I'm really a feed your kid whatever you want parent, but I totally side eye soda. Ginger ale if you're sick and a root beer or sprite when you get older.
I side eye my sister for giving my niece and nephew lunchables all the damn time for dinner. This is while she makes a super nice dinner for her and her BF. My side eye is more that she won't sit down and have a freaking dinner with the kids. No its easier to give them crap that should be a treat every once in awhile and totally ignore them while you have something that they could at least try. My niece and nephew don't know how to sit at a table and have a meal. It's annoying.
Post by xanthepants on Jul 14, 2015 11:53:48 GMT -5
nope nope nope. Side-eyeing with you. I told my kid she can have a soda when she turns 21. We've started negotiating ages for things already. 10 for earrings. 7 for driving apparently (I'm working my way back from that one!).
Post by summergirl1211 on Jul 14, 2015 11:55:48 GMT -5
I've never thought to use soda as a bribe mostly because we don't have it around the house anymore. But if we did, I'd maybe give a very small amount. There's no reason for a full can. Yikes. I can't even imagine how hyper that kid was afterwards!
I was taken a back last night when my friend's husband gave his 10 month old a sip of his beer last night. I get that it was only a sip, but still why? What is the point?
Post by origamimommy on Jul 14, 2015 12:24:26 GMT -5
Ooooh noooo. No soda. We took Tyler to his first baseball game on Saturday and MIL tried to give him a drink of her soda and I was like, "Um no. He can't have that." Thanks for the tantrum I now have to deal with though.
I let Kayleigh once try a sip of my soda (I think it was ginger ale). She absolutely hated it, mostly because of the bubbles. She refuses to even try it ever again. Win
Post by aimeefarrahfowler on Jul 14, 2015 13:00:09 GMT -5
Ummmm mom of the year I let my kid drink orange soda yesterday. Spontaneous trip to a pizza place I'd never been to before as a reward for being good at VBS and his check up, and also it was rush hour and I didn't feel like driving.
Anyway, they have a kid's special of one slice and a drink. So I order that and the guy gives me a fountain soda cup. No milk or juice or anything like that. There is an option for lemonade, but it's out of order. I guess I could have gotten water from the fountain, but that's like free and I paid for a drink? Idk. I only filled it 1/4 of the way with orange soda and he really loved it.
Definitely not an every day thing, and he knew it was a special treat. Also maybe not as bad as the couple I saw once putting orange soda in a baby bottle for their kid at McDonald's right?
Ummmm mom of the year I let my kid drink orange soda yesterday. Spontaneous trip to a pizza place I'd never been to before as a reward for being good at VBS and his check up, and also it was rush hour and I didn't feel like driving.
Anyway, they have a kid's special of one slice and a drink. So I order that and the guy gives me a fountain soda cup. No milk or juice or anything like that. There is an option for lemonade, but it's out of order. I guess I could have gotten water from the fountain, but that's like free and I paid for a drink? Idk. I only filled it 1/4 of the way with orange soda and he really loved it.
Definitely not an every day thing, and he knew it was a special treat. Also maybe not as bad as the couple I saw once putting orange soda in a baby bottle for their kid at McDonald's right?
aimeefarrahfowler, One of the most important things I've learned since I became a mom is to never say never. I have eaten my words so many times already, and Riley isn't even 3 yet. I'm sure A is just fine.
I don't know. I wouldn't give DD pop. We don't keep it in the house anyway, so it's not a big issue. In a few years from now, I'd be okay with her having pop at a party or maybe ordering one at a restaurant as a treat.
However, I have given her other treats like ice cream, chips or chocolate before - so I can't judge. If it's being used as a special treat and not given to the kid daily, is it so bad?
Post by xanthepants on Jul 14, 2015 13:21:06 GMT -5
I addicted to diet soda. It's the one bad habit I don't want Coco to get of mine. That is why I'm so vehemently against it for her. I'm pretty sure she is lucky she didn't come out with 2 heads due to the vast quantity of diet coke I consumed all my life. The first thing I did when I weaned her was grab a giant ass Diet soda ahhhhhhhhssssspartame.
