Lifestyle Changes
Jul 17, 2015 11:32:09 GMT -5
Post by akraus2015 on Jul 17, 2015 11:32:09 GMT -5
Okay friends, I need someone to tell me if I'm being crazy or not.
Obviously, being pregnant means some lifestyle changes for mommy-to-be. I had a rough start, with lots of nausea and fatigue, and some scary hemorrhages that required me to be on modified bed rest for 3 weeks. Besides those things, there have been other small lifestyle changes. I'm not drinking anymore, I can't stay out as late on the weekends (can't stay awake!!), I'm not longer riding on the back of H's motorcycle, etc.
So my question is...even though H isn't the one carrying the baby for 9 months, should his lifestyle change, too? We both know that when baby comes we're in for some major life changes, but it seems like right now, he's still chugging right along with his normal life. He's out on his bike every weekend doing long rides, he's going to summer parties and BBQ's (most of the time without me because I've been so sick), he's still staying out late on the weekends, etc.
I'm feeling super irked, unsupported, and left out. I feel like I'm stuck at home all the time being sick and tired, and he's leaving me by myself all the time. I've tried to communicate that some life changes need to happen, but he doesn't seem to understand. We've always been very independent people, and right now there are no physical ailments keeping him from his normal life, so he doesn't see a need for anything to change right now.
Do I let him have his freedom right now while he can, and suck it up because this is part of being pregnant, or is there a serious conversation in my future?? Is it terrible of me to ask him to sit at home and be miserable with me just so I don't have to do it alone??
Obviously, being pregnant means some lifestyle changes for mommy-to-be. I had a rough start, with lots of nausea and fatigue, and some scary hemorrhages that required me to be on modified bed rest for 3 weeks. Besides those things, there have been other small lifestyle changes. I'm not drinking anymore, I can't stay out as late on the weekends (can't stay awake!!), I'm not longer riding on the back of H's motorcycle, etc.
So my question is...even though H isn't the one carrying the baby for 9 months, should his lifestyle change, too? We both know that when baby comes we're in for some major life changes, but it seems like right now, he's still chugging right along with his normal life. He's out on his bike every weekend doing long rides, he's going to summer parties and BBQ's (most of the time without me because I've been so sick), he's still staying out late on the weekends, etc.
I'm feeling super irked, unsupported, and left out. I feel like I'm stuck at home all the time being sick and tired, and he's leaving me by myself all the time. I've tried to communicate that some life changes need to happen, but he doesn't seem to understand. We've always been very independent people, and right now there are no physical ailments keeping him from his normal life, so he doesn't see a need for anything to change right now.
Do I let him have his freedom right now while he can, and suck it up because this is part of being pregnant, or is there a serious conversation in my future?? Is it terrible of me to ask him to sit at home and be miserable with me just so I don't have to do it alone??