Ma! Mom! Mum! Mommy!

[shemarie82]

What do your kids call you and your spouse?

We were playing around with mommy (for me) and mama (for B), but is that too close for a kid to know the difference?

[twotxmommies]

I will be Mommy and DW will be Momma. At least this is what we have in our heads. I am sure when LO starts talking, he may or may not go with what we think! lol

[kh826]

I am Mama/Momma and J is Mommy. Our son is only 13 months, so right now he calls us both Mama, because that is what he can say. However, we always refer to ourselves and each other by our respective chosen parenting names, and he clearly differentiates the difference. If, for example, J's mom is with us and she says to him "give this to Mommy" he will give it to J and not to me, and vice versa. So far it works for us!

[karlamo]

We had planned for me to be mom and my wife to be mama but now that R is talking at 16 months, he calls me "mom mom" and my wife "ma-mo" which we find incredibly cute.

So the best laid plans.....

[crazyaunt84]

[Stringy]

Jul 13, 2015 9:08:52 GMT -5 shemarie82 said:

What do your kids call you and your spouse?

We were playing around with mommy (for me) and mama (for B), but is that too close for a kid to know the difference?

This is what we do and M had less trouble with it than the rest of us. Its hard growing up using those interchangeably to switch to them being separate people. But she caught on probably by 18 months or so and hasn't looked back. Our parents still struggle with it sometimes and its funny when M looks so confused when they use the wrong one.

[healz413]

I think Mama/Momma and Mommy is very common and many kids know the difference and it works very well for them, especially if parents do what kh826 and her wife are doing--make sure they always refer to themselves and each other by their chosen parent names.

I'm going to be Baba and manada is going to be Mama. Our plan is to both me Rocky's moms, but I imagine that since Mama sounds like Mom, it will get shortened to that, so M will probably be Mama/Mom and I'll be Baba and whatever else the kid comes up with.

[Stringy]

I will say that giving M an "M" name has been kind of funny. She likes to label who is with her like if we are sitting for dinner or we all go somewhere. So this is often her sentences: "Mommy and M and Mama and Mommy and M and Nana and Mama!!!!"

[wittyandwaiting]

I'm all the MO-ish sounds Mom, Mommy and C, although he usually calls her by a pet name variation of her name that he's made up, gets the MA sounds so pretty much Ma and Mama. Collectively he (and most of his friends) call us The Moms (as in, "I gotta see what The Moms say and get back to you"). Most of his friends refer to us as his Ma and Mom and nobody ever seems to mix it up.

Wow. That was a long response to a short question.

tl;dr Kids figure it out.

[shemarie82]

Jul 13, 2015 10:55:26 GMT -5 wittyandwaiting said:

Collectively he (and most of his friends) call us The Moms (as in, "I gotta see what The Moms say and get back to you").

We watch The Fosters, and I love how they do that.  "Moms are going to be so mad".  I think it is cute.

[wittyandwaiting]

I've never seen The Fosters....should I watch it? Tell me about it shemarie82.

I also forgot that for texting purposes we've been shortened to M2.

[shemarie82]

Jul 13, 2015 11:09:36 GMT -5 wittyandwaiting said:

I've never seen The Fosters....should I watch it? Tell me about it shemarie82.

I also forgot that for texting purposes we've been shortened to M2.

Oh my goodness, we love it. Well, B won't admit to it, but she gets mad when I watch it without her.

It is on ABC Family. It is about the Foster family that has foster children as well. It is a same sex couple, and the father of the one biological son.  It covers some tough subjects about being a same sex family as well as interracial relationships.

[wittyandwaiting]

Wow shemarie82, I need this in my life! I hope it's easily available in Canada.

[healz413]

Jul 13, 2015 11:56:20 GMT -5 wittyandwaiting said:

Wow shemarie82, I need this in my life! I hope it's easily available in Canada.

It's now on Canadian Netflix! As of a couple months ago!

[wittyandwaiting]

Thanks healz413, I just added it to my future binge list!

[jgy]

Note to self ... watch The Fosters.

We are Mommy (me) and Mama (s). It's what we figured we'd be and while we gave G the flexibility to really decide what he wanted to call us, he fell right into it. It works well. We are really the only ones that mess it up occasionally. Our parents sometimes confuse the two, but they all live many many miles away so it's not often that they're around and it seems to have no negative affect.

[kona]

We are mommy and momma. O is 11 months are does know the difference, if you ask her to bring something to momma vs mommy. She doesn't seem confused but as others have mentioned she may well come up with her own versions of her name.

ETA: I'm a huge Fosters fan

[healz413]

Jul 13, 2015 14:27:04 GMT -5 @suesposa said:

Since I will carry and first baby will come from my eggs, we decided J will be mommie. Its kind of hard to explain typing out (thats why DW and I are soulmates, we just get each other). J is perceived as typical..stud? butch? Im old and dont understand labels anymore lol. But in short, she wears men's clothing. Because of that..or in spite of that..I want to foster an emotional connection for her as a mother as much as possible. She absolutely does not want to be called dad or any variation of it. I've never wanted to be ma, mom, or mommy. My mother is mommie and we all still call her that, so in my family "seats taken" kinda. I will be Mimi. One of my best friends calls his stepmother Mimi because she refused to be "mom" as he already had one, but she also did not want him to call her by her first name. As soon as I heard it, I loved it.

So the short answer to your question..we will be Mom/Mommie and Mimi

I think I understand what you're saying. When manada was pregnant with the twins we lost, I was planning to be Mommy because her position as a Mom figure went without question and so having a Mommy name felt important to me. But now that I'm carrying, society is more likely to question her place as a "real mom" so it works out well for her to be the only one in our family with a Mom name (Mama) and it gave me room to find a parent name that I felt was a good fit for me (Baba).

[2brides]

Love The Fosters.

We are Mom and Mommy (though often shortened to Mom as well.) Our kids are 9y and it has never been an issue.

(we were going to let them choose what they called us, but then G started calling L "Other Mom" and she did not like that at all. LOL.)

[amandflo]

DW is Mummy/Mumma and I'm Bubba. The only reason I'm Bubba is because I call my mum Bubba, otherwise I probably would have been some variation of Mum as well. The only confusion we've had is my MIL because she kept referring to me as 'other Mummy', but we got rid of that quick enough

[morveng]

I'm just Mummy to my boy, and he calls his dad Daddy, but he calls DH Ada, and DH has decided he wants our children to call him Ada too, since he actually really likes being called that and thinks it will stop confusion between our children and DS.

[mahler5]

We initially went with Mommy and Momma. We both preferred Momma but I wasn't as attached so I was Mommy. However, I would call myself momma a lot on accident so it was confusing. I would call L momma Laura to clarify and now C calls her Lala, which is pretty cute. She calls her Momma some too, especially if it's just them. It will be interesting to see if this changes.

[rosieelk]

The plan is for me to be Mutti, and for DW to be Mor. Mutti is the German for mom, Mor is the Danish.