Bad mom here aimeefarrahfowler. That's when Hanna gets soda too, at buffets where it comes with the meal. I fill it up with 3/4 of water and then soda, but she does get it. It's usually root beer. And I know both my kids had a shit ton of it when I was pregnant/bf because I have never given it up. I also know my parents suck and sometimes give them drinks of their soda. But they both still drink a lot of water and milk it's not just soda. It's a treat type of thing and again it's not full soda but more water. They are not getting a full can and will not. Heck V doesn't even get full cans except at the buffets or out to eat.
ETA: I would never think to bribe with a full can of soda. It's more ice cream or candy treats that she wants.
I don't know. I wouldn't give DD pop. We don't keep it in the house anyway, so it's not a big issue. In a few years from now, I'd be okay with her maybe ordering a sprite or something at a restaurant as a treat.
However, I have given her other treats like ice cream, chips or chocolate before - so I can't judge. If it's being used as a special treat and not given to the kid daily, is it so bad?
Treats like this feel different to me than soda. Some, like cookies or brownies, can also be a bonding activity to do together. And even store bought treats like ice cream have way less sugar in them than soda. Not saying that are healthy, but in terms of "real food" you can find things like ice cream, chips, chocolate, cookies, etc. where all the ingredients are actual food. Soda is just sugar, flavoring, and preservatives. It's total empty calories vs. just unhealthy calories. A can of Sprite has 38g of sugar, but a serving of ice cream averages 12-18g.
Also, with all the other treat options out there, why go with soda?
ETA: I still enjoy diet soda, but I do try to limit it. I just feel like you can find high quality desserts/snacks but there's no such thing as high quality soda.
I let Kayleigh once try a sip of my soda (I think it was ginger ale). She absolutely hated it, mostly because of the bubbles. She refuses to even try it ever again. Win
But it's still a treat. You're definition of a treat and my treat may be completely different. I could care less about ice cream or chocolate, but give me a salty chip then I'm game. Some might think a treat is a steak dinner. I don't know, I do judge the photo slightly if they gave the whole can and I'm definitely against it frequently, but I'm not against treats for the kids. And they do get treats of soda when we are eating out like I said, but it's not even really soda in it's full form since I'm watering it down. Everything in moderation has always been my Motto.
I don't know. I wouldn't give DD pop. We don't keep it in the house anyway, so it's not a big issue. In a few years from now, I'd be okay with her maybe ordering a sprite or something at a restaurant as a treat.
However, I have given her other treats like ice cream, chips or chocolate before - so I can't judge. If it's being used as a special treat and not given to the kid daily, is it so bad?
Treats like this feel different to me than soda. Some, like cookies or brownies, can also be a bonding activity to do together. And even store bought treats like ice cream have way less sugar in them than soda. Not saying that are healthy, but in terms of "real food" you can find things like ice cream, chips, chocolate, cookies, etc. where all the ingredients are actual food. Soda is just sugar, flavoring, and preservatives. It's total empty calories vs. just unhealthy calories. A can of Sprite has 38g of sugar, but a serving of ice cream averages 12-18g.
Also, with all the other treat options out there, why go with soda?
ETA: I still enjoy diet soda, but I do try to limit it. I just feel like you can find high quality desserts/snacks but there's no such thing as high quality soda.
I let Kayleigh once try a sip of my soda (I think it was ginger ale). She absolutely hated it, mostly because of the bubbles. She refuses to even try it ever again. Win
This happened with Robin too!
I'm not trying to be a turd, but isn't sugar still sugar no matter what the form? And a cookie or brownie are really just empty calories as well and not "real food"
Like I said I'm definitely not the Mom that's portrayed in this photo (and who knows if the kid only got 1-2 drinks from a photo not the whole can) and giving full cans of soda.
Post by aylafsu1881 on Jul 14, 2015 14:11:40 GMT -5
lainikins, I am totally WTF over that one. Why give a 10 month old a sip of beer?
I side eye soda for young kids 1-4 but as they get older it is not as big of a side eye for me. As long as they drink it in moderation and it is considered a treat, not a replacement for water.
P has sips of my soda but whatever. He has never hadmore than a couple sips and it's usually diet. I'm killing him slowly with sunscreen anyway so a little soda won't hurt.
I side eye the parents at legoland who let their 13-15 yr olds play in the playground. It says max height is 4'9". They were bullying everyone. Patrick came out and just wanted to leave.
Bad mom- my kid has cookies like every day. Side eye this bitch I guess.
