm hoping it will be a good thing, though. And I hope that having one other person besides DH and B and I there that BM knows will make her more comfortable, since this is the first time she'll be meeting any of our family.
Ahhhh. All the good thoughts you can spare are much appreciated!
---- 39 years old, MH is 43 TTC since 2010; Dx Unexplained Infertility; possible male factor 6 IUIs, 1 IVF, 2 FETs, 1 mmc, 1 CP Started Adoption process Feb 2015, officially waiting July 2015
Ooh, that's tough. I empathize with your bajillion different feelings on this, for sure. I hope it all goes well and anxiously await an update! Happy birthday, B!
Post by mlgnumbers on Jul 10, 2015 22:01:02 GMT -5
Why does doing the right thing have to be so hard, sometimes?? I'll be sending you tons of positive thoughts tomorrow. I hope you all have a surprisingly good and comfortable time together.
This is good! It feels high stakes because all your family will be there, but just keep in mind that Bruce is only 2 and won't remember if his second birthday party was tense or even a disaster. But if you establish a good relationship now (or even a meh relationship), B will benefit from that for his whole life. Hang in there.
Post by gnomesweetgnome on Jul 11, 2015 19:05:38 GMT -5
I am happy to report that our visit was a success! BF was enthralled with B and so glad we let him come and meet him. We will hopefully meet with him more in the future, though he travels for work a lot.
---- 39 years old, MH is 43 TTC since 2010; Dx Unexplained Infertility; possible male factor 6 IUIs, 1 IVF, 2 FETs, 1 mmc, 1 CP Started Adoption process Feb 2015, officially waiting July 2015
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
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