Post by miggg on Jul 13, 2015 9:45:23 GMT -5
TL;DR My mom told my brother I'm pregnant. I hadn't planned on telling brother & SIL yet and planned to do it in-person. I'm confused and disappointed. Do I address this with my mom or let it be? Would you be upset if your parent announced for you?
Last night I got a strange text from my brother and SIL congratulating me on my pregnancy. Strange because.. I hadn't told them yet! I had planned to tell them in-person after 1st tri. It appears that my mom texted him last night and told him. I'm completely baffled and disappointed. I don't know why she would do that and I can't decide if I should talk to her about it or just let it be. As with all family conundrums, this one is complicated by several factors:
- I have a good relationship with my mom and brother
- My mom and brother's relationship is strained due to mom's conflict with SIL
- I didn't ask for details on the "announcement" from my brother & SIL as I didn't want to appear upset about it lest they have another reason to be mad at my mom
- But I think they are already upset at my mom for spilling the beans because they knew I'd want to tell them myself
- But this pregnancy isn't a huge shock or anything considering everyone knew we wanted two close in age
- My mom had surgery a few weeks ago so may have been loopy on pain pills when she told him
- It's possible it came up in conversation and she didn't realize that I hadn't told them yet (again I didn't ask for specifics so I'm not sure how it came up)
Bottom line: I don't want to cause more family drama but I'm a little disappointed and a lot confused over why she announced for me. Halp.