Yeah, mine too. We also bribe her with marshmallows if she stays dry all day or if she eats her dinner.
Hanna wants marshmallows too. I bribe her in the morning if needed so I don't end up late to work. I get myself and both kiddos ready and off to DC so if she's being a turd then I'll bribe her with them.
Bad mom- my kid has cookies like every day. Side eye this bitch I guess.
Same here. Henry doesn't get soda but we (my H and I) don't drink it so we never have any in the house. He has had a sip of sparkling cider and ginger ale at my parents and he thinks it is "spicy" so there's that...weirdo...
But we bribe Henry all the time, and it is the sweets that work (but not with PTing obviously). The kid is motivated more by a cookie then the promise of a toy.
Post by mommymadness on Jul 14, 2015 15:02:04 GMT -5
Benjamin gets a lot of sugar, I feel like, but never pop! My sil's friend was giving her one year old pop just the other day! I couldn't believe it!! I kind of feel like there are way bigger side eyes though.
Bad mom- my kid has cookies like every day. Side eye this bitch I guess.
Same here. Henry doesn't get soda but we (my H and I) don't drink it so we never have any in the house. He has had a sip of sparkling cider and ginger ale at my parents and he thinks it is "spicy" so there's that...weirdo...
But we bribe Henry all the time, and it is the sweets that work (but not with PTing obviously). The kid is moved more by a cookie then the promise of a toy.
Ditto. The only way we can get Riley to eat her vegetables (and by vegetables I mean corn and peas because everything else is quickly given to the dog) is to bribe her with an Oreo or some jelly beans. Whatevs.
Post by origamimommy on Jul 14, 2015 15:21:38 GMT -5
Oh we bribe all the time. I would not judge someone for sharing a few sips of soda with their kid at this age. Soda in a bottle? Yes. But Tyler's best friend's parents give her soda all the time. With Tyler it's donuts. Are donuts better than soda? Probably not, but they feel better to me. So there's that.
I feel like at this stage, we should all be like, LET YOUR FREAK FLAG FLY, YO! My comment was more that my MIL tried giving it to him without asking me, and I don't give him soda. H drinks 3-5 Mtn dews a day, and I grew up with nothing in the house but soda. So I try to make him drink other things. Geeze guise can I just have this one thing!!?!? Gahhh
Post by jodielyn10 on Jul 14, 2015 15:35:45 GMT -5
So my kids have never tried soda, but like others: we don't keep it in the house. To me, there's a difference in soda - which is basically just sugar and chemicals added to water - and desserts. But my kids also don't get sweets every day either because, again, we don't keep them in the house. Whenever my kids have something sweet, we always specify that it's a "special treat" and not something we have every day.
I'm probably a little further down the spectrum as far as limiting sugar/processed food. We actually don't keep "snack food" (processed crackers/cookies/chips/gummies/etc) in the house except organic animal crackers, and those they probably get a handful of a week max. Both my husband and I are pre-disposed to be overweight and have to work hard to stay fit and healthy. We want to instill a whole food/healthy lifestyle in them as much as we can.
ETA: I don't judge others for feeding their children differently, this is just how we live our lives.
So I may have mentioned this in a FFFC, but I DO judge a mom I know, but for the opposite reason: organic everything, and you CANNOT have your kid eat anything NOT organic in front of her kid. She doesn't want her kid to want your unhealthy food.
So like, my non-organic apple or non-organic granola is not an ok snack in front of her kid. Eff me if my kid has low-sugar gummi snacks. Even their pet bunny eats organic lettuce.
Its like, the opposite of side-eyeing someone for junk food: you're now pushing your healthy stuff on ME, haha!
Also: its becoming hard to regular sugar, because its in EVERYTHING, even sliced bread. We have a childhood obesity problem in this country, and sugar is a big part of it. Even seemingly healthy choices (kid yogurt, salad with dressing, etc) is loaded with sugar.
Downing a soda a day at 5 or 6 yrs old would make me cringe and judge. Thats NOT to say a treat is not ok--it is!-- or even that thats what going on in the OP's photo. Its the lifestyle that becomes the issue. I admit that I do tend to judge that. My cousin was very overweight at 6 yrs old, but she was eating a box of mac & cheese for after school snacks. An entire box. She's still very overweight, btw.
I saw this as I gaze longingly at the pantry with the unopened bag of Doritos inside...